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Kita
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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 Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 12:18 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| I met this girl at work and we became buddies - about a year ago. We would get together every so often outside of work for dinner/drinks. (we don't work together anymore). Well, one time we were supposed to meet up and she blew me off and said next weekend.....Well 2 months went by and no word from her. Then out of the blue she texts me that she's getting engaged to her boyfriend..TEXTS! Doesn't even call. So i text her back "congrats". That was it... so , it's been 3 more months since then and we haven't spoke. Just yesterday she randomly texts me "How are you, it's been forever!" She goes on to text that she wasn't planning on going out before the wedding, but now she wants to - and wants me to come out with her. I feel like this is so random b/c its' been so long. I really don't feel like going out with her and feeling obligated to buy her drinks, etc..... all b/c she's getting married and wants someone to be by her side, then blow me off after the wedding.Should i just suck it up and go out with her and offer to buy drinks, food, etc? She didn't say anything about a party, but i feel like i need to buy her a gift , etc.. now. - and she blew me off 5 months ago!!! |
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koko96643
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 1:19 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| No one can take advantage of you without your permission. She can't demand that anyone throw her a party. You have no obligation at all beyond wishing her well. |
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komutopizde
Joined: 31 Jan 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:21 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| If you don't know her that well then why would you go? It's her MOH's responsibility to throw the bachelorette party. If she's just asking you to go out with her, see who else is going. If she wants it to just be the two of you suggest going out dancing where you can just buy her a drink and be done with it. If you aren't close and you aren't invited to the wedding then why would you go out of your way for this person? |
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Kit6779
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 3:22 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| Did you agree to me maid or matron of honor? If not, you do not have to throw her a party. Also, sending a card is as good as a gift and a friend will understand. If she does not understand, then she is not a friend and you do not want or need people like this around you. |
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kivaskiisk
Joined: 20 Feb 2008
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Location: Canada
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 4:24 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| if you aren't that close, then don't go out with her.she may just be trying to contact people so she can rack up gifts and moneyjust let it fade away |
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kori_shelby
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 5:25 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| The nice thing to do is offer to meet her at the place but tell her that you have prior engagements to attend to. Just show up a little late, stay for a drink or two and then as you get up to leave, tell her it was good seeing her.You don't need to throw her a party or get her gifts, but it would be nice if you got her a card. |
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Knuckles
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 6:27 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| If you aren't in the wedding party, I don't see why you would, or should feel obligated to throw her a bachelorette party. Go out, have some drinks, I'm sure there will be more people than just the two of you, so you won't be paying for "all" her drinks. It will probably be a lot of fun!! |
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Kmott
Joined: 13 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 7:29 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| She sounds like an user and expects you to be there for her beck and call. Just know you are not obligated to her and if you don't want to go out, simply don't go out and come up with an excuse. |
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Kit9261
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 8:30 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| Just be busy and forget about her. |
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KittyKatty
Joined: 03 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 9:32 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| You have no responsibility to this person and you certainly shouldn't be buying anything for her. You don't really have a relationship with her at all so just tell her that you are not available. In a few months she won't remember your name. |
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kj9496
Joined: 31 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 10:33 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| This is a common practice... people get engaged and then all of the sudden want to get in contact with all of their old friends so they can invite lots of people to their wedding and get lots of gifts.I really don't know why you would feel obligated to throw one, especially if you aren't that great of friends and she hasn't asked you to be in the wedding. I would just blow her off, you don't need a fair weather friend. |
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kj
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 11:35 am Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| I LOVE Sprite's answer! |
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koreanperson
Joined: 11 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 12:36 pm Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| No one can make you do anything you don't want to do.It is not your place to host a bachelorett party ..that is for the girls serving as her Maid of Honor and Brides Maids.Plus you did not say that you were even invited to the wedding ! Don't feel you have to do anything you don't want to do. |
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KonicIniju
Joined: 09 Jun 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 1:38 pm Post subject: My so-called friend might expect a bachelorette party, and I |
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| Tell her it's a bad idea. |
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