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Fronchi
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 Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 2:21 pm Post subject: Should i have hidden this from my fiance?? |
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| My dad is so upset because i am not marrying in a church, im only doing a civil ceremony... so today he told me he was not going to my wedding ceremony and he didnt want me to talk to him... should i have told my fiance right now?? i still have hopes that my dad might change his mind... but i just needed his comfort,... but all that happened is he doesnt want to come to my house and he is really angry at my dad... please.. i dont know, i just dont feel good |
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Tbella
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| Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 2:34 pm Post subject: Should i have hidden this from my fiance?? |
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| Tell your fiance |
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SissiVie
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| Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 2:47 pm Post subject: Should i have hidden this from my fiance?? |
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| Im sorry, but your dad is being a baby. Tell your fiancee so you can work it out together. You need to practice communicating with eachother. It's very important for a healthy marriage.Don't worry, your dad will go to your wedding. He'll just hide in the back where you cant see him. |
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dbrh_soto
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| Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 3:01 pm Post subject: Should i have hidden this from my fiance?? |
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| I think you should have share this infor with your fiance, because he is going to be her father in law, she needed to know incase she found out from someone else, or him. |
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sarai_kristi
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| Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 3:14 pm Post subject: Should i have hidden this from my fiance?? |
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| I think that yes, you should have told your fiance. It makes sense that he's angry at your dad and doesn't really want to be around him, but at the same time, he needs to know that what you really need from him right now is his support. You said he doesn't want to come to your house- is there a way you could go to his house, or meet at a neutral location? That way you two can talk without him being upset by the presence of your dad. Good luck, and I hope this all blows over by the time your wedding comes around. |
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FutureMrsGuan
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| Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 3:27 pm Post subject: Should i have hidden this from my fiance?? |
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| You don't want to start your marriage with a lie by omission. Tell your fiancee about your dad's decision. He needs to know. It is time for all parties involved to deal with issues. If you don't address them now, they are just going to propogate throughout the time of your marriage. |
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JaemyP1563
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| Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 3:40 pm Post subject: Should i have hidden this from my fiance?? |
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| Yes you need to tell your fiance--You must be honest and not carry any omissions into the marriage.-- The ceremony is not the important part the marriage is ( I have a terrible story about my wedding --got into a fight uggghhhhh...) Your parents have had dreams about the day you would marry just like you have- the ceremony is for the guests anyway- As they are you parents I would talk to them and work towards a compromise. If you go to your fiance and ask him for his support and for help to make it work for everyone he will help- Marriage is hard enough without having parents upset or any trivial issues that could have been avoided. |
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Ashanza
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| Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 3:53 pm Post subject: Should i have hidden this from my fiance?? |
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| Well, no crying over spilled milk. Just wait for a little while, until they simmer down a bit. Look to someone else for comfort for now. You should not have hidden this from a fiancee, it's a good thing you told him because otherwise the same thing would have happened, just later on. Let them simmer down a bit and go on a date with your fiancee to help cheer him up. Your dad has to come to realise it's not your life he's in control of. |
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littleBird
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carrot
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| Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 4:19 pm Post subject: Should i have hidden this from my fiance?? |
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| i think your fiance has a right to know. I tell mine everything...but he doesn't judge or hold grudges harshly. Your fiance is angry because he cares about you and doesn't want to see you hurt. So, yes, telling your fiance shows how much he loves you...But your dad, I think your dad my have some more issues about your wedding than just the location. Have you asked him for any input in your wedding at all? Maybe he feels left out and this is his way of having is say. Although I have to agree with the others that he's acting really selfish and immature. This is supposed to be your happiest day and the only thing you should worry about is how your hair and makeup'll turn out. Try to have one final heart to heart with him and if he still won't listen, then write him a letter expressing how much you want him to be there and how you're affected by his attitude. Someone needs to open your dad's eyes to how much this is hurting you. |
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babygirl
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| Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 4:32 pm Post subject: Should i have hidden this from my fiance?? |
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| I think you should tell your fiance... |
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maigen_obx9395
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| Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 4:45 pm Post subject: Should i have hidden this from my fiance?? |
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| Your dad is totally out of line and you definitely should have told your fiance. Your fiance is out of line for not comforting you, but if I was him I would mad at your dad too. I wouldn't come to your house if you live with your dad. If you don't live with your dad then your fiance is just being a jerk. |
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