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Jo0982
Joined: 12 Dec 2007
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 Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 3:38 pm Post subject: maid of honor not helping? |
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| I would not have blown it off that she went beyond my decision for the color of dress I wanted her to wear for MY wedding! That is rude of her. As for not helping, I would suggest get a new MOH. How do you know that she won't be "too busy" to show up to the wedding. My MOH was wonderful! If it wasn't for her, my wedding would probably not have happened! |
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jo
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 3:44 pm Post subject: maid of honor not helping? |
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| I only had 30 days to plan my second wedding so.....Enlist the help of a family member, Hon, and do as much as you can yourself....it can be done as I did it all for my second wedding (had a simple one myself)....ordered all my platters, made my salads,bought my tablecloths, dinnerware, utensils, glasswear, napkins (we used disposable to cut down on the clean -up mess....my sister volunteered her home so I made it as easy as I could for her)..my second daughter learned cake decorating in my bakery so she made our cake (beautifully done, with sugar calla lillies)...many grocery stores have bakery dept that can make you a beautiful sheet cake and they do taste good...the deli depts offer party platters and you have plenty of time to order them...if you prefer not to make your own salads, the deli does that too....just make a list of the food items you need and as you get them check 'em off.Hit your local Party store if you are willing to use disposables...it's amazing what they have....a whole wedding section and the colors offered are amazing...you can even get guest books and cake toppers!An 'voluteer' the soon to be hubby...hey, it's his wedding too, ya know lol...just make a list and stick to it...it can be done.....sounds like she'll only be reliable enough to show up for the ceremony so don't count on her too much...Good Luck. |
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jo
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 3:49 pm Post subject: maid of honor not helping? |
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| ask your groom to help |
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JMo3560
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 3:55 pm Post subject: maid of honor not helping? |
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| I am so sorry . . . but truthfully, it is your responsibility to plan your wedding, with your fiance's help. Sometimes family members will assist too.It is not the MOH's responsibility. Her responsibility is to be your friend and stand up beside you on that day. Yes, she should have brought a dress in the correct color. Perhaps you can help with that, showing her some affordable dress selections in the right color?Many MOH's do help the bride more than your friend has done . . . but they don't have to do so. They have their own lives, jobs, etc. Everything doesn't stop for them, just because someone else is getting married. With only 30 days to plan your wedding, I think you should have realized that most of the responsibility was going to fall on your shoulders. Do the best you can. Ask your fiance and your family members for help if necessary. Many MOH's do plan a bridal shower for the bride. If your MOH is not doing that, other friends or family members can take up the slack. Aunts can host bridal showers. Coworkers can host bridal showers. Family members of the groom can host bridal showers. Your mom's best friend can host a bridal shower. Friends from your place of worship can host a bridal shower. It doesn't have to be done solely by your MOH.Good luck to you. With only 30 days to plan, you need to get busy . . . but it can be done! |
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JMo3560
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 4:00 pm Post subject: maid of honor not helping? |
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| Well, I have seen this happen. It is your wedding, so you should plan it accordingly. The MOH is just there to help out on your wedding day and can help with other various tasks, if she has the time. It is not cool to treat your bridal party like employees. I know you are frustrated, but you need to do your best on your own and consider it a bonus if she can assist you further. My bridal party is not helping me very much, at all. I was upset at first, but now I see that I am the only person that I can count (and my future hubby) on for MY wedding. |
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Jn
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 4:06 pm Post subject: maid of honor not helping? |
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| You say:"I'm very sorry that I am causing you stress by asking you to do too much for my wedding. Perhaps it would be better for you, if you were to attend as a guest instead?" |
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