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judithia2000
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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 Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 9:03 pm Post subject: Engagement? |
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| Ok, so I had a friend who got engaged. Her ring is very pretty. When I complimented her on it, she rolled her eyes and said "It's CZ." Obviously not happy about it, but I asked her if it mattered? They both just graduated college and neither of them are exactly rolling in it... and now wedding costs coming up. My question is: Does it always have to be a diamond? I'm starting to think I'd take a nice hand cut CZ over an itty-bitty diamond when time comes. My friend and I have varying opinions, but she knew it was going to be CZ to begin with. SHE EVEN ENCOURAGED IT so she could get engaged. And it's a nice one, he didn't get it off the shelf at Walmart or something. I'm starting to think she assumed he would go buy her a diamond even though she claimed it was important. |
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LittleMissHelpfull
Joined: 22 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 10:36 pm Post subject: Engagement? |
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| No, it doesn't have to be a diamond. Lots of couples are opting for other gemstones like sapphires, rubies, emeralds or going with less expensive options like CZs. I don't think it's worth it to go into a huge debt to buy a fancy diamond ring. That's not the way to start off an engagement! Couples can always upgrade later if they want. |
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Laregopa
Joined: 24 Jun 2007
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 12:09 am Post subject: Engagement? |
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| No it doesnt have to be a diamond. An engagement ring can be any gem really, or even no gem at all. Hell you dont even need a ring to be engaged!Me, I like a diamond and would prefer a speck of diamond over CZ. I dont like fake stuff. It just depends on the person. |
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Levescewasset
Joined: 14 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 1:42 am Post subject: Engagement? |
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| no it doesn't always have to be a diamond, especially if its handed down or an heirloom. |
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kinkeegrly
Joined: 19 Feb 2008
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Location: United States
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 3:15 am Post subject: Engagement? |
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| it doesn't HAVE to be any particular stone. most are diamonds, but a lot of people are choosing favorite gemstones, etc for their center stone. my friend is a purple junkie, so her husband got her an amethyst for hers. she loves it. sounds to me like your friend just got engaged for the hell of it. if she's rolling her eyes now, what will she do in the future if things don't go "her way"? tell him to RUN.. |
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JerveSarvezef
Joined: 12 Mar 2008
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Location: Jordan
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 4:48 am Post subject: Engagement? |
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| If you don't want a diamond, don't pretend to have one. It's fine to go other routes for an engagement ring....I even considered having a sapphire, but don't fake a diamond. |
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infaluals
Joined: 01 May 2008
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Location: Guam
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 6:22 am Post subject: Engagement? |
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| I think it's all about the intentional gesture. Thus, the ring should be adequate to your budget and, more importantly, it should be one which only suits your partner.Though I gave my wife an antique ring with 9 rose cut diamonds when I proposed, she liked it not because of the diamonds but because I'd put alot of effort in finding the perfect ring for my wife-to-be. |
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LawnGymnKawkbv
Joined: 06 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 7:55 am Post subject: Engagement? |
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| For me, I'd always imagined a diamond, and probably wouldn't have accepted a CZ.. I don't believe in the fake stuff, when this is supposed to last forever. HOWEVER, had it been another gem, an opal, ruby, emerald, sapphire, even quartz! I just don't believe in starting off a lifetime with something fake.In her case, she seemed to want the engagement so bad she encouraged it, and now regrets it. it was her decision and it sounds like she was okay with it. I think she should accept what she's got and maybe in the future, they'll invest in a real diamond, should that be what she decides she wants. |
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keefintyjed
Joined: 06 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 9:28 am Post subject: Engagement? |
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| Sounds like your friend pushed for the engagement, and said anything to get one, and now that she got it, she still isn't satisfied.....poor guy! An engagement ring does not have to be a diamond, but it should be a harder stone to withstand the lifetime of everyday wear it will hopefull get. Sapphires are great, because they're hard. Pearls aren't a good choice because they're very porous. |
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kittywhite92630
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 11:01 am Post subject: Engagement? |
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| i agree with you. hey if it looks pretty and it came from the man you love then who cares. and maybe he didn't spend tuns on the engagement ring because he is going all out on the wedding ring. |
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JenC3657
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loarcerfi
Joined: 08 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 2:07 pm Post subject: Engagement? |
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| It sounds like your friend needs to be happy with the love she has. She also needs to stop being one of those girls who says one thing but means another. If she encouraged it, she should be happy. He just made a promise to marry her, and to the vows that bind them for the rest of their lives. She needs to stop worrying about the ring and focus on the bigger picture here. As for an engagement ring always having to be a diamond, that’s a big huge NO. My husband could have proposed to me with a twist tie and I would have been over the moon. In fact, sometimes I wish he did… I don’t even wear my engagement ring anymore, so now it just sits in my jewelry box collecting dust which is kind of a shame because it was so expensive. |
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Kasi
Joined: 14 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 3:41 pm Post subject: Engagement? |
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| An engagement ring is OPTIONAL!!! My husband and I have 30.00 gold wedding bands. We have been married 32 years. If she is worried over the diamond,if I were her fiance I would run!!! |
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Ipshwitz
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 5:14 pm Post subject: Engagement? |
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| I think you're right.She probably said, "oh, it doesn't matter" when it really mattered to her. I think she thought he would buy her a diamond anyway.I don't really see why an engagement ring always has to have a diamond. Why not a birthstone or some other stone? Sometimes I think fake diamonds can be tacky, but only because they are "fake." People don't embrace them for what they are, and sometimes they try to pass them off as real. I like moissanite. It does look just like a diamond, but whenever someone compliments me on my moissanite necklace and earrings, I tell them outright it's a different stone entirely. Its beautiful and I love it for what it is. I think it should be less about the cost and more about the meaning and the appreciation of it.Your friend sounds ungrateful. I would never, ever roll my eyes at my engagement ring, even if it were really an onion ring on my finger. |
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jmjomayil
Joined: 02 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 6:47 pm Post subject: Engagement? |
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It doesn't have to be a diamond, but I'm definitely happy that I got one.  ) |
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