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Gromeron
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 Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 8:58 am Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| So i am having a small wedding in July and my aunt wants to throw me a bridal shower in June, my Maid of honor is also talking about throwing me a bachlorette party. Who am i supposed to invite? Since im trying to keep my wedding small and simple im not inviting alot of friends. I also had the idea to simply invite more people to join us later on at the reception. Since the max cap at our venue is only 90 people i don't want it to overflow with guests. I just don't want to offend anyone by inviting them to the parties and then not to the wedding.Actually Kate i really would have the final say as to who is invited and isn't invited seeing as it is a shower for ME. I wouldn't want people there that don't need to be there. And i may not be footing the bill for the party but so far i've footed the bill for my entire wedding myself and i am very proud of that.Ok i didn't say anything about people joining after the meal. I was saying after the wedding ceremony. Which i know i am not the only person who has ever done this?! Have a small wedding and a big reception? Only inviting a few people to the actual wedding ceremony and inviting more people to celebrate with us after the ceremony. |
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GrthHtery
Joined: 07 Oct 2007
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 9:50 am Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| You only invite the girls to the bridal shower that you are inviting to your wedding. You invite friends and some family to the bachelorette party. You don't want to be acting all crazy in front of your grandma or mom or aunts!! |
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gryphon1911
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 10:41 am Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| just the women you are CLOSE To sisters sister in laws mother mother in laws, aunts,grandmothers.very close girlfriends, for the bridal shower.and for bachlorette party (if its what I'm thinking) lol ;)just sisters sister in laws and close girl friends. (maybe inappropriate of mother or grandmother.) |
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Groom2Be0306
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 11:33 am Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| you could probably get away with inviting more people to both the parties before the wedding even if your not iving a lot of people to the wedding. im sure your guests at both parties would understand that you just to keep things simple for the wedding. and b/c they are two totally different parties, try inviting different people to each party. |
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Groom2Be0827
Joined: 28 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 12:24 pm Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| Invite family and close friends to the bridal showers and you can invite who ever you want to the bachlorette party. I don't think you would offended anyone for not inviting them to the parties. I would be more offended if I got an invitation to come to the reception later on into the evening. |
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Groom2Be0306
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 1:15 pm Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| That is right...DON'T invite people to your shower that you're not inviting to your wedding. That gives people the impression that you think enough of them to beg gifts off of them, (that's what a shower *is*, a party to "shower" the bride with gifts) but not enough to invite them to the wedding.As for the bachelorette party, I'd try to keep it to people that are in the bridal party, and only the closest girlfriends.Having a very small ceremony with only immediate family and friends, and then a big reception with a lot of people afterwords is OK. It's not uncommon at all to do that. |
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gryphon19114905
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 2:07 pm Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| the people throwing the events decide how many people to invite since they are paying for it it up to them. but make sure you give them a list of all the females in your wedding so that they know not to invite people not being invited to the wedding. |
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gryphon19111260
Joined: 20 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 2:58 pm Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| You don't invite people to join you later on at the reception. It is tacky. People will know they are b-listed and it will seem like you are fishing for a gift without being willing to pay for their dinner.The bride often suggests who to invite, but she does not have final say as she isn't footing the bill. Normally wedding invitations go out about 8 weeks before the wedding, showers are 12-6 weeks before and bachelorette parties are 0-3 weeks before the wedding. Your wedding invite list should be finalized before you have to deal with the other guest lists.Who should be invited to the shower-Your close female family membersHis close female family membersAny close female friend of the bride, groom, or mothers who will 100% be invited to the wedding.Who you should invite to the bachelorette:Friends close to you in age who are invited to the wedding |
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Groom2Be0306
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 3:50 pm Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| The person who gives the shower invites the guests. As an "auntie", I've had showers for nieces and have invited many of my own friends and neighbours who know the nieces well but are not family or close enough to be wedding guests.These are peoplewho were so happy when they heard the girls were getting married and actually THEY said "Ooh, wh don't we get together and have a little shower for her". Your aunt could ask you for names of close friendsto invite but, truly, if she doesn't have a clue who to invite, she should not be hosting a shower, your MOH should be doing that. For my own wedding, all the people at the bank where I worked threw a coffe party/shower with all staff invited to stay after work one day, ordered a cake, etc. and maybe ony 2 were invited to wedding but at least 23 people stayed for the office shower, gave sweet gifts (some surprisingly generous!!) Neighbours of my mom also gave me a shower, none of them wedding guests, and family members of my fiance had a huge shower. My MOH hosted a "Trousseau champagne brunch" at my mom's home because she has a tiny apartment. Bridesmaids and really close girlfriends who were wedding guests attended and all brought either gift cards to lingerie stores (In Canada, La Senza - counterpart to Victoria's Secret ) or bath oils, etc. At that party, many needed rides home as we truly enjoyed too much wine/champagne and it was probably a "bachelorette party" in the fun we all had - women aged 19 to 70 attending, all wild and crazy) In our family, male strippers, girls getting drunk out in public, etc. is seen as showing immaturity and lack of true respect for the bride or groom. I am so glad because there was no embarrassment to cringe about later, even with the spicy games!! The number of showers you have and the number of guests is a direct reflection of how well-liked you are - not if people are invited to a wedding or not. I'm thinking that when a couple really know each other's families and friends, no guest list or input is needed from the bride so even surprise showers turn out fantastically well. |
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Groom2Be0306
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 4:41 pm Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| Your Aunt decide the guest list for the shower and your MOH decides the guest list for the bachelorette. Make sure your friends know that you are planning basically a family only wedding because you can only have 60 people. You never want to have the maximum number of people that a room will hold because it will feel crowded. |
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gryphon19111325
Joined: 11 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 5:33 pm Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| The shower guest list and bachelorette party list should be compiled from the main wedding guest list. You only want to invite the ladies closest to you, but if they are invited to the shower or bachelorette, then they must be invited to the wedding. |
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gryphon19114905
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 6:24 pm Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| Sorry, but Kate is correct. You are the guest of honor yes, but that only makes you a very special guest, not the host. It is the host who is control of the guest list, although there is nothing incorrect about voicing your concerns to that host. There is nothing incorrect about inviting people to a shower, engagement party, hen party, or other festivity who are not also invited to the wedding. If they feel like they are being taken advantage of, they are free to decline the invitation. Not sure where Miss Manners stands on the rehearsal dinner, but I don't think I'd have people there who aren't going to be at the wedding. Please don't invite people to join the reception after the meal. I know that this is accepted in some countries, but the USA isn't one of them. Americans would feel like you inviting to come and scrounge what is leftover by those who "really count" with you, and be insulted. |
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gryphon19116358
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 7:15 pm Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| The bride always makes the guest list, just to agree with your added details.Invite the girls you want their. Family at the shower, friends at the bachelorette party. I wouldn't invite too many people who aren't invited to the actual wedding but feel free to if you want. Their no rules, just suggestions.Modern Wedding Advicehttp://navillus99.blogspot.com |
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gryphon19111260
Joined: 20 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 8:07 pm Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| only those invited to wedding |
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Groom2Be0827
Joined: 28 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 8:58 pm Post subject: Bridal Showers & Bachlorette Parties??? |
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| In my opinon showers are more for family and bachelorette parties are more for friends. Those invited to my shower were all invited to the wedding; however, for my bachelorette party I invited all of my girlfriends even if they weren't invited to the wedding. Our wedding guestlist is only 60 people, so my girls understand if they can't be invited to the wedding.Basically, invite who you want. |
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