|
|
floj
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 2
|
 Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:36 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
 |
|
|
| Hi......its a personal thing, but if you have to ask people you don't know for advice, then sister, I think its time to move on, take itfrom me, it's not worth it.....the longer he takes the more reluctant he'll be to marry you, who'd buy the cow when you can get the milk for FREE! |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
|
 |
angeldust_5995821
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 1
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:39 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| I think this is really up to you. I see where people are coming from saying he shouldnt feel forced or pressured into proposing, but at the same time, if you guys dont want the same things in life and arent at the same point in the relationship then there is no point trying to make things work. I have a friend who has been with her bf for 6 or 7 years and she is giving him until their weekend away (for their anniversary) the end of this month to propose. I dont think she is being unfair. if he isnt ready to take the next step then she needs to move on and find someone who is on the same page as her. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
JamKal5773
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 2
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:42 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| If you are seriously considering "moving on" by a deadline date that you set, then you are not ready to be married. Goodness. Marriage is when you commit yourself to that person no matter what and you are showing signs that if you don't get exactly what you want when you want then you cave and think of leaving.I would seriously consider if this is the man that you want to commit to for the rest of your life. Living together for just about the entire of your relationship doesn't help this situaiton. Yall are living as though yall are married, so maybe he's thinking "what's the rush?" Which makes a bit of sense (sadly) because yall are already doing the physically motions of marriage, just not the emotional ones. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Ame
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 1
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:46 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| No offense intendedIf you have to ask on Yahoo, then its time to step up for yourself. Don't give him an ultimatum, no or else stuffTell him honestly how you feelSometimes people say and do things in the bloom of romance/talk of marriage, men and women in their own way.Anyone can get snagged on that wedding aura track. Make what you do All about you, how you want life to be. And then talk to him, discuss how you both feel and where you will be going. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
LuvLuv
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 1
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:49 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| I think he will propose one day, but only when hes ready.. I wouldnt keep bothering him about the whole marriage thing, cuz its only going to delay the time.. Its on you if you want to keep waiting for him.. I mean is he really worth it.. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
DTK87
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 1
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:53 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| Well if he talks about it obviously hes going to do it. maybe he is planning something really fun and exciting for the proposal. just wait on him...you clearly love him. If you wait too long...just ask him about it |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
MsX7706
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 1
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:56 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| I disagree with a lot of these responses suggesting you wait patiently for an indefinite period of time. If you want to be married, you can not squander away your time with a guy who strings you along. Valentine's Day is in a week, and I suggest you say nothing about this until after Valentine's Day. But if Feb. 15 rolls around and you're still not engaged, you and he will need to have a talk. If he refuses to talk with you about this, then IMO you should move on. A partner should be able to find the time to talk about something that's important to his/her partner.In your talk, you should calmly and matter-of-factly find out if you're on the same page about marriage. Does he want to be married to you and if so, what is his time frame? Do not pressure him, but at the same time, you need to know where he stands and approximately when.If you disagree with his time frame (by more than a year or so) or he refuses to give you one, then IMO you need to move on. In such a case, he's just stringing you along. Don't give him a firm ultimatum, "You must propose by Memorial Day 2008 or I'm out of here!" but OTOH, make it clear that if you and he are not on the same page about marriage, then you will be moving on. Then do what you say. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
tohumanity
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 2
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:00 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| There are a few things in your comments that are striking to me. You moved in with him after about 6 months AND he is 13 years older than you. I really don't think this guy has any intentions of marrying you. Why should he? You are already living as married people now. I say that if he doesn't propose on your third anniversary, move out. You don't have to break up right away but maybe you moving out will let him know that you are serious. I mean 3 years is a lot time to be in a relationship that isn't going to go anywhere. You have to decide for yourself how long you are willing to wait. You didn't mention how old you are but don't let his guy make you regret that you wasted your years waiting on him and you also don't want to force him to propose to you either.Yeah, I say move out but its your decision. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
brwneyes
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 3
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:03 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| I think there are a number of factors to consider. How old are you? Do you want kids? Does he want kids? How does he treat you? Are there other things that you are not really that happy about and do you think getting married or engaged will fix those things? I can't tell you whether to wait or not to wait. I was with someone for three years thinking that we would end up married and then it didn't work out. We talked about marriage, kids, etc, and then he broke up with me because "he needed to not need someone." I was devastated. However, in my current relationship, several years later, we moved in together after only 8-months of dating and he proposed after 10-months of dating. We are getting married almost 2 years after our first date. I am so happy that I didn't end up married to the other guy because now I realize I have it much better off and I am so much happier! My fiance spoils me like I have never been spoiled before, is kind, generous, intelligent. I am blessed.Sometimes the best things are worth waiting for...Good luck. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
MichelleJ9115
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 13
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:06 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| I'm kind of in the same boat. We started talking about it seriously about a year ago, and have looked at rings, etc, etc, etc. I've been bothering him about it a bit, and he says he's "waiting for the right time". I don't know what that means. When he gets frustrated that I'm so anxious I say "Ya know, if you were waiting for something to happen with no control over it for over a year, you'd be a little anxious, too!"Just wait it out. I'd maybe give it another year before you throw it all out the window. NO, you shouldn't wait around forever, but... it's been less than a year since you started really seriously talking about it. And, it sounds like he's serious about it, and not going to put it on the back-burner forever. Give it a little more time. Maybe he's planning a big, extravagent trip to some place breath-taking to propose. (Yeah, I know, slim chance... but that's what I keep telling myself to make me feel better). |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
smartypants1561
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 4
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:10 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| sweetie, when this divorced man convinced a young woman 13 years younger than he is to move in with him thereby giving up her bargaining power as a desirable woman who wants marriage, causing her to make this commitment of living like a wife with him with absolutely no commitment from him, well, that was his lucky day and your worst nightmare. and all he has to do is throw out a " when we get married" phrase every now and then and he keeps this going on for months longer. no effort on his part!!!!another poster told you to move out immediately, dont wait for may this may next may or next week, right now, move, and say you respect yourself to much to be someones fake wife and you love him but you want marriage and it is obvious you two dont want the same things. dont !!!!!!!!!!!! waste your young attractive years on an older man who is stringing you along. dont be a complete fool. people who say, dont pressure him and wait it out, wait until what, you get your first gray hair? he has all the benefits and you are at this point being made a fool of. he took you to look at rings to shut you up. he may even buy you a ring, also to shut you up, ( he willl buy you an engagement ring but will absolutely not set a wedding date cause he will not marry you) believe me, you are better off knowing that this is a waste of your time now, rather than 5 more years down the road. if he comes after you with an engagement ring and a wedding date set in stone you will now know he loves and respects you, living the way you are now is a ticket to old age and being alone.and dear, please dont say that you are giving him money!!!!! |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Kit6779
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 6
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:13 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| I would make the decision that if theres no proposal by May that you sit him down and find out what the plan is. Honestly I did this in September.... he proposed at Christmas. Sometimes they have to know that although your willing to be patiant your not going to be around forever. Now he jokes that he doesnt know why he waited so long. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
dynamicduo79
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 3
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:17 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| The last thing this guy needs is pressure. I wouldn't say anything more about it and if your anniversary comes and goes, I would leave. Besides, what if he is waiting for Valentine's Day next week? Let him surprize you. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
srf
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 2
|
| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:20 pm Post subject: How much longer should I wait for my boyfriend to propose? |
|
|
|
| just talk to him about and tell him you love him and dont want to wait any longer and if he says no then tell him that you dont want to waste anymore time |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
|
|
|
You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot vote in polls in this forum
|
|
Welcome!
Welcome to WeddingPhotographersforum.com. Wedding photographers chat and discussion forum
Wedding Industry News
Wedding Industry News, Professional Wedding Photographer News
Feedback and Suggestions
Let us know your feedback & suggestions to help us improve WeddingPhotographersForum.com
Everything About Your Wedding
Wedding Marketplace
Buy and sale all wedding related products.
Where and How to Start?
There’s so much to do, it can be mind-numbing. Don’t worry. I planned and held my first wedding in two months and my second wedding in three months. If you have the luxury of a year or more, feel lucky!
Wedding Invitation
Ideally, invitations should be mailed out 6-8 weeks before the big day to give guests time to make arrangements to attend and RSVP back to you.
Wedding Attire
Where I come from, buying a tuxedo is virtually unheard of. Renting is probably the way to go to realize the ultimate savings on the groom’s attire.
Wedding Flowers
Cheap doesn't mean that your wedding flowers can't be beautiful. All flowers are lovely no matter what they cost.
Wedding Ceremony Decoration
Most wedding ceremonies are short and sweet, so why spend a majority...
Wedding Music
Music for your wedding ceremony could consist of live or recorded performances.
Wedding Photography
Pictures are priceless, and you want to be sure you have plenty of good pictures of your special day.
Wedding Favors
Some brides don’t like the idea of giving gifts to her guests, but we think it’s a nice gesture as a thank you...
Wedding Food
Wedding food can take a huge chunk out of your wedding budget.
Wedding Cake
Your wedding cake is the centerpiece of the reception. It is a scrumptious dessert as well as part of a tradition
Wedding Party
The question of whether or not to serve alcohol at your wedding is one that can cause dissension in the ranks of family.
|
FAQ
Search
Usergroups
Register
Profile
Log in to check your private messages
Log in
