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zipbung
Joined: 16 Jan 2007
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 Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 11:54 pm Post subject: What should i do now...??? |
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| Me and my fiancee been together for 1yr8mths and finally we decide to settle down as in getting married. We were so happy and looking forward on our solemnisation day. Our relationship filled with happiness, sincerity, honest and love... we even applied for a new home for us after the big day. Wedding ring and deco is all fix... so we waited n waited n waited. 3days to our big day, my fiancee can't been reached. I try to call her cell but it was off...even her family didn't know where she is. I was like a mad man looking and asking around for her,i try to text her cell but no reply and i even make a police report but no responed. So i waited... 1day to go and my cell beep. I look at the text and it was from her..the text shown "Am so sorry Zac...i cant be with you". Am speechless, down on my knee and breakdown...why do god do this to me??? After that... she's missing in action silently. Our big day is on 14/04/07, its all memory afterall... I seem lost n alone now... What should i do? |
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yankabilliechic
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 12:10 am Post subject: What should i do now...??? |
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| I am so sorry. I can't even imagine how you feel. That was wrong of her to do that to you under any circumstances. Hopefully she contacts you and you can find out the reason behind her absence. If not...move on. It will take some time, but it will be for the best in the long run. Don't waste your life dwelling on what could have been...instead focus on what can be. Turn to family and friends right now. They will be there to support you and help you through this difficult time. In time, you will meet someone else. I know it is hard to imagine life without her right now, but time heals all wounds. Good luck to you! |
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word2datruetalkers_GLD4ly
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 12:26 am Post subject: What should i do now...??? |
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| The only thing you can do is wait. I am sure everything will be fine. |
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SAMHAIN
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 12:43 am Post subject: What should i do now...??? |
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| Ouch, that must have hurt, but i think its best to say that your fiancee just got scared about the big commitment, and backed away, the best thing to do is to slowly start to move on with your new life.I am sorry for ur loss, but i hope that helped a little. |
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swirledmoonpie
Joined: 03 Oct 2006
Posts: 10
Location: Delaware
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| Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 12:59 am Post subject: What should i do now...??? |
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| i'm sorry this happen, she must have chickened out at the last moment which does happen. it just hit her that yall we're getting married. aperaly she wasnt ready for that. but its her fault for she should have shared her feelings before hand so you could help her and this woulnt have happened. |
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showcorvettelove
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 1:15 am Post subject: What should i do now...??? |
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| Be thankful this happened now and not when children were in the marriage. |
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wenucme
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 1:32 am Post subject: What should i do now...??? |
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| i am sorry that this happened to you. what you should do is to ask your family to call everyone invited and let them know the wedding is off. try to recoup any money, some of it may be refundable. and, then take some time off and begin the healing process. that means, don't get involved with anyone for at least 6 months to a year. and, seek so grief counseling during that time. this is a loss that is like a death to you. it is important to grieve well, and, not to take the wrong road. trying to kill the pain with alcohol or drugs is dangerous and will hurt you in the end. just remember that she wasn't meant to be yours. and the one who is meant to be yours cannot be taken away so easily. thank the girl, because now someday your true love can come along and you will be free to take her in your arms and begin a life together. |
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SaharAnaSaudiaMinAlby
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 1:48 am Post subject: What should i do now...??? |
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| I'm so sorry this happened to you. First let me say, that God was not responsible for what happened, your fiancee was. It's too bad she wasn't mature enough to tell you face to face.. but it's a mute point now. I can only imagine how you are feeling now, but in time, it'll get easier to deal with. Just take one day at a time. Let your family & friends comfort you during this most difficult time. |
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Zul
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 2:05 am Post subject: What should i do now...??? |
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| First of all, don't blame anything of what happened on yourself. I guess she felt she wasn't ready after all or something. It's something she has to deal with and she's responsible for all of this.Now, just spend time with friends and family becaues you're going to need them. Take some time to be alone and try to reconnect with friends and just hang out. Try to take your mind of everything and just relax and let things be for awhile. Hope this helps and cheer up, she probably wasn't meant for you. Good to know that now then have her just disappear after the wedding. |
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