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nyhkol
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Location: USA
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 Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 11:01 pm Post subject: Do i need to invite my personal attendant to the (wedding)re |
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| I really don't want too,but i don't want to seem cheap(cuz we are tring to cut back on expenses).The place we are going is already $10/per person. What is a good gift for her?she's my cousin. Is giving her a spa basket a good idea? or any other suggustions... |
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obetlesmots
Joined: 15 Aug 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 11:59 pm Post subject: Do i need to invite my personal attendant to the (wedding)re |
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| yes, you should invite all people who are helping out at the wedding. it's kind of tacky not to do so. and, yes, a spa basket is a good gift. |
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objedeWen
Joined: 01 Nov 2007
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Location: New Zealand
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| Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 12:56 am Post subject: Do i need to invite my personal attendant to the (wedding)re |
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| I would... I know it's an extra $10 to $20, but it would be nice for you to do so and your cousin will feel honored. A spa basket is a great idea. You even might want to throw in a wine glass (could get them for $1), a wine cooler (some go for $5 at supermarkers) and some candles to accent the basket. |
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obetlesmots
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| Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 1:54 am Post subject: Do i need to invite my personal attendant to the (wedding)re |
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| By the time you buy the basket, buy the stuffing for it, put stuff in it and wrap it nicely i bet it will come to more than $10. Invite her to the dinner.. |
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objedeWen
Joined: 01 Nov 2007
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Location: New Zealand
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| Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 2:51 am Post subject: Do i need to invite my personal attendant to the (wedding)re |
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| Generally the rehearsal dinner is for all members of the wedding party, so it would be quite rude to exclude her from the dinner. I understand wanting to save money, but she has gone to a great deal of trouble by being your bridesmaid for this wedding. She's probably had to buy a dress (that she may or may not be able to wear again), she's had to help throw you a shower, she's had to buy you gifts for both the shower and the wedding--and that's at the bare minimum. The least you can do is feed her dinner after she's spent her time going to a wedding rehearsal. $10 really isn't that much when you're looking at all the rest of the expenses. I can totally appreciate saving money--cut someone else from the rehearsal dinner guest list, not a member of the wedding party. Especially if you're spending $420 on a limo for the wedding.....Yes, for her gift a spa basket is a great idea. You could also get her a piece of jewelry to wear for the wedding. Good luck! |
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objedeWen
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| Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 3:49 am Post subject: Do i need to invite my personal attendant to the (wedding)re |
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| Yes, the rehearsal dinner is for you & the groom to advise everyone (in the wedding not your whole family) of their role & what you need them to do on the day.You don't need to give her a gift for the dinner. |
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objeboowics
Joined: 18 Oct 2007
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Location: Taiwan
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| Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 4:47 am Post subject: Do i need to invite my personal attendant to the (wedding)re |
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| i cant imagine her not being invited. if you pulled that on me to save 10.00, Id forget your wedding and not be frienly with you anymore |
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obetlesmots
Joined: 15 Aug 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 5:44 am Post subject: Do i need to invite my personal attendant to the (wedding)re |
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| You should invite her to the wedding and everthing attached to it. Not only is she family buat if you are in need of a personal attendant that person is important enough to be included. a spa basket that cost more thant he 10 dollars a head would not make up for the slight. |
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obetlesmots
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| Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 6:42 am Post subject: Do i need to invite my personal attendant to the (wedding)re |
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| I would invite everyone in the wedding party and anyone that has ANYTHING to do with the wedding planning, that would include your personal attendant... She has an important role in your day, it would be rude to not invite her. |
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objeboowics
Joined: 18 Oct 2007
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Location: Taiwan
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| Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 7:39 am Post subject: Do i need to invite my personal attendant to the (wedding)re |
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| Anyone involved with the wedding and who is required to attend the rehearsal should be invited to the dinner. After your immediate family your attendants are next on the mandatory invites list. It would be VERY tacky to not invite her to the rehearsal dinner, especially when (as your attendant) she's probably done a lot to help you during the course of planning. I understand wanting to cut back on costs (I'm planning a wedding myself) but believe me, $10/person is NOT expensive in any way, shape, or form and if you didn't invite her, you would definitely look cheap. Consider cutting back in another area if inviting this one person would really throw your budget through a loop. |
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objedeWen
Joined: 01 Nov 2007
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Location: New Zealand
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| Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 8:37 am Post subject: Do i need to invite my personal attendant to the (wedding)re |
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| Yes, she should be invited. If she is helping you in any way then she should be there. She is putting her time into your event and she should get the same from you. The gift sounds nice. Anything would be appropriate for her. She wants to be there for you I am sure and she won't care what you get her.good luck |
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