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goonern014
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 Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 5:36 pm Post subject: Is it wierd to be friends with a teacher? |
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| Recently I have become very good friends with a teacher. I am only 15 years old and he is 28 but he seems to have taken me 'under his wing' and he has become something of a father figure, since loosing my dad a couple of years ago. (he has no children of his own)I really look up to him and we have a lot in common, so I've spend several nights after school together doing photography and hobbies we have in common. We have plans to meet out of school too.We are good friends but their is the matter of my friends finding it strange because he is so much older, married, and my teacher - it doesn't sound right to them.Should I take notice and try to just 'ignor' him as a friend and just concentrate on him as being as a teacher? This would sadden me because I enjoy being around him and he can always make me happy, but is it the right thing to do??thanks for your time x |
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Goonustinbv
Joined: 22 Aug 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 6:16 pm Post subject: Is it wierd to be friends with a teacher? |
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| Its okay to be freinds with a teacher. I'm friends with my history teacher and she talks to me all the time about her little girl. Shes nice ect. Dont let the prob;em of student and teacher get in the way. If your friends think it weird tell them well if your dad just passed away and you had no father figuer in your life i'm sure you would want to have some male bonding in your life even if its with a teacher. |
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Google_dor
Joined: 17 Jan 2008
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Location: United Arab Emirates
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 6:56 pm Post subject: Is it wierd to be friends with a teacher? |
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| I DON'T SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH IT.SOMETIMES IT'S REALLY USEFUL BECAUSE THEY HELP YOU A LOT WHEN YOU ARE IN NEED. |
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Goose
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:36 pm Post subject: Is it wierd to be friends with a teacher? |
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| Hi. Yes, I think it is very odd for a 28 year old man to take an interest in this way in a girl your age. I am not saying that he has any sort of creepy agenda, but a friendship like this is definitely not typical, and it's a bit worriesome. I can understand your friends' concern.Certainly also because he is your teacher, and it is one thing to develop a good teacher-student relationship and a mutual respect in this sort of professional way. It is another thing altogether to begin spending time together socially, when he has a personal life and family.I think you'll probably notice that if you *do* spend time with him outside of school, he will not involve his wife in it, or your family. It will be "you and he", like a *secret*. Because his wife would not be cool with it, and I'm sure your family wouldn't either. Again... worriesome.If you respect him and look up to him, definitely enjoy your interactions with him *at school* and in an appropriate teacher/student way. Teachers do not get into the profession to make social friends with their students and start "hanging out". I think you're already a bit weirded out by this, which is why you're here asking. Follow your gut. I don't think this sounds right, and I'd back off and be careful. |
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Google_dor
Joined: 17 Jan 2008
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Location: United Arab Emirates
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:16 pm Post subject: Is it wierd to be friends with a teacher? |
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| No. It's not weird to be friends with a teacher. If any of your friends say it is weird, it's only because they are jealous. Trust yourself. Are you happy when you are with your teacher?Is he? If the two of you are happy, then the best thing to do is stick to the friendship. Remember, we inherit our relatives by birth; friends, we earn by choice. Maybe that's the very reason a handful of friends count much more than a thousand relatives.An ear to listen, a voice to comfort, a bond to cherish, a shoulder for support. A relation that knows no boundaries, once that supersedes all dissimilarities. That's what friendship is all about. No matter how different their choices, or simply how different their identities, true friends will always be friends. Are you a true friend? Ask yourself....? |
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