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sparkleythings_4you0885
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 Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 10:21 am Post subject: I'm stuck in the past and I know it... how to move on? |
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| I'm 37 was engaged and for the first time as happy and confident as I could be with the woman I was with. It was the first time I can honeslty say I loved unconditionally, nothing but faith in us after five years, we got through the ups and downs to get where we were. The wedding date was set, a week after picking out invitations we had a small squable over money and she called it off very unexpectedly. I know she was not as committed as I was, not in love as much as I was, had doubts and such. Things were very good and we were both happy before this little squabble, she was exitedly planning the wedding and discussing having children. Then it was as if she wanted nothing to do with me. I'm not looking for answers as to what happened, so much as how to forget all the good things I remember and feel inside me in order to move on. All she remembers is the bad things, which were really "typical" things, like a disagreement. If things were not perfect in her eyes, they were horrible. |
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SuziQ211
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| Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 11:53 am Post subject: I'm stuck in the past and I know it... how to move on? |
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| You answered all of your own questions, she obviously was not as committed to the relationship as you were. You cannot force someone to love you......................she may have done you a favor, move on, when one door closes another one will open............... |
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steph16_88
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| Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 1:26 pm Post subject: I'm stuck in the past and I know it... how to move on? |
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| She sounds VERY immature for doing this..just know not all women are this way do not keep walls up so others can love youI am so sorry she did this to you and remember Karma will come back to haunt her...what goes around comes aroundbest wishes and hugs |
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tammys
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| Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 2:59 pm Post subject: I'm stuck in the past and I know it... how to move on? |
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| the first thing is to accept its over and shes not coming back start by not mentioning her name and going out and before you know it you will be ok dont mentally hold her in your life when she doesnt want to be!! |
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Suz4101
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| Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 4:31 pm Post subject: I'm stuck in the past and I know it... how to move on? |
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| Get some counseling for yourself. and Know that there is nothing that you could have done to change it. and that maybe it is for the better. |
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tharnpfeffa
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| Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 6:04 pm Post subject: I'm stuck in the past and I know it... how to move on? |
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| Dude i feel for you its been 3 years for me since my wife and i split after 17 years together.Like you she only remembers the bad.So my advice to you is go on some solo trips practice being alone dont try and replace her it wont happen.I still see and talk to my ex even have sex but it sux because its only on her terms .Dont do it.I have and you stay stuck in the past.Cry if you need to.Just try to get to know yourself.Best wishes |
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Stoogyanado
Joined: 10 Apr 2008
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Location: World
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| Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 7:36 pm Post subject: I'm stuck in the past and I know it... how to move on? |
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| I think you should not rely on her memories to move on. If she only wants to remember the bad times then that is her choice. You need to do what's best for you and they may include no longer associating with her. Try moving on one day at a time. Give yourself a certain amount of time to remember the relationship and each day decrease this time. Do things that make you happy and look on the bright side- it's better that the relationship ended prior to you marrying her. |
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SmupleSetleta
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