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ra4bat
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 Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 1:51 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| I was just looking over my guest list and was wondering if my two gay friends come with their partners, should I sit them at the same table or would sitting them together seem too obvious?I think they would prefer to be with like people and would be able to relax more but I don't want to have what some have began to call a "gay table". Any suggestions?**Leave the gay-bashing stuff out of this. I love my friends but I am embarrased to ask them. |
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Qwycfslk
Joined: 29 Sep 2007
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Location: Nuqzetfi
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:00 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| Seat them the same as you would sit other couples that are straight, call them and ask if they are bringing a partner or guest. |
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qwertystar
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:09 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| I wouldn't assign tables if I were you. It is the best way to avoid such a situation. |
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RabidClown
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:18 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| If your friends know each other it sounds fine. If not, I'd think it was no different than putting all black/white/hispanic/etc people together. Segregation. |
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racer51
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:28 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| I think you should let them in with others.They might take it the wrong way if you put them all in the same group. |
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Qwycfslk
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:37 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| Would you be seating them together if they weren't gay? That should answer your question.I've gone to weddings with my partner, with other gay couples invited, and we were always seated next to other guests that we knew to keep the conversations flowing. I don't know if I would be offended if I were seated at a gay table, but I wouldn't like all of that extra attention that that would probably invite from the non-LGBT supportive guests. |
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racer51
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:46 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| Absolutely good question. My partner and I are going to dinner with 2 lesbian couples... my best guess would be , ask them. |
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RabDeeree
Joined: 01 Sep 2007
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:55 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| If they all know each other then they might be more comfortable with familiar faces. As far as Gay table goes - would everyone else at the wedding know they are gay? No reason to embarrass them by making it obvious.My suggestion is to seat them at adjoining tables with the seats near each other. That way they can mingle with the people at their own table and not be "standouts" while being able to cross converse with the other gay couple. |
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racer51
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:05 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| Ask them if they mind. |
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Qwycfslk
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:14 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| Their your friends, they'll understand you're just trying to make them more comfortable if you ask. Try saying something like this: "____, ____, this is really awkward but I love you guys and am just trying to make my wedding more comfortable for you. How do you want to be seated?" |
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Qwycfslk
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:23 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| Well, I'm queer, and I don't get offended for such trivial things. It doesn't matter where you sit them, if you truly love your friends, they will be happy for being invited.I'll be more worried for those who will be freaking out during the party when they kiss each other or dance together. You know that's gonna happen right? |
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qwertystar
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:32 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| I'd go with a tossed salad table setting. Just because they are gay doesn't mean they will like each other. I mean do you like every straight person you meet. Tossed salad is the way to go................ |
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RabidClown
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:41 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| I say take out the sexual issue and seat them anyway you want....this is YOUR day, your wedding, your reception.......I sincerely doubt they notice either way after all - that day all the attention is supposed to be on you.Don't forget to put a penny in your shoe with the year of your birth, it is supposed to bring good luck and long life tot he bride!Congratulations! |
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qwertystar
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:51 am Post subject: Gay table at a wedding? |
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| Stick them with people they know the best. If they happen to know the other gay couple, great, but if not... like I said, stick them with people they know the best. If both sets of couples don't know anyone else at the wedding then, yes, I'd stick them together... but I do find that somewhat hard to believe. |
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