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MendyP
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 Posted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 2:14 pm Post subject: What do I need to do different in our wedding ceremony if we |
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| My father is sick and we are not sure he will make it to our wedding date. Plans are already made and booked so we can't up the date now. I want him to see me married and happy before he passes, so we plan to have a civil marriage and then a ceremony. Our wedding was to be outside and not in a church but to be married by a preacher. I am just lost on what we can't or shouldn't do at the ceremony itself.OK, maybe the question should read, IS there anything different done in a wedding ceremony if you are already married by civil marriage. Still due to my fathers illness. We have talked about this and he is fine with it. My main concern is, do I have someone walk me down the isle? Do I have the preacher do the ceremony? Do I have the unity candle, the prayer and all that comes with a wedding ceremony as if we were actually getting married that day? |
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mustard12350
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| Posted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 2:34 pm Post subject: What do I need to do different in our wedding ceremony if we |
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| you could have a ceremony at his bedside |
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abc7675
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| Posted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 2:55 pm Post subject: What do I need to do different in our wedding ceremony if we |
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| sorry to hear your dad is sick; you can do everything at the ceremony; there just won't be a license.....good luck to you.... |
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freedom
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| Posted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 3:16 pm Post subject: What do I need to do different in our wedding ceremony if we |
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| Maybe it would help if you talked this over with your father.and it is your wedding you need to do what works for you. |
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zakiit
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| Posted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 3:36 pm Post subject: What do I need to do different in our wedding ceremony if we |
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| First of all, I am sorry about your father. If your wedding is insured, which I hope it will be you might be able to organise something different.How about getting a civil marriage in a registry office. These can be done quicker than other types. You could have a small get together after with your father and close family if he is well enough, then go ahead with the blessing at the correct date and get the preacher to give you a blessing - you will have signed the register at the registry office. Hopefully your father will still be with you.Best people to speak to really are the preacher and the registrar as to how best to proceed. I am so sorry for you, but wish you all the best in the future. |
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amazinglyintelligent3018
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| Posted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 3:57 pm Post subject: What do I need to do different in our wedding ceremony if we |
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| You can have a preacher marry you in a civil ceremony too. It is filing the papers that makes the marriage legal. At your wedding you don't need to change a single thing. You might just want to add something to remember your dad. Maybe have a plant at the alter that was in the place where you married in front of your dad.I'm sorry your father is ill and that this is such a bittersweet time for you. God bless. |
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heartsarebad2989
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| Posted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 4:17 pm Post subject: What do I need to do different in our wedding ceremony if we |
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| You should be married through the church, rather than civil. God is the center on marriage. Not man. Ask your pastor to if you can have a small wedding with your father and other major loved ones. It is important for Dad.Money isn't everything. People put a lot of emphasid on it. The really important things cannot ber bought and there are no DO OVERSHave a blessed and peaceful marriage. |
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xp2c
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| Posted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 4:38 pm Post subject: What do I need to do different in our wedding ceremony if we |
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| Marriage is a unity of two people. For religious beliefs and legal reasons, certain people have to be there. All you really need though, are 2 people, a legally recognized person to conduct the ceremony and witness(es) as required. You can do that at his bedside, if need be, and no one has to know, except those people, and your father. No one even has to know the marriage is already legal, when you have the wedding ceremony, later. My personal opinion is, your father would be more pleased to know you are "really" married before he passes, than a mock ceremony where you aren't "really" married yet. I know as a father, I would want to see my daughter married if that is her wish. She can fool everyone else, and I would know the truth. Best wishes for your marriage. |
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