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Anne
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 Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 10:45 am Post subject: Should we push back the date? |
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| School first- 2009 will be here before you know it. I just got engaged and we set a date for 2009 - a year and a half. I'm a teacher and this summer we are moving so next summer we plan to have the wedding. No reason for all the stress! |
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2sassy
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 11:42 am Post subject: Should we push back the date? |
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| School First! |
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GreyhoundMama6017
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 12:40 pm Post subject: Should we push back the date? |
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| I think it's wise of you to wait. You'll have the stress of going to school out of the way and a bit more time to plan and get your finances together.Good luck! |
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ditzwannabe
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 1:38 pm Post subject: Should we push back the date? |
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| School first! My boyfriend and I are thinking of getting married soon and he is going back to school and it is going to be really hard. And I am 25 with a degree and a job that makes over 100,000 a year. So if it is going to be hard for me, it is going to be 5 times as hard for you without your school done first. Just wait till you are done. It will be worth it. |
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YessiH
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 2:35 pm Post subject: Should we push back the date? |
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| I understand your confusion, as I found myself in the same situation. My fiance and I are both 21. My fiance and I had decided to wait until October of 2009 to marry, since I would finish school in August of 2009. But, a few months ago, a friend of mine died only 4 months after being married. She and her husband had dated for 6 YEARS!! They kept putting off the wedding b/c she was in school and she felt she wouldn't be able to handle all the stress at the same time. So they waited. And then she died. That was what triggered me to want to get married sooner. So, now I'm getting married in March 2008....thats about less than 3 months.I think its worth it, that's why I'm doing it. I would hate to rob my fiance of time together. And, believe me, the stress wil be worth your while too. I thought the same, that it would be too stressful, and I'm doing fine. I'm a full-time college student (15-18 hrs a semester) and I have a full-time job (40 hours a week). Plus, I'm involved in my church (10 hrs a week) and I'm planning a phenominal wedding...all by myself. We are paying for everything ourselves too and we have a budget. But it hasn't been that bad. I say get married sooner than 2009. I promise you it will be worth it. It may seem stressful at times, but then again, life is stressful. Once you start planning and looking at dresses and the days on the calendar go by, your excitement will show you that the stress is just a small price to pay for great happiness. Happy planning! And Congratulations.P.S. Your lucky to only have to plan a wedding for 200! My wedding is for 400. |
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bella_babe_86
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 3:33 pm Post subject: Should we push back the date? |
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| I think setting a 2009 date would be a better idea. Budgetting can be hard, especially since you are both students. If you push the date back and continue getting things, you can pay for small amounts at a time. I dont think you are too young at all im only 21 and will be married in February. Just pace yourself, concentrate on school work, and bust out wedding stuff on holidays. Dont let your wedding overshadow your schooling. Good Luck and Congratulations |
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marajade_04
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 4:30 pm Post subject: Should we push back the date? |
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| Of course planning a wedding isn't easy. But neither is being an active duty sailor, or anything like that and planning a wedding, yet alot of people do it every day. Just breathe the answer will come to you. if you want to move it up, then move it up. We have a small budget too but my husband and I are planning our wedding while both being in the military..... good luck |
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encourager4God8094
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 5:28 pm Post subject: Should we push back the date? |
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| I am very proud of you for being honest and realistic and realizing that marriage will not solve everything. I was engaged almost 2/12 years and I knew him over a year before hand. Being with the rate the divorce rate is make damn sure you only do this wedding thing once. We were virgins until we were married and the waiting served us well.We are best friends we love the Lord and we just celebrated 14 years of marriage and I truly believe the reason our marriage is blessed is because we waited on Gods and our parents timing to get married. Finish school push up the date nothing is written in stone as you said. Enjoy this season of life you are in because marriage has its own challenges as well. I wish you all the best:) |
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maigen_obx2006
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 6:26 pm Post subject: Should we push back the date? |
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| You are way too young to get married, your brain isn't even done physically maturing. There is nothing hard about planning a wedding. I did mine, and my brother's, while working a full time demanding job. I would wait until the original 2009 date. I know alot of people who's relationship couldn't survive the girl turning 21. I'm not saying this is going to happen to you, but it does happen. |
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oneactplaygurl
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 7:23 pm Post subject: Should we push back the date? |
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| ok...yes you can plan a wedding and go to school! I'm doing it and my sister is doing it! So yes...it's possible! I'm 21 and my bf is 20 and were getting married with in the next year also. I'll be grad. in Sping of 09 and he graduates this May! And we're planing a wedding. We were going to wait til i graduates...buit I didnt want to wait 2 yrs either! My man and I have been together for 4 1/2 years and have been through some very trying times! It's possible! Just follow your heart...but dont put yourself in a bind! |
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wisgopher
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 8:21 pm Post subject: Should we push back the date? |
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| Stay in school and push the date back to 2009. It will give you more time to plan and the degree will give you better earning potential. |
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