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nicki5087
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| It's her second wedding. The ceremony starts at 3pm and the reception is at 7pm. I don't get out of work until 4pm and my boyfriend doesn't get out of work until 6pm. Also, my brother's wedding is in May and I am in it. It's becoming quite expensive and I can't afford to take any more time off of work than I already am. The bride to be just had a baby. I couldn't make it to the shower, but I sent a gift. She is also having a bridal shower this weekend that I cannot make it to. I would like to write her a heart-felt letter and send her a small gift, but I just don't know what to say. |
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nghtwsl
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| Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 12:31 am Post subject: I can't go to a friends wedding that is 3 hours away on a fr |
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| Tell her how much you love her, and that you just can't take the time away. Promise to get together with her when they get back from their honeymoon, if they're taking one, so you can catch up, you can see the baby and meet her new husband (if you've never met him before).Just a side note, and this is just my personal opinion, but I think it's kind of tacky for her to have a bridal shower if this is her second marriage AND she just had a baby shower. I'm not sure of the etiquette, but I don't think it's proper to have a shower with a second marriage anyway. She's asking a lot of her family and friends to give a gift for the baby, the shower AND the wedding. |
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Nhuj
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| Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 2:25 am Post subject: I can't go to a friends wedding that is 3 hours away on a fr |
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| honestly, It does sound like you are kinda blowing her off... three hours away isn't that far... work 4 10 hour days that week and go without your boyfriendI know if I was your friend I'd be a little hurt and a heart-felt letter saying you can't afford to take time off work for my wedding wouldn't do much....however an expensive gift might help! |
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NideTiepele
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| Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 4:20 am Post subject: I can't go to a friends wedding that is 3 hours away on a fr |
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| Formal regrets are a reflection of the fomal invitation. Pen a note or short letter readingHelen Hardworker and Bertie Boyfriendregret that they are unable to acceptthe kind invitation forSaturday the First of April.Yours Truly, HelenThis is a sort of business letter, so skip the "heartfelt" stuff and just let them know whether or not you're coming. It's absolutely not necessary to apologize or explain why one does not accept an invitation, but if you wish to send such letter then send it seperately from your "regrets: note. Such a letter accompanying a gift would work well.Dear Megan,I'm so happy and excited for you, but so unhappy for myself. I live too far away! I so wish that I could be there to see you and Martin take your vows and feel so disappointed that circumstances make it impossible. Please be sure that I will be thinking of you and wishing I were there. I wish you all the best for your wedding day and for every day of your marriage. With affectionate regard, Lizzie |
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nicole123
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| Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 6:14 am Post subject: I can't go to a friends wedding that is 3 hours away on a fr |
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Tell her you love her and that your not able to make it due to work/time constrictions. Send a small gift like you said or monetary gift.Your an awesome friend  |
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Nicaforuzlm
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| Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 8:09 am Post subject: I can't go to a friends wedding that is 3 hours away on a fr |
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| I agree with Elsie despite the thumbs down. And, it does sound a bit much having all these showers and weddings etc. Is she filling several homes? |
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NicoleL
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| Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 10:03 am Post subject: I can't go to a friends wedding that is 3 hours away on a fr |
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| I think that you should attend either the wedding or the shower. If you skip those and you already skipped the baby shower, you're being a bad friend. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who did that to me. I also wouldn't send a letter if you don't end up going. I'd just RSVP no and send a gift later. A letter makes it seem even more like a rejection. 3 hours isn't that far. If there is ANY way you can make it to the wedding, even without your boyfriend, you should go or risk losing a friend forever. |
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nicole123
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| Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 11:58 am Post subject: I can't go to a friends wedding that is 3 hours away on a fr |
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| I think that anyone having their wedding on a Friday that early in the day has to expect that a large number of people can't make it. Just let her know how you wish you could be there, but with work and the distance to the wedding you can't make it. Don't mention anything about your boyfriend getting off work later or anything. Just let her know why you can't be there and maybe suggest getting together some weekend before or after the wedding, just the two of you for lunch or something and give her a gift then! |
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nicki
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| Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 1:52 pm Post subject: I can't go to a friends wedding that is 3 hours away on a fr |
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| eh, i don't know.... it seems like skipping 3 things in a row is going to look bad for you. if you are then i would definately suggest planning a time ahead that you can get together with her and her family and take them out or go out somewhere together to make up for it. however i'd really try to make one of the events. can you make up time at work? stay later or come in earlier every day before friday or skip lunches or something? i would do that and go, even if that means without your boyfriend. especially if your close to this person then you should try to attend. if your not close then maybe it's not such a big deal. a friday wedding is kind of asking for people not to be able to make it and that's got to be understandable. if you really can't make anything then yes a letter and a make up time should be good. |
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