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shinesw
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 Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 3:00 pm Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| most of my fiance's friends are blue collar and at other events (such as weddings, christenings, etc...) we've seen them dressed casual (denim and a polo shirt).What is the proper way to put that on the invitation without offending other guests? E.i. - Good friends of mine (doctors, lawyers ) will be atteding. Will it be rude that their invitation suggests on how to dress? |
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Pooredype
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| Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 4:26 pm Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| HEY, No is not rude at all, on my wedding invitation we did specify formal wear was required... it is actually easier for your guests because they'll know they are going 2 wear the right thing.. Good luck |
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RonM
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| Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 5:53 pm Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| Indicating "Formal Attire" at the bottom of the invitation would not be rude at all. In fact, this would be the proper thing to do if you plan on having a formal wedding. |
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Seamless_15952
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| Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 7:20 pm Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| You could put something (like "black tie", or something else short and sweet) at the bottom of the invite. |
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skydiva6250
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| Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 8:46 pm Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| FORMAL ATTIRE REQUIRED is not rude it will make everyone know how much to dress up, this way someone who wears jeans will know that they will probably be the only one and think twice about how they dress! |
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scottclear2236
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| Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 10:13 pm Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| Most weddings I've been to have been semi-formal, which means church clothes, but if you want your wedding to be formal, indicate so on the invitations, "Formal Dress Required", or "Black Tie Affair". However, it would be better to allow them to dress down for the reception, as most of them will likely be renting and don't want to get their duds filthy. |
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rxing0678
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| Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 11:40 pm Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| not rude at all if you word it right. 'formal attire required' or requested |
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SamD
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| Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 1:06 am Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| Sorry, I have to disagree with the other two answers. It is actually rude to include any kind of dress code on an invitation to any event. The formality of the event is dictated by the time of day or night and the location. The invitation itself also leaves guests with an idea as to the formality. For example, an evening event is automatically considered more formal than a daytime event, unless it is for a BBQ at someone's home with a bandana print invite. Do you see what I'm saying? All these details tell the guests what to wear.Now, I totally understand that it is frustrating to have guests who have not been taught what to look for on an invite to tell them how to dress for the occasion; you want them to dress up; I get it! But, consider these two things:1. Maybe those clothes you've seen them in at other functions are the best they have or can afford. It may not be the case that they just have no clue or no class; you said yourself they are blue collar; maybe they just don't have a lot of $400 suits & CK ties lying around to choose from!2. If you send a "Black Tie Required" or "Formal Attire Required" invite to guests, two things will/may happen:the guests who are well off and who do read the invites carefully will think this means they are to wear tuxedos and long beaded gowns & then they will outshine the wedding party! The guests who do not normally dress up or who don't have the clothes or money to dress up, will think they have to go rent a tux to attend your wedding & then they won't come.You can easily spread the word among family and friends that this is a formal wedding & you hope everyone will wear their "Sunday Best" or something like that, but I would not print anything on the invites; you are only asking for trouble.Besides, wouldn't you rather have everyone there supporting you in their choice of clothes, rather than not have them there or have them think your snooty? |
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rujeltaoser
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| Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 2:33 am Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| It's simple. "Black tie reception to follow ceremony"I agree it's not rude, but yet, if i got an invite such as this, I'd think twice about going because most of us don't have a formal dress hanging around for events like this and I'm not about to shell out mega bucks to get a dress for one night. If it's really important for you then who cares, but try to keep in mind those that can't afford a gift and formal attire just to attend your wedding. But yet, it's your day if that's what you want then go for it. Good luck! |
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reneej
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| Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 3:59 am Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| I think it is tacky to ask your guests to dress a certian way. I am from a white collar family and I would have never put "black tie optional" or anything like that on my invitation. My guests came from many walks of life, you want people to have fun and be comfortable at your wedding. One of my friends did put black tie only on her invitation and it came across as snobby. But, on another note. Just because someone is blue collar, doesn't mean that they dress a certian way. Just as many doctors and lawyers wear jeans and polo shirts as blue collar workers. No matter what you put on the invitation, people are going to wear what they want/have to wear. I would ask your fiancee to ask the people you are worried about to at least wear kakhis, a dress shirt and tie. I know you want everything to be perfect at your wedding, but be more concerned about what you are wearing than your guests. Do you really want someone to go out and buy something to wear? Instead, they could use that money for your wedding present. |
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Proudtobe512795
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| Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 5:26 am Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| When you write formal attire on an invitation, those that are lawyers or avid event attenders will think you are requiring black tie and evening gown. I don't see a problem with someone wearing what they feel is comfortable if it is clean and ironed but that is just me. If you feel the same then a simple church attire required would fit. Maybe adding in a separate sheet of paper with the invitations saying business casual for the lawyers, and such professionals' invitations and formal attire for the blue-collar professionals' invitations. |
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sassi_cassi818
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| Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 6:53 am Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| If you put on the invitation "Black tie" that means you want the male guests in tuxes and the women in gowns.Other than that, it's rude to put anything regarding clothing requirements on an invitation. |
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royabear
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| Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 8:19 am Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| I would do Formal Reception to follow on the reception part, so its there but not in a rude way, it just sounds like your trying to make it sound fancy. But theyll get the hint. |
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shakeshakeshake
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| Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 9:46 am Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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Poppet
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| Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 11:12 am Post subject: On a wedding invitation how do you word that formal attire i |
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| HI! Me Again! This is the weirdest thing ever, For some reason I continue to answer your questions...and what amazes me is that your ?'s are private. Please don't think I'm stalking you...please...lolOk, you asked this question in another ?. And as I suggested in my previous answer...If you have doubts on what people would wear... and you have a small wedding, I would do my own wedding invitations since assuming you are inviting 60 guest you will approximately have to do anywhere between 30 to 35 invitations which are not many.That way, you could make note of the required attire to the people you know for sure will not follow if not otherwise noted on the invitation...my sister's friend did this.I would word it "Formall attire is required" on the reply card or the RSVP card or if you are having Reception cards put it on there.Hope I helped. |
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