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DrPlloz
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 Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:13 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| This is what we didMy nameandFiance's nametogether with their parentsMy parents' namesandHis parents' namesthen follow it up with the rest of your wording. My husband and I paid for our entire wedding, but we wanted our parents on the invites also because their support and help during the whole process was amazing. Hope this helps! |
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Eckinieckho
Joined: 29 Mar 2007
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Location: Los Angeles
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:18 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| It's really up to you and not such a matter of who paid for what. If you want to honor your parents, list them on the invitaton. If you prefer only to have you and your husband's name listed, leave it as that. The people you are inviting really won't care either way... |
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dfefgrghthubrd
Joined: 04 Jun 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:23 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| How about something like this, it will name all of you, but you will come off as the hostsBecause you have shared in their lives with love and supportCaroline Smithdaughter of Mr and Mrs Edward Smithand Robert Jonesson of Mr and Mrs John JonesInvite you to celbrate with them as they exchange .... |
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Dreamer0276
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:28 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| They have paid to bring you up to the stage you are getting married yourself and think how would you like your future children to do their wedding invites ~~ |
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dksal
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:33 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| Your parents are listed on the invitation because THEY GAVE YOU LIFE. Not because they gave X number of dollars. Please. |
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ederikguner
Joined: 20 Dec 2007
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Location: Canada
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:38 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| Actually, it is normally proper for the invitations to represent both parents, unless this is a second marriage. |
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EarlD
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:43 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| Our parents didn't give us a nickel towards the wedding (which was fine by us) but we still listed them on the invitation. It read:Sarah Jane Smith and John Jonestogether with their parentsrequest the honor.....etcI view it as a sign of respect more than anything. They might not have given money, but they did support us all of our lives, which in my case included paying for most of my college. |
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dujbuk
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:48 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| Oh dear, you have your wedding invitation confused with community theater programs. In theater programs, the amount of print space a donor is given is directly proportionatal to the their level of support. Donate $10,000 and get half a page. Donate $250 and get in long list of 8 pt font names. The central idea of a wedding invitation is to let your guests know what is going on and that they are invited. Who paid for what is of no concern to polite people. However, there is nothing wrong with including a few parents or other sponsors in the invitation, and here are a few examples of how it is done.Mr & Mrs Roger RockettMr & Mrs James Jettrequest the honor of your presence at the marriage ofMiss Regina Rockett, etc etc etcor Amanda Rocket andZelda Jettrequest the honor etc etc etc(You can put Ms before the names. You can put both names on one line. You can style the ladies as Mrs Roger Rockett and Mrs James Jet if you wish.)orAmanda Rockett, Zelda Jett, and David Galaxyrequest the honor etc etc etcIf people aren't sure who David is, they will find out in the receiving line.Another approach, if you only want to include parents is:The honor of your presence is requested at the marriage ofMiss Regina Rockettdaughter of Roger Rocket and Amanda Asteroidto Mr Justin Jett etc etc etcIt is always a great courtesy to include your parents names on the invitations, especially to family who may have trouble placing just who you are until they get to the "Oh that's right, Roget has a daughter named Regina" part. It especially warms the heart of a parent to named as a host, even if he or she isn't paying the bills. There is nothing incorrect about the host(s) of a party not being the same people as the sponsor(s) of the party. |
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ederikguner
Joined: 20 Dec 2007
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Location: Canada
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:53 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| An invitation should always say who the host is. And the parents have contributed significantly to your wedding, so in essence I think they are hosts, too. I would definitely recognize them on the invitation. Something like:With their parentsJack and Jillinvite you to... |
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Dawg6274
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:58 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| My parents pretty much paid for my wedding..... she says, "Ill pay up front and you pay me back", but wont take any money now.....anyways they said to leave them off the invitations. When I was picking and ordering the invitations I asked her which "verse" I should choose and she said to leave her and my dad off of it.... I would just ask her. |
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DrSam6129
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 1:03 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| It sounds like your mom has given quite a bit toward your wedding, and his mother has contributed as well. Even though they are not paying for everything, or even the majority, they are giving enough to be considered co-hosts. It is correct ettiquette to list them as hosts on the invitation. Many people who pay for absolutely everything themselves still list their parents. It is a nice gesture, and "hosting" the wedding doesn't have to mean financial contributions. When you see parents listed on a wedding invitation, it is because the couple wanted to honor their parents in this way. It is not because the parents paid to be on the invitation. You might want to consider something like "Together with their parents, Bride & Groom invite you..." at the very least. |
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Ed2007
Joined: 26 Aug 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 1:08 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| Seems like your parents did help I would put their name on the invite. |
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deb
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 1:13 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| It's up to you to make the decision. Most people list their parents' names to honor them. This is, after all, an event for the family. Not just the two of you. You're not the only ones getting married - rather, marriage is the coming together of two familes. When we got married, I told my husband that he's marrying my entire family and if he didn't like the idea, he shouldn't marry me. |
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DvjViagraerrrrr
Joined: 29 Oct 2007
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Location: Dominican Republic
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 1:18 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| Either way is appropriate. If you want to honor your parents, put their names on the wedding invitation. If you would prefer to leave them off, then leave them off. I don't think there is really a right or wrong way when you are paying for the majority of the wedding. If it were me, I would put their names on the invitation just because I'm old fashioned and that's the way it's done in the circle I grew up in. |
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DD3036
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 1:23 pm Post subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette? |
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| If you want their names on the invites, go ahead. I think it might be weird if you are grown adults living on your own. Listing the parents seems to me like a thing for those barely out of high school.This is how we did ours:Because you have shared in their livesthrough your friendship and loveyou are invited to celebrateat the marriage ofXandYon Friday, Febuary Twenty-ninthtwo thousand and eightat five o'clock in the afternoonThen the address.Good luck! |
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