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InCharmsWay
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 Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 7:52 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| My fiancee and I got engaged in June of last year.We are getting married in August of this year. 'm very frustrated with my younger sister because she just got engaged and is planning a wedding 2 months after mine.Not that I'm not happy for her but with my extended family it's going to be hard for them to attend just my wedding let alone 2 in the same family.Many are coming from out of town and some out of state.Since my extended family does not have alot of money I'm afraid they won't come to both or they'll say one is more conveinant than the other, which is not fair to either party.My sister is rushing her wedding because she is afraid of not remaining sexually impure before she says I do.I'm frustrated because my parents have told her that they cannot pay for anything for her because they already promised to pay for mine this year And with my sister(who is favored among my parents)I'm afraid they say we're going to split it down the middle and that will put my fiancee and I in debt |
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infinasura
Joined: 25 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 8:14 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| Ok, first of all, be thankful that she planned her wedding AFTER yours instead of BEFORE. I think the real issue here is that you don't want any of the focus taken away from you. She planned it for two months after yours, which is very reasonable. If she'd planned it for a week before or after, then you'd have reason to complain. |
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Ingececycle
Joined: 13 Nov 2007
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Location: MA
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 8:36 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| You are not wrong. Your sister is selfish! |
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Indigo2114
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 8:57 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| what does it matter?, you're all gonna end up in divorce, anyways... speaking of... would you be upset if she planned her divorce 2 months after yours? |
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INFAMOUS420
Joined: 15 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 9:19 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| ok? u sound real selfish. who cares? |
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InfernalMoose
Joined: 14 May 2007
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Location: Uzbekistan
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 9:41 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| awwww...wah wahhhh...get over it and just have your wedding...yours is gunna be first, be thnkful for that...at least she didnt make it b4 yours...at least she is worried about her morality!...you suck! |
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Inferno13
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 10:02 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| I'm really, really sorry to say this, but I think you're being selfish.If it were my children, I'd do just what your parents might do, and that is split the cost down the middle. You know what it's like to be in love and start your life with someone, right? She feels the same way. If this is "going to put you and your fiance in debt", then perhaps you should settle for a smaller ceremony. You're STILL going to be married, and that's the ultimate goal, right? My first marriage was a conservative little wedding in the church. It ended. My second marriage was at the Justice of Peace, and I would have married him in a drive-thru wedding if that would have been what we had to do, because I loved him, and I just needed him, not the big "show" of a wedding. Try to compromise a little here. Life is not all about YOU! (sorry...I know that sounds harsh) |
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InfernalMoose
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 10:24 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| I've been in your shoes, except it was my husband's brother who was getting married. His fiancee was/still is a b!tch. We wanted to get married and just didn't want to wait. Since they had already set their date for fall, we chose summer (we married outside). We specified that the brother's wedding should come first since they were the first to get engaged. If family members wanted to come to their wedding, they'd miss out on ours. It was their choice. It did not matter to use who came, it mattered that we were married in the fashion we wanted to be...we wanted a summer morning wedding outside. |
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InfawayInpunk
Joined: 30 Jan 2008
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Location: Brazil
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 10:46 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| It's not about the wedding, the sister, or the parents.. it's about if you feel that this is the man who you want to spend the rest of your life with... let all the other stuff go and quit focusing on the wedding.. instead focus on the marriage. |
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Indigo2114
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 11:07 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| I think you should have your wedding and don't feel bad about it, your sister should have more control. |
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inepeTibeJimi
Joined: 05 Sep 2007
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 11:29 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| i would put it off or tell ur sister that this is not right if u had yours planned like that and she did that i would put it off but ur sister seems kinds like a b**** no offense for doing that she does but i would out it off good luck with ur decision |
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InfawayInpunk
Joined: 30 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 11:51 am Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| I would be really hacked off. All your family and mutual friends will be comparing the weddings as they are so cloase together, not to mention the cost of it all for everyone. One wedding present is enough amongst all the birthdays, mothers days etc, but two weddings so close is going to be expensive on the family.I would be annoyed, but what can you do? If you voice your opinions you will be seen in bad light. I would postpone my wedding if i was you till next year, and if your sister asks why tell her! People are soooo inconsiderate of others........ |
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Indigo2114
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 12:12 pm Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| Ugh, I had this problem, only compounded because I planned my wedding at a beach house my sister owns, only for my other sister to pop up and decide to have her wedding at the same beach house three months before mine. I was devastated and totally upset. It was like she took over our plans. We just went ahead as planned because we couldn't afford to have it somewhere else (especially since the sister who owns the house was paying for a full catered dinner as our gift)... but it DID affect attendance. Several family members that went to my sister's wedding didn't go to mine. Had I known out of our guest list of 100, only 25 would show up, I would've moved the wedding to be local so more of my friends could've gone and had it later after we saved some cash. |
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infurrigh
Joined: 01 Oct 2007
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Location: Egypt
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 12:34 pm Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| There are many issues here. First, be happy for your sister. Second, what would happen if your parents didn't pay for yours? My wife and I paid 100% of our wedding stuff and we were 23 year old college students with no money, and we still pulled it off. Third, If your family can't come, they can't come. It is not like you will never see them again. Fourth, even though I said to be happy for her, she shouldn't be rushing everything just to stay a virgin. She's gonna marry him anyway, they should have sex and get it over with. Fifth, you WILL have time for everything, the only reason you wouldn't is if you don't really want to make the time.Finally, good luck. |
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Inferno13
Joined: 31 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 12:56 pm Post subject: Am I wrong not to want to get married with my sister getting |
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| You are selfish. Have it together to cut down on the costs. Have one huge wedding. |
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