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Lorkskada
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 Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 10:09 pm Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| I am getting married soon and both me and my fiancee are catholic. We do believe in god and practice our religion but we still are not "perfect". Meaning we dont attend mass every single week or follow every guideline of our religion. There are a few customs that we dont completely agree with. Every church that we would have liked to have our wedding at has pretty much the same rules: No strapless attire, no aisle runners, no popular music, no rose petals, no confetti, no unity candles......these are just a few, I could go on forever. So my question basically is, Can we get married at a non denominational church? I have not looked into some of the rules for these types of churches yet but, are they the same at all? |
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lukaskye
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 10:39 pm Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| You can get married wherever you wish...it doesn't even have to be a church. An outdoor wedding or a wedding at a rented estate...garden wedding, etc are just as nice, legal and spiritual |
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LOVE
Joined: 21 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 11:10 pm Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| There is nothing wrong with a non-denominational church as long as it's Christian. What you're describing sounds pretty strict but if you went to a non-denominational church you might have to be a member and they may have their own rules as well. Contact them...the worst they can tell you is "no". |
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Lorzie
Joined: 26 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 11:40 pm Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| People have demonstrated that they can be married in any number of weird places. I suggest you talk to a priest if it is important for your marriage to be recognized by the Roman Catholic Church. There is also the Catholic Church of America and others who perform less staid ceremonies.Requiring their adherents to have a marriage in their churches by their rules is a further means to control them. Do you want to begin life together by ceding control to someone else? |
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Lorzie
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 12:10 am Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| You can get married in whatever church you want, but many churches charge more for non-members and most will require you to take pre-marriage classes. If you are married in a Christian ceremony, your marriage will be recognized by God. However, a non-Catholic wedding will not be recognized by the Roman Catholic church and should you wish to raise your children Catholic it will cause difficulties with you being able to take the sacraments, etc.. A priest can advise you on this. |
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LuciaI
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 12:40 am Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| You have lots of options. I am Catholic and my church has no rules! So you could keep looking. You could find just a location and have a catholic priest do the mass there, that happens a lot. Especially, if you are getting married during a nice season, you could even do it outside. |
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luhcursece
Joined: 25 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 1:10 am Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| Nondenominational churches are more lax than Catholic but they have their own rules and every one is different. If you are Christian, they usually don't have any problem marrying you. If you don't agree with the Catholic rules, then you need to look elsewhere. However, the Catholic Church does not recognize any wedding that doesn't take place within its walls. |
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LourensO
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 1:41 am Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| Yes, you can get married at a non-denominational church. But every church is going to have its rules. Will your families be upset if you do not marry in the Catholic church? No strapless attire? So wear a jacket or shrug that can be removed at the reception.http://www.davidsbridal.com/accessory_detail.jsp?stid=3050&prodgroup=181No aisle runners? LOL. I've always thought aisle runners were a pain anyway. Please don't have any sorrow about eliminating the aisle runner. Just consider it one less expense.No rose petals? Have flower girl carry a kissing ball (pomander).No confetti? Is bird seed allowed? Or are bubbles permitted? If none of those are allowed at the church, then have your guests wave sparklers that evening as you leave the reception.No popular music? The grandmothers and great aunts will enjoy the classical selections or the religious music that you select. And you can have whatever type of music you want at the reception.http://www.sfstrings.com/repertoirewedding.htmThere are ways to work around the rules. Good luck to you. |
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LuckYChArm
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 2:11 am Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| most churches will look the other way on certain things if you give them enough money. Kind of like if you get divorced.. you need to pay up pretty dearly to get back into the church if your catholic.Catholic will let you do it there with the right amount of money and some expensive marriage couples' boot camp' they make you do. seriously.... but that only matter if you want to have the kids baptised there. Otherwise who cares? I dont trust ANYONE who thinks they have the one and only word of god spoken to them and noone else. |
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lost2day
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 2:41 am Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| You could get married in a Christian or Congregational Church. Understand though, if you decide to have children and you want them baptized you could run into some problems not being married in a Catholic Church. |
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Lucia-mia
Joined: 26 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 3:11 am Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| The Catholic Church recognizes that marriage is a sacrament ; one which that points to the unity of Christ and His Church. Sacraments are channels through which God gives grace. It is the sacrament of marriage, not the sacrament of wedding so you concerns should fall chiefly on the marriage which takes 3 people: you, your spouse, and God.As a Catholic, you are bound to the Catholic form of marriage. You may, however, receive a dispensation from form to be married elsewhere, but that is only the case if one person is Catholic and the other is not.If you attempt marriage outside the care of the Church, it will not be recognized as valid. My best suggestion is to speak with a priest and get a full understanding of situation. |
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Lotus84
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 3:41 am Post subject: Do I have to have a catholic wedding or can it be Non denomi |
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| Non-denomination churches can really vary in what you can and can't do. They are usually more flexible then Catholic churches in what you can include in the ceremony, but still will probably require premarital classes and possibly baptism into a Christian church (so if you are baptized Catholic, that counts). Most still won't allow confetti and rose petals, some won't allow aisle runners but that depends. Unity candles and strapless attire will most likely be allowed at a non-denominational church. |
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