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Kmott4775
Joined: 14 Jan 2008
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 Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 12:01 am Post subject: If someone quits as best man, is that so bad? If so, why? |
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| I recently resigned as best man for my best friend's wedding, here in California, for personal reasons. I gave him like 8 months notice as the wedding is in August, yet he is still mad after a week! What is the big deal? How can I calm him down? Should I just not go to the wedding and hope it blows over? I already decided to skip the bachelor party. |
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kojo_bralio
Joined: 07 Jun 2007
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Location: London
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 12:15 am Post subject: If someone quits as best man, is that so bad? If so, why? |
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| i am sure he is dissapointed but its still liek 8 mos away he will get over it, and hopefully he will find another best man, does he have a brother that would suit the purpose? |
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Kolkolina
Joined: 25 Apr 2007
Posts: 54
Location: Best
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 12:29 am Post subject: If someone quits as best man, is that so bad? If so, why? |
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| I guess it depends on your reasoning. My guess is that he feels that you're telling him his wedding isn't important to you. If it's a solid reason you resigned, like financially, ask if there is another role you can assume, such as a reader. |
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knilymbobbyic
Joined: 05 Dec 2007
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Location: Afghanistan
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 12:43 am Post subject: If someone quits as best man, is that so bad? If so, why? |
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| I'm sure he's hurt because he really thinks the world of you to ask you to be his best man, and apparantly you don't share that point of view. If you were married, you would understand what a big deal it is to pick someone to be your best man. |
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Knuckles
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 12:58 am Post subject: If someone quits as best man, is that so bad? If so, why? |
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| If he chose you, he did so for a reason and is most likely pretty hurt. |
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komutopizde
Joined: 31 Jan 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 1:12 am Post subject: If someone quits as best man, is that so bad? If so, why? |
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| What's the big deal? Out of everyone, your best friend chose you to be his best man. You quit. That's the big deal.I'd say he has a right to be upset about his best friend refusing to stand up for him. Not going to your best friend's wedding or bachelor party probably won't make things any better at all. |
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kojo_bralio
Joined: 07 Jun 2007
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Location: London
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 1:26 am Post subject: If someone quits as best man, is that so bad? If so, why? |
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| Does he know the reasons why you quit? If he knows the reason and is still upset that is about all you can do. You told him with plenty of time and he should at least appreciate that you gave him the curiosity of telling him right away. See if he Will give you any incite on why he is upset. He asked you to be the best man for a reason so his anger is probably more hurt then anything. Try and talk it out with him one on one.If the reason was over the cost of what you need to put in for the wedding then he should lay off because unless he is willing to foot the bill for you then there is nothing he can do. If the reason was because you don't approve of the wedding then I would tell him the truth and say something like "I don't approve so I do not want any tension during the wedding and I wish you the best". If it is because you had a bad experience with the bride or one of the brides maids then I would tell you to get over and suck it up. For whatever the reason, be honest and tell him. if he still wants to be upset there is nothing you can do. |
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