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boxsiki

Joined: 20 Sep 2007
Posts: 22
Location: USA

Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 8:23 pm Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

I have some questions about romance and marriage in Muslim culture. I am an American learning Islam, so questions are based on comparison with culture I know here:Do Muslims wear wedding rings? Do they go on honeymoons? Weddings are to be kept modest and inexpensive, is that right? Are there rules for proposing marriage? What makes a marriage official (recognized by the government or the Muslim community?)? What are Muslim weddings like? What types of rules are there for courtship? Do Muslim men give Muslim women flowers during courtship?Sorry so many questions at once, but they are on same basic subject so I thought better to keep them together rather than post eight separate questions, hope it is not too much to answer. Thanks.

BOYCOTTISRAELTHEIRFRIENDS

Joined: 24 Jan 2008
Posts: 12

Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 8:46 pm Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

First Q: Yes we do wear wedding ringsSecond Q: Yes we do go on honeymoonsThird Q: Weddings are to be kept modest and inexpensiveFourth Q: What makes a wedding official is if you go to the Masjid and the Imam weds you in front of Allah and a witness.and of course, a marriage certificate which states ones dowry.Fifth Q: Muslim weddings depend on different cultures.

BoxVista

Joined: 03 Mar 2008
Posts: 6
Location: Mexico

Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 9:08 pm Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

Yes we do, wonder what makes people think we are so different..Its upto the newly weds whether they want to go for a honeymoon or stay back and enjoy where they at :DYes, we wear wedding rings..Gold though is not allowed, silver is..

Bownthini

Joined: 18 Dec 2007
Posts: 8
Location: Guyana

Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 9:30 pm Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

The basic wedding in Islam is the Nikah.. That's and agreement of marriage. That's it... After that things are all cultural... But the groom must invite the bride's party for a visit (feast), that's essential (but oly after Nikah) -- I have heard it...Second, Muslim mena re not allowed to wera gold and silk,.. So even on weddings they should keep away from those things.

Braddock52

Joined: 24 Nov 2007
Posts: 26

Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 9:52 pm Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

varies from culture to culture,arab culture is different from ,pakistan,iran,afghanistan and russian muslim states,indonesia has different culture...it varies from country to country too

BOYCOTTISRAELTHEIRFRIENDS

Joined: 24 Jan 2008
Posts: 12

Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 10:14 pm Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

duh they are freaking people,

Braeshotol

Joined: 04 Jun 2007
Posts: 23
Location: Mexico

Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 10:36 pm Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

Wedding rings - yes, but it's not from Islam. There's nothing wrong with not having one or wearing one.honeymoons - yes, but not everyone can afford a honeymoon.yes, weddings should be kept modest and inexpensive, but that's not always the case. Muslims also dream of the big wedding.proposal - the man should ask permission from the father of the woman he wishes to marry. Then, she will be asked if she agrees.what makes the marriage official - We sign a marriage contract with 2 witnesses and an Imam present. The imam will also sign the legal marriage license issued by the state.what are the weddings like - well, the first part is to sign the contract. This is small, and generally only family attends. Usually after a few weeks to a few months, there will be a wedding party. There is usually a separate party for men and women. How it is depends on the culture. Sometimes the bride is only at her own party for 30 minutes or so to greet everyone.courtship - that usually happens after the marriage contract is signed and before the wedding party. No physical contact. They talk on the phone and can meet as much as they want with their relatives present.flowers - I'm sure some men do give flowers. All women love getting flowers.

Boxermom

Joined: 22 Nov 2007
Posts: 25

Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 10:59 pm Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

1- Do Muslims wear wedding rings?>> Some don't , wahabbi, salafi don't .because this is innovation and imitating of the non-Muslims. but most do , that wasn't like that in the past , in the past they didn't , now they do because of the influence of the west culture on Muslims .So we shouldn't wear wedding rings.2- Do they go on honeymoons? >> Usually it depends on the economic status of the groom . But again some don't because it's an imitation of the non-Muslims and it has no basis in Islam at all.3- Weddings are to be kept modest and inexpensive, is that right? >> Yes , extravagance is Islam is forbidden .4- Are there rules for proposing marriage? >> Just proposing marriage to the bride's family , there should be witnesses , the consent of the bride , the groom has to pay her dowry .5- What makes a marriage official ?>> The one who performed the marriage rituals will have to validate the contract in the government department for marriage certificates .6- What are Muslim weddings like?>> The bride dress in white in most of Arab countries same like in the west , the wedding party usually starts at evening time , the ceremonies differ from culture to culture.7- What types of rules are there for courtship?>> There is a period before marriage where the 2 can know each other ( under the family supervision ) , they can go out together with one member of the family , they can have sometime alone but still someone has to be in the house so they won't be totally left alone . ( that's called engagement not courtship)8- Do Muslim men give Muslim women flowers during courtship?>> Not really , most don't , Muslims are practical , they give chocolates , sweets , perfumes , gold gifts or any gifts but usually not flowers .( that's during engagement )

bountifiles3910

Joined: 13 Dec 2007
Posts: 25

Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 11:21 pm Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

in islam there is no concept of wedding rings. the husband is to give his wife mahr- a wedding present, which could be in the form of anything- money, jewellery or whatever, but that is the basic right of a muslim womanyes, there is no concept of it in Islam, but there is nothing wrong in going on a holiday.yes, it was said by our Prophet Muhammad (S) that the most blessed weddings are the ones which are most simple. His own weddings were all very simple. Proposal can be made in any way u like, the groom may directly apprach the girl and ask her hand in marriage, or vice -versa but it is more respectful to ask the girl/ boy's father.there is a nikah- which is something like a court marriage and it can be recognized by any muslim organization/mosque.muslim weddings in essential have a nikah, before which the mahr(wedding gift for girl) is decided by both the parties, after that a reception is to be given. the reception must consist of a meal- lunch or dinner in which family friends may be invited. no marriage is complete without a reception.please note that the mahr can be even a single date fruit. it doesnt have to be lavish. also the mahr is payable in 2 ways. part may be paid at the time of the marriage and part afterwards, or the whole before the marriage itself.there is no as such 'courtship' in islamno courtship so no flowers? the to-be bride and to-be-groom may meet each other before the marriage to discuss or ask anything they wish to, but it is never alone, a third person is always required to be there.i hope i answered ur questions in as simple words as possible. and Allah knows best.

Braddock52

Joined: 24 Nov 2007
Posts: 26

Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 11:43 pm Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

hi, u sound so cute!!!yes ofcores the go to honey moons!! a husbent and wife can do any thing they want, and yes they do wear ringsrules of marrege: well their is no rules rules, just the girl and the guy see each other , and if they liked each other,then love each other and both say yes, then they get married , then have a marrige, and go to thier honey moon, like any other coples, .. i hope this helps, o.m.g u sound so so so cute!!!!!!!!! hehe

Braifsnaf

Joined: 12 Apr 2008
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Location: Peru

Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 12:05 am Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

Marriage in Islam is very simple. There must be a clear proposal and a clear acceptance. There must be at least two competent witnesses. This is necessary to exclude illicit sex and to safeguard legitimacy of progeny. It is recommended that marriage should be widely publicized and there must be a marriage gift, little or more, by the bridegroom to the bride.As for the honeymoon, methods of marriage, rings and flowers etc. differs from culture to culture. Islam recomments simplicity in all fields of life. Islam allows enjoyments that don't go beyond its barriers and teaches us to be modest. So one is free to travel anywhere and enjoy the life with his family. The Prophet of mercy (pbuh) has taught us "The best of you is one who treats best with his wife among you."http://www.islamswomen.com/marriage/

boymnFreery

Joined: 07 Sep 2007
Posts: 25
Location: NP

Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 12:27 am Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

If you want to know about islamic law:1) rings shouldn't be worn, since we aren't allowed to imitate non muslims.2) honeymoons is a waste of time and money, so no. We aren't allowed to waste. Whatever it may be.3) we have several stages: engagement (when the men asked a woman and she agreed with his proposal), wedding day (when the bride is been given away, after her aproval), waleemah (wedding party, which should been given when they are married for 10 days). By the engagement the woman has the right to say what the wedding gift should be, so the man has time to buy it and to give it to her (when the certificate of their marriage is been signed or done). A wise woman will ask something that will benefit her in the Future concerning her religion (umrah, hadj, Quraan lessons etc..), but yet she is allowed to ask whatever she wants. So it depends how much and what she asked, but we should make it easy for the man to marry us, (i.e. not to expensive) since that would lead to burden someone with something which he maybe not can carry (which may/can lead to forbidden things). The waleemah should be kept simple and should not be expensive. Everyone should be invited, not just the rich people, but also the poor. This is because, everyone must know that the marriage is done and that the woman and maan are married. Because mainly when they did the certificate it was only known by the imaam, 2 witnesses, the waliy (mostly the father of the bride) and the couple itself. It should be adnounced, because otherwise people may accuse them of adultery wrongfully. 4) If a man looks for a wife, he should look for a one that is religious commited, and not just (only) for her beauty, wealth or line age. He may hear from other brothers in islaam, that they have a sister who wants to marry. In fact he should visit (with an appointment) the family house, her father, her brother or uncle, grandfather, whoever has the right to give her away. Then he says it is a marriage proposal for your daughter ... Then the father ask the man about his life, his religion, his wealth, his work... When he is able to maintain to look after his daughter, he agrees to it and he calls his daughter, to sit down and speak with him, to take a good look at him, ask him things she thinks important. She should take of her niqaab, so he has an impression of her outerlook. When they are done, he leaves the house and both make a prayer of guidance concerning this matter. When they both feel good about it, the wedding gift can be said and be bought. And there will be a date called to sign the certificate of marriage.5) Hmmm, the best it to let the bride and bridegroom the waliy (imaam) and the two witnesses sign a paper where is standing it on paper that they married on that day. Otherwise the two witneses are being called.6) we are allowed to receive flowers.. But yet not in a waste manner.

bountifiles3910

Joined: 13 Dec 2007
Posts: 25

Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 12:49 am Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

The answer is yes to all. Muslim spouses go for honey moons; they give flowers and golden gifts for courtship. Courtship must be humane; not violant; and courtship is not allowed except after engagement. it should be modest till marriage; by using polite words of courtship. After marriage; it has no rules; it's open; but without violence or annoyment to the other spouse.Weddings may be expensive as long as the man can afford it; however; the modest wedding is more recommended.The marriage to be recognized must be registered by an official Religious registerer; in the presence of two witnesses.Muslim weddings are like any other weddings; however; culture plays a big role in that and islam allows this. Some separates men and women during the party; some make a western wedding; some make ancient weddings using hourses and so; no problem.Culture plays a large role in all of the above. For Example; in some Muslim Tribes of Africa in the wedding night; men wear feminine dresses and put make up; while women dress like men and shave their heads entirely. This is to decieve the devil; when he comes to attack the wife; he should be decieved and attack the disguised man instead; who is much stronger in the combat. Though naiive; and not Islamic; but beliefs of the others should be respected as long as not harmful.Some ladies in the wedding day put Henna on their hands; a plant that change the color of the skin to brown; so when you see her you thing your wife has just get out from the sewerage. Some like this; I don't.Before making love there is a common prayer that should be made "God save us the devil and save the devil our earning" because according to our beliefs; the devil may contribute into the sexual process. Then; the spouses makes love by all means; everything here is allowed except sodomy and things that either of the spouses may find disgusting.Rings are Sunna; as our prophet used one and his wives used it also.

bountifiles6077

Joined: 08 Mar 2008
Posts: 7

Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 1:11 am Post subject: Do Muslims go on honeymoons?

nice questions actually. Well many Muslims go on honeymoons and I do think there is any restriction on that. I myself did the post card honeymoon at Niagara Falls and it was lovely. Wedding rings, well some people say they are not Islamic, but I have never seen any direct prohibition of them and these days I think wedding rings can be a kind of protection. I wear one and so does my husband, although in Islam men are prohibited from wearing gold so he wears a silver wedding ring. Weddings can be simple, they can be a bit extravagant, it really just depends on the people involved. We were both students when we married so our wedding was the bare minimum and our honeymoon was partly paid for by my parents. You are generally married by the imam of the mosque. You receive a marriage contract which as far as I know is a legal document here in the US because immigration actually asked us for our state and Islamic wedding documents. Weddings depend based on what cultures are involved. But there is usually a sit down dinner, maybe some dancing, etc. Courtship of course can be done, within Islamic limits. Men usually know of a girl they like and they approach her family and its fine to bring her flowers or gifts. Sometimes people meet in college or work so they kind of know each other before he goes to the parents. That's it in a nutshell Smile

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