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RebeccaW4008
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 Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 2:50 pm Post subject: Am I petty and absurb??? |
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| So, you forgave him, but obviously it's still not behind you. And apparently, I gather that you're in Canada and he's not? Those are two big reasons not to have gotten married, but it's happened, so we'll deal with things as they are. First, I think you need to find a way to be together before you can even try to see if this marriage will work. Then you've got to let this go. Jealously destroys relationships as much as cheating does. If you find that you really can't trust him, I wouldn't stay with him. |
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brendacott
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 3:06 pm Post subject: Am I petty and absurb??? |
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| It is normal to feel this way. You may never trust him, that would be normal too to some extent.Bottom line sounds like you are unhappy. Do what your gut tells you to do.If he is still FRIENDS with her, and you are in Canada, Am positive he is cheating again. |
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vampy
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 3:23 pm Post subject: Am I petty and absurb??? |
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| First of all you have a reason to be jealous..Your b/f cheated on you with this girl.. Your b/f didn't come clean about the affair because he felt bad or because he loved you.. You found out about him cheating and he was busted.. When confronted he chose you..You should be worried.. Once a cheater, always a cheater, is how the saying goes.. And it seems to always be right.. The fact that you married this guy worries me.. I think you will have many unhappy times with this cheater.. I believe you that you love him and wanted to forgive him but your brain can only forgive so much.. Deep in your subconscious you know he cheated on you, and trust will always be a factor in your relationship, weather you want it to or not!! The fact that you hate her is a little misplaced.. You should be hating your b/f for lying to you and abusing your trust.. She has no reason to be loyal to you.. She was not your friend and didn't even know you.. But your b/f should be loyal.. You are trusting him with your heart and soul.. He lied to you and scr*wed a much younger girl over and over again.. Why is it you hate her? And not him? Why is it that you are married and your husband is not living with you? It seems to me that your husband married you to shut you up and not lose you knowing that he can still have the girl while you are gone in Canada.. Your husband should be living with you or in an apartment off campus.. Your husband no longer has the option to be "friends" with this girl.. She is an ex lover that he scr*wed while he was with you.. He shouldn't be allowed to have her as a friend, as his wife should not have to worry about them being "friends" or more than friends while she is away.. Trust me your husband is seeing her and hanging out with her.. But you have every right to be jealous.. He hurt you once and lied to you and he will do it again but this time it will be worst because you are married.. I am sorry that you are in love with this man as I am certain he will hurt you again.. Remember the most important thing.. He didn't come clean with you about scr*wing this girl, he was busted by you. Which means he didn't think what he was doing was a big deal and that he is not sorry.. Or he would have felt so guilty for abusing your trust and cheating on you that he should have been kept awake at night with guilt until he came clean about the other girl.. But that is not what happened.. Which means he doesn't care about your feeling at all, only about himself!! Good luck.. |
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