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jimd7789
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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 Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 8:38 am Post subject: Help with wedding invitation wording? |
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| My mom was wanting to put a note inside our wedding invitation, that says something along the lines of "The Bride and groom do not wish to recieve gifts but there will be a wishing Well". We are trying to find a better way of wording it.Does anyone have any ideas? |
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INLOVE
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 10:31 am Post subject: Help with wedding invitation wording? |
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| There is no proper way to make asking for money look good. Talking about gifting on the invites is tacky enough to make me wonder if you live in a trailer! Just let the word out that your moving or whatever excuse you have for not wanting gifts. Either that return everything you get! |
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hollywoodmelody8138
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 12:24 pm Post subject: Help with wedding invitation wording? |
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| if i were a guest recieving that invitation, i wouldn't even understand what that meant.. what's a 'wishing well'? is it supposed to mean that you only want money? if so, i think it will confuse your guests. also , that is not proper etiquette. there is no proper way to say you want money instead of gifts. the only thing you can do is not register anywhere and that is supposed to be a hint to the guests that you want money instead of gifts since you did not register for gifts. |
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Hillary9514
Joined: 17 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 2:16 pm Post subject: Help with wedding invitation wording? |
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| Theres no perfect way of wording it. You will just have to use what you feel is appropriate. But thats a tuffy, i think no matter how you word it some people are going to snub their noses at it. But some will be happy that they dont have to go out and shop. Just understand that you cant make everyone happy. Its your wedding, do what you think is best. In lue of gifts the couple will have a wishing well. The couple has not registered but will accept monetary giftsThere will be a wishing well in lue of a registry... |
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imagine0218
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 4:09 pm Post subject: Help with wedding invitation wording? |
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| Easy, like this:The bride and groom have many toasters, kettles and plates.Maybe you would like to visit:Banks code and account number:Open the account for the occasion do not use your current account so as to give details.I did this and received over £3000. |
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jack4577
Joined: 16 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 6:02 pm Post subject: Help with wedding invitation wording? |
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| How about" The Bride and Groom are well prepared for home and hearth but would appreciate your adding to their Money Tree (or Wishing Well) as they prepare for their future (Home/Honeymoon). We thank you for your participation. Good Luck! |
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jonnymnemonic
Joined: 04 Apr 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 7:54 pm Post subject: Help with wedding invitation wording? |
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| Do not register anywhere. This way when a guest calls your mother or his mother, let them tell the guests that you are not registered and that you may be buying a house or that you want buy some very large items for your home, and that cash would be best. It much to tacky to include in a wedding invitiation. People always call to ask if they should give a gift or cash. Some people just have to give gifts, so you will get some anyway. But I would not mention it in the invitiation. |
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iloveweddings9979
Joined: 25 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 9:47 pm Post subject: Help with wedding invitation wording? |
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| Hi and congratulations!Oh boy......you have opened a "can of worms" with this question.I will try to be nice. Your mom should know this. There is no polite/nice/cute/different (whatever word you want to use) way to ask for money.Leave the cute little note out of the invitations. Simply do not register anywhere. Once your guests see that you are not registered anywhere, they will give you a card with money (hopefully.) Please be aware that some guests simply do not like to give cash, so you may get some gifts.This question gets asked about once a week!! That is why I said you are opening a can or worms. Again, there is no nice or polite way to ask for money. You wouldn't do it at a birthday party, anniversary party, going away party, etc., etc., so there is no reason why people should do so at a wedding.EDIT: Perhaps I am not knowing what a "wishing well" is? I am assuming it's to put money into. OR....is it simply to write a good luck wish (on a piece of paper)? I'm confused and would be totally confused if I received an invitation stating this. I have never heard of a wishing well. |
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itmodellingsearch
Joined: 19 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 11:40 pm Post subject: Help with wedding invitation wording? |
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| You should not put this on your invitations at all. Guests should not be expected to bring a gift in the first place, adding this info makes it seem you are expecting them. The best way to handle this is not to register anywhere and pass the info by word of mouth. If someone wants to get you something they will usually call or ask someone that knows what you want. Then it is okay to say, They prefer cash for whatever reason. Most people would be fine with giving cash but when you imply cash or nothing at all it turns some people off. You just simply do not ask for cash. I do understand many couples live together now before they get married and usually have everything they would need, and would use the cash for big purchases or their honeymoon, whatever it may be, but you just don't add that info to an invitation. Some people set up a wedding website and you could possibly add the info there, but never on an invitation. |
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gorgonmediciTR
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 1:32 am Post subject: Help with wedding invitation wording? |
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| You should never include gift registry information with the wedding invitation. By etiquette standards this is completely improper. The only way you can relay this information is by word of mouth. If someone asks you, your mother or anyone else in the bridal party where you are registered they should let them know your desire to have a wishing well instead of receiving physical gifts. If you are doing a wedding website or sending out guests packages it's completely acceptable to include that type of information. |
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goldengirl64
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 3:25 am Post subject: Help with wedding invitation wording? |
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| Don't but anything like that in the invite. let your bridal party know what you want and they can help pass the word when people wil inquire where you are registered. That is the time to let them know about the wishing well. However, it may seem like your only asking for money and not come across so well. |
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