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gryphon19111260
Joined: 20 Jan 2008
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 Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 8:58 pm Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| My fiance and I are arguing over this. I have four brothers and he has two. That equals six. Then I have a guy cousin whom I was raised with. Though I come from a big family, everyone knows he is my fav and he's also my daughters godfather. His sister is the only cousin (out of the females in my family) that is not coming out in the wedding. I feel awful. I would really like to add one more groomsmen and Bridesmaid. It's not going to cost us anything but my fiance thinks the wedding party is huge and already looks ridiculous. His mother and father side with him on this and all agree I am being unreasonable. My mom thinks the wedding party wouldn't be complete without these two cousins. I feel the same. I should mention they are both invited to the wedding. WHAT TO DO?!!!I'm also having a flowergirl and a ringbearer. |
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Gromeron
Joined: 12 May 2007
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| Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 9:26 pm Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| Will the ceremony location be able to accomodate that many people standing on either side of you? Most people on here are just going to give you the phrase "It's your wedding do what you want to!", but since you are asking if it will look funny to have that many people standing up there, then yes it will. 21 people standing up there is going to be croweded. Since they are all family though there is not really a way you can pick and chose through them. It will cost you something though because in good taste you should buy them a gift for standing up. I would talk to everyone about it and see if there are any siblings that would prefer to not stand up. If everyone really wants to then people will know they are your family, it's not like you are just picking random people off the street. |
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gryphon19112506
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 9:54 pm Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| make t hem ushers. |
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GroulpPoupe
Joined: 01 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 10:22 pm Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| It's more than the normal but that doesn't mean you have to be like everyone else. If they all mean a lot to you guys, you can include all of them. However, remember, the more ppl, the more limos. lol Congrats and have fun! |
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Gromeron
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| Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 10:49 pm Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| I don't think adding two more people to your wedding party is that bad. Try discussing the importance toyour future husband and try to come up with some sort of compromise if he is dead set against it. Maybe this cousin can be an usher???Hope it all works out for you |
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Groom2Be0827
Joined: 28 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 11:17 pm Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| Shot, you want 20 groomsmen, go for it! It's not too much! You should talk to your fiance that to you family is very important! And if it's not costing you any extra..... you should start there! |
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gryphon19111325
Joined: 11 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 11:45 pm Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| I had five girls and five guys for mine. It didn't seem like too much at all, I don't think four more people is going to make that much of a difference. I've seen weddings where the wedding parties were much much bigger and it didn't look bad at all.Your fiancee and his parents need to realize that each and everyone in the party is important to you and you want to honor them with a position in the bridal party. 14 really isn't that many in my opinion and it can be done very tastefully in every aspect (walking down the aisle, seating arrangements, pictures), it shouldn't be a problem. |
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groupviagra
Joined: 02 Aug 2007
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 12:12 am Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| As a wedding photographer I have seen all sizes of wedding parties. I can assure you that there is not set number. The question to ask yourself though is do you have to have all your brothers stand up? Just because they are your brothers does not mean they HAVE to stand up. The same goes for him. You usually base the number of attendees by the number of guests. The ration is generally 1 groomsman to every 25-30 guests. This way they are able to seat them without being swamped or standing around.Maybe have some that you don't have standup do a reading or create a special post for them or function. This way they are still involved in your special day. |
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gryphon19115926
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 12:40 am Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| It's common if you have a huge wedding as a whole. If you have a really small wedding, then it'll look odd. When there are too many people, it kind of stops being special for some of those included in the party. I know some couples who pick every single one of their friends, cousins, and siblings because they feel obligated. Then some couples really do just have tons of very close friends and relatives. Basically you can do whatever you want. |
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GroupPRN
Joined: 16 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 1:08 am Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| i have a HUGE bridal party. Once we started making lists with his sisters, my cousins, friends it became best man, 8 groomsmen, my MOH, 7 bridesmaids, 2 jr. bridesmaids, and 2 flowergirls!!!! But it is what it is... and it will be great! we didnt want to leave anyone out!!! and its allworking out fine..... so goodluck!!!! |
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gryphon19111325
Joined: 11 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 1:35 am Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| 7 is Gods number of completion, 7 is the perfect number, besides doesn't he want to please his wife or is it temper tantrum time because he can't get his way? If it's not going to cost anything whats the hang up? Later in life he'll wish he allowed them to come and THIS IS YOUR WEDDING, NOT HIS PARENTS, THIS IS YOUR SPECIAL DAY, NOT THEIRS, maybe you should play the game the same way he is...."Ok, the wedding is off until we can get this settled....and NO parents from either side..." Everybody that has been invited to the wedding should be allowed to comeThose are my thoughts about it |
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GroupPRN
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 2:03 am Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| Big family= Big wedding... thats all there is to it. |
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Groom2Be0827
Joined: 28 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 2:31 am Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| my sister is haveing the same amount of people in her wedding. we come from a big family and circle of friends and they wanted all of them to share in the day.. she has 2 flowergirls and one ringbear.flowergirls are her daughter and mine... i cant wait. |
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gryphon19114905
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 2:58 am Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| Things do tend to go overboard!5 of each is more than enough, butif you don't want to leave anyone OUTthen have 7 of each! |
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gryphon19111325
Joined: 11 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 3:26 am Post subject: Are 7 groomsmen and Bridesmaids too many??? |
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| with a flower girl and a ring bearer too, it's going to look like you are either in high school or at a circus. |
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