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MaryR
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 Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 4:29 am Post subject: Am I wrong?? |
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| My husband and I have been married for over a year, we have a baby 2together. I was living in Canada then I decided to move down in '06, back then we were the best of friends & really close. We talked about moving in a year or so and I want to have my greencard first so I can work, I've told him this, it is a very expensive. All the changes we both went through being married we've grown apart and aren't as close as we once were. Sunday he told me him and his brother are going to go to ATL in a couple weeks to apply for jobs. He wants to move for more job opportunity. He was making all these plans knowing the way I feel and not talking to me about bc he says I'm negative about moving. I feel like I'm the one he should planning with or at least making sure we're on the same page b4 making decisions. I also don't want to move until relationship is strong bc I just forsee even more problems between us with the stress of a move. He hasn't talked to me in days just said he not gonna go. |
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NDfan7958
Joined: 15 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 7:34 am Post subject: Am I wrong?? |
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| sounds like he is planning on making more money for you and the baby. thank him for the offer to move but insist you guys stay together as a family and you can work it out. |
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bina64davis5098
Joined: 15 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 10:39 am Post subject: Am I wrong?? |
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| Why did you get married? I mean, it sounds like you didn't know each other very well when you got married and you were both trying to work on that. This is a tough one because it just doesn't sound right, but I can't give you proper advice without knowing more of the story. But yes, it sounds very strange to me that he would want to move somewhere with someone else and not discuss it with you or take you with him. |
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LelaA0158
Joined: 15 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 1:44 pm Post subject: Am I wrong?? |
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| I hope the two of you are able to sit down and discuss all of th pending issues and work things out |
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cowgirlclub0887
Joined: 15 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 4:49 pm Post subject: Am I wrong?? |
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| maybe he was looking for support from you and trying to make things better. maybe he thought that moving some place where there is a lot of opportunity to do things and whatnot will bring you closer and have a stronger relationship. |
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pictureshygirl
Joined: 15 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 7:54 pm Post subject: Am I wrong?? |
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| Sounds as if you both are on different wave links as far as the relationship is concerned, you on a standstill because of problems and him trying to solve the problems with a better opportunity for making more money. I would say his plan sounds like a positive step, yours sounds like a negative one. Move and let him try to provide for you and his child or he will feel resentment, which sounds as if he already does. |
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inheng07jayvee
Joined: 15 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 11:00 pm Post subject: Am I wrong?? |
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| well, why don't you tell him that?tell him you're worrying that your current relationship is not so stable and you feel that you need to focus more on that to avoid future conflicts. you guys just need to talk and hear both your points.you can work it out guys! |
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Kier22_27115
Joined: 16 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 2:05 am Post subject: Am I wrong?? |
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| Ask for a sit down. Explain to him how you have been feeling & let him know how much you Love him & want this to work out. You need to make sure he understands why you are opposed to moving, but most of all that you support him. Men need to feel that they are able to support their family & sometimes we as Women undercut that & it does create problems. Talk to him. I am sure you tqo can work it out. Good Luck! |
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