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Qwycfslk
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Location: Nuqzetfi
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 Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:13 am Post subject: i'm on the fence about guests (2 part ?)? |
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| You know your friends better than we do - if they won't be mad or offended, I would just invite them without guests, especially if you are trying to keep costs down. |
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ra4bat
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:18 am Post subject: i'm on the fence about guests (2 part ?)? |
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| While trying to keep costs down, I can understand the situation. But remember, when you send the invitation you include a response card. Although the invitation was addressed to your friend, they will still presume they can bring a date (as most people do) and enter '2' on the RSVP.Think about this: All the other guests will have partners to dance with and chat with and you are trying to tell only 8 people that they may not have that luxury.So address the invitations in your friends name only and watch the response cards for the number count. It would be horrible to put your friendships to the test on your wedding day! |
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Qwycfslk
Joined: 29 Sep 2007
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Location: Nuqzetfi
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:23 am Post subject: i'm on the fence about guests (2 part ?)? |
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| you have to look at the long-term picture here sweetie, your friends who are in the midst of relationship tension with their beaus may very well patch up that relationship and marry the fella and what will be remembered then is not that they were in crisis during your wedding time frame, but that "you didn't invite my boyfriend" to your wedding. so invite him, if he is that much of a lump then he may not even bother going. in the meantime you are going to be so busy you won't even have time to notice what he is doing.as for your other friends, if they usually fly solo then the odds are that they will r.s.v.p. for themselves only, but again, look at the long range picture here, sometime down the road it could come back and bite you in the bum if you don't at least make the offer for them to bring a date!i know all this costs you money, but sweetie, you're the one wanting the wedding and you just have to suck it up on some things even though you don't care for it! its all part of having your friends with you on this most important day of your life! you don't want to run the risk of ruining a good friendship over the price of a meal! now, go have a great wedding! |
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RabDeeree
Joined: 01 Sep 2007
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Location: Papua New Guinea
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:29 am Post subject: i'm on the fence about guests (2 part ?)? |
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| (part 1) this is what i am doing to anyone that is in a long term relationship or married. Like I told my finace im not paying for his friends and mine to fed their date if they are not dating (no first dates at my wedding) (part 2) I guest that kinda answers this question too lol |
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qwertystar
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:34 am Post subject: i'm on the fence about guests (2 part ?)? |
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| Typically, you invite the person's fiance/e, spouse, or serious boyfriend. You are not obligated to invite their casual date, friend, whatever. If you know your friend is in a serious relationship, invite their guest. The rest can hang out with friends, and you don't need to feel bad at all! |
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qwertystar
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:40 am Post subject: i'm on the fence about guests (2 part ?)? |
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| People do not have a "right" to bring a guest. It is courteous to invite people with a guest if they are dating someone but if they are just going to grab a male friend so they don't have to go alone then save yourself the headache & expense. Plus, you answered your own question when you said they don't mind going places solo. Maybe they'll hit it off with the groom's single friends or one of your cousins. Invite the BF & GF. Some of your family members may be "bumps on a log" but you wouldn't exclude them would you? If they break up, he'll duck out. Who wants to go to an ex's friend's wedding? |
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Qwycfslk
Joined: 29 Sep 2007
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Location: Nuqzetfi
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:45 am Post subject: i'm on the fence about guests (2 part ?)? |
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| First part - Scrap the "and guest"Second part - if you aren't friendly with the "significant other" and really don't want him there, then only invite your friend.My fiance was invited to a wedding as were 2 of his other army buddies. No significant others were included on the invite - not the wife, the fiance (me), or the girlfriend.Knowing how expensive it can be, I am never offended when only I am invited to a wedding - - especially if the people barely know my fiance. |
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qwertystar
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:51 am Post subject: i'm on the fence about guests (2 part ?)? |
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| The single friends, I would just invite them especially since you know they go to other events solo and don't mind. As far as the two friends that are in relationships. Strained or not, you should invite their significant other. It's up to them whether they bring them or not. |
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