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greeneyes_bjb
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 Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 1:54 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| We have a very small guest list for our wedding. It's that way for a reason- budget being one of them. I'm worried that certain people are going to tell certain other people about where and when the wedding is. What do we do if un-invited people show up? There won't be enough food for everyone, and some of these people we just plain don't want them to be there. Is it rude to turn them away if they were rude enough to show up un-invited? |
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grayhambone
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 2:05 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| well, firstly don't be rude! just smile and waveoh yeah and don't invite them at all to anything again! |
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Gracielacey9856
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 2:16 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| Through food in their face and tell them to go away.Congrats on getting Married! |
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granderrisa
Joined: 12 Dec 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 2:28 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| Suck it up and smile, it's your wedding! |
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Gracielacey0027
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 2:39 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| well if they show up who cares they just will have to stand and don't get to eat anything. Just reserve all your seats like you can put little cards where people are suppose to sit so the uninvited people just wont get to sit and serve the food to all the invited people first so the uninvited people get the leftovers if there is any. |
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graybear
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 2:50 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| I had a very small wedding and included on the invitation I put Intimate cerimony for close family and friends. Everyone I invited I was close with and discussed this with them ahead of time. If you've already sent out your invites or don't feel comfortable saying anything like "don't bring anyone else" bring up the topic with them during conversation like, you're so glad the ceremony is going to be small and you will have so much more time to spend with everyone that is there instead of missing half the crowd like big weddings. Hope it works out for you and Congratulations! |
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Granger
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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Location: Germany
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 3:01 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| I can't imagine anyone telling other people to show up uninvited for a wedding! What makes you think these people will tell others or that the others will arrive?If you are really worried about this, provide your ushers with a guest list to check off the people's names as they arrive. Anyone not on the guest list will be told, "I'm sorry, but your name does not appear on the guest list." |
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greentadpole
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 3:12 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| lol I asked the same question previously. But anyways in a wedding! just smile hun. You'll just have to deal with it. If they brought presents then I'd be okay with it. But if they didin't and just came to show their faces and just eat then it's a problem lol. and also It'll be kind of rude to dismiss people in a wedding infront of lots of people. and will be shameful to them. |
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Gracielacey9856
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 3:23 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| don't invite anyone. have a small simple wedding |
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GreenEyes
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 3:34 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| It is very tacky to send guest away based on the simply not having enough food. Have someone prepare extra food for the unexpected guest that is similar to what the cater will serve. Smile and enjoy your big day. |
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Granger
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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Location: Germany
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 3:45 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| Simply use place cards, or provide your escorts/hosts with a guest list and ask them to politely ask who the guests are when they enter the reception hall. Then, have them escort your INVITED guests to their table. Have them advise any UNinvited guests that they must wait until all invited guests have shown up, or until just before the meal is served (in case some who were invited/RSVP'd don't show) to be seated. One, you make sure that everyone who was invited and wanted to come will have seating arrangements, and two, you probably teach the uncouth people who were not invited not to show up at someone's function without a formal invite. |
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Grandmother
Joined: 11 May 2007
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Location: Romania
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 3:56 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| Do a wedding by invitation only have some one at the door and if they are not on the list or do not have a invitation the don't get in |
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Greendayzer
Joined: 13 Aug 2007
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Location: Fioricet
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 4:07 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| A couteous host would smile and find a way to serve them. If you are worried that people are going to "spread the word" and invite other people, then call each person or family and make it clear that the wedding is invite only. If you are concerned about "certain people", then talk to them and let them know that while you wanted to invite them, you were only able to invite a limited number of people due to space restrictions.Your wedding is not a place to "teach someone a lesson" or to be rude by turning them away. If they want to celebrate your union enough that they are throwing the "rules" out the window, then be happy that they care that much for you. Once they are there, realize there is nothing you can do about it and don't stress. |
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GrandFertas
Joined: 11 Apr 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 4:18 pm Post subject: What if un-invited people show up? |
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| If your guest list is very small, I'm assuming that you're limiting it to friends and family whom you know well and know your circumstances well.I would be very upfront with the guests to please not spread the word so that costs can be kept down. |
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