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Jessie3627
Joined: 17 Mar 2008
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 Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 6:48 am Post subject: Moving on.....? |
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| I have decided to leave my fiance'. Although he is the love of my life and the father of my kids, I just can't keep waiting around for him to realize that I'm marriage worthy. I feel that he only proposed to me because we live together, we have a house together and because that's what everybody wanted us to do. Now my mom and family wants to know when we're getting married and I keep just saying idk. They're like it's going to take a miracle for him to marry me and I'm starting to believe it. So I've gotten into graduate schools in another city as well as the city we live in. I never thought when I applied that I'd want to go to the college in the other city but now I'm thinking about ending this relationship and moving. More than thinking actually doing it. So how do I tell him?I don't doubt he loves honestly. But I can't wait forever for marriage. It's not even about a wedding with me it's about that committment and knowing that we're truly in this together, forever.We're responsible adults so don't think that we're not. i just feel like he's had the milk so why buy the whole cow. I know alot of people that have various businesses (catering, flowers, cake and limos) that are willing to give us good deals on a wedding but he just does not want to go there. I feel like im pressuring him and that's the last thing i want to do but i dont want to walk on eggshells either. i know that relationships are hard work but im not about about stay around waiting while or children grow up and we become common law husband and wife. im so over shacking up. we've both matured together so it's time for this relationship to mature. does that make sense? |
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hot_sexy_redhead19824321
Joined: 12 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 1:04 pm Post subject: Moving on.....? |
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| It's your life, don't let others manage it for you.I think moving out was a great idea, (why buy the cow when the milk is free........), he needs to make a decision to be with you, ..............or not.Either way, you'll be better off.....if not married to him, someone else will come along, sweep you off your feet, and he'll be left lamenting the opportunity he blew.Families often have expectations, don't let them pressure you, (again), into making a decision that you don't think is the best.Luck |
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invittydins
Joined: 20 Apr 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 7:19 pm Post subject: Moving on.....? |
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| It makes a lot of sense, and I agree. At that point, you've been together long enough, you LIVE together and have KIDS for crying out loud! Honestly, the only thing that will probably change after you get married are your taxes. Oh, and the ring on your finger. I don't see what the big deal is. He's willing to have kids and live with you, but won't get married? What gives?No more games. If he's not willing to go that extra step with you, then you should look about your own business and go to school in that other city. If things are going to be separate, you might as well take care of YOUR life! No sense in just sitting around wasting it while he's in his comfort zone, relaxing. |
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ifilmu
Joined: 23 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 1:35 am Post subject: Moving on.....? |
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| dont let any1 tell u wut to do...its ur life and just do it whatever u want that are make you happy... tell him you said that, if he said why are u leaving me? tell him that what he is not making u happy...... i think you should have to explain to him about this.. and tell him to change to make u happy..........but actually no one can change... you and him can work out if he kept making u not happy, u can leaving him and make u happy.................just do it whats make u happy, dont let any1 tell u wut to do, its ur life! not them!........ |
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