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jeantalis
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 Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 4:11 pm Post subject: SO's grown child and marriage problems? |
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| On friday, my SO's grown married son (36) informed him that he would be seeking divorce from his wife (informing her the next day) and would be moving in w/us also on the next day (seeking divorce because he does not want children and his wife does; they've been married for about 7 years). We feverishly got a bedroom set up the next day and decorated for him. SO was very depressed and upset for his son. We expected him late saturday night and I stayed up late waiting for him. He never showed up; we spent the next two days leaving messages, voicemail, emails, etc as well as check local hospitals for any news of him in an accident. finally, SO called son's mother who informed him that son was back w/wife and seeking counseling and had been in contact with her all the time. Son never thought to contact us and inform us; and was very surprised to hear that we had been worried sick about him. I am totally enraged at this point at son. Do I have the right to be so upset? SO is ok |
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kaylasmomrocks
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 4:40 pm Post subject: SO's grown child and marriage problems? |
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| yes and u need to send him the credit card bill from ROOMS TO GO as well!! |
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anitab
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 5:08 pm Post subject: SO's grown child and marriage problems? |
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| It was selfish and inconsiderate of son to tell you he will be moving in with you and SO and then when he didn't he never gave a thought to what he told you two.It is good the SO is okay and not worried but he too should be upset at his sons bad manners.He is 36 and married if the counselling does not work I would not open my doors to him again-he's a man and able to provide for himself and would not honour your house rules.He has proved this by not being considerate enough to let you know of his change in plans.Good luck |
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George4337
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 5:37 pm Post subject: SO's grown child and marriage problems? |
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| yes you have the right to be upset, that was totally selfish of him not to call you, you need to tell him about it and tell him to quit being so selfish and grow up, next time tell him to go to a motel |
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mutvulture
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 6:06 pm Post subject: SO's grown child and marriage problems? |
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| You have a right to feel any way you feel. Enraged is a bit extreme but you have a right to your feelings. I do not agree with your view point but I was not there and I am sure I do not know everything.You were inconvenienced. Let him know you were worried and you are disappointed that he did not tell you but this seems to be an innocent oversight. remember he was distraught and may not have been thinking that you were worried or even realized that you went to the trouble that you did.Learn from this and do not jump the next time he says something. As it might not be a fully formulated plan. Let him and your SO know that just because he says the check is in the mail you will not respond until the check is in your hand in the future. |
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Nooneofconsequence
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 6:35 pm Post subject: SO's grown child and marriage problems? |
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| Everyone has a right to be upset. Who can say what will hurt you and what won't. Who can measure what you're feeling?Good to hear that SO(what does that mean?) is ok.I'm sure that he was so wrapped up in his own world that he didn't think to call you. Have you never been in such despair and agony that you neglected to let someone know you were ok when the winds of change began to blow a cool breeze on your soul? I'd let him know that you were very upset, but don't let that root of bitter resentment take seed in your relationship. |
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