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gyncdrymn
Joined: 05 Jan 2008
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Location: FI
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 Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 2:28 am Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| I'm going away with my hubby's family for a week, only problem is I don't really get on with my brother in laws girlfriend.His previous partners were older & we got on fine but this one is a similar age to me (mid 20's) so i thought we'd get on great but it went wrong on my wedding day, i told her she looked lovely and she just glared at me like i told her something nasty, since then she seems to compete with me.She's posh and spoilt, i am from a common background and life was a huge struggle so we don't have much in common.When my bro in law is on his own he's lovely and chats to me, when he's with her he takes the mickey a lot making me feel stupid, try their hardest to leave me out and become arrogant. Im finding it harder to make an effort, i am dreading this holiday , how can I make it through the week without either blowing my top or letting it get me down?My hubby notices it and says its obvious they don't like me, only problem is he looks up to his brother and the get on so well he wouldn't want to rock the boat by saying anything, but he knows i've had a rough life and it hurts him to see me being the target of more bullies. I think being nice does annoy her so maybe i should go overboard on that lol |
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GymnGeameDism
Joined: 08 Jan 2008
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Location: Russia
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 3:31 am Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| try and hold your tongue and try a phony smile |
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hackbuster
Joined: 31 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 4:35 am Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| Just smile and nod. You just have to be friendly, not buddy's. And if they are only dating, they likely will not last. |
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hackbuster
Joined: 31 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 5:38 am Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| I would blow your top, or you could talk too your husband, and tell him what's going on, and maybe he will talk too his brother. |
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gumnut
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 6:41 am Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| does your husband know this? im sure he wouldn't like it and would maybe talk to his brother. this woman is probably jealous of you because you got the better looking brother, or are married or something. why don't you play them at their own game? hehe |
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Gwen
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 7:44 am Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| it was your wedding day every1 should be saying its you that looks good? |
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h20wifey
Joined: 25 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 8:48 am Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| Go that extra mile and banish all thoughts of the past and put them behind you. You are all there to enjoy yourself and you don't have to living in each others pockets all the time. Just be polite and don't try too hard..things will work out you'll see.Give yourself a chance to become friends. |
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GW
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 9:51 am Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| Just talk to them,let them know how you feel & let them know your hear to have a good time & not to start or have any drama,heck you were there befor the girlfriend so don't let her get to your bad side,stand up for your self!!!Good Luck Sweety & Have a Wonderful Time on YOur Trip!!! |
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gydayHofIrody
Joined: 03 Jan 2008
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Location: Dominican Republic
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 10:54 am Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| they make you seem arrogant, so be arrogant.stay out of their way and enjoy your holiday.if they do anything to annoy you, or try to put you down, laugh at them as though you really dont give a damn... you'll feel so much better for it.oh and just to make you feel better, give your sister inlaw the odd look, like when she is dressed ready to go out, look at her out fit like she looks stupid, this will make her feel insecure, childish, but you'll feel so good for it.sorry, i have inlaws that think their better than me too, but i have my own ways of dealing with it. |
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HAHAHAHA
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 11:58 am Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| ignore her and pretend she does not exist.i know her type.be yourself and have lots of fun and don't ever let her get to you.just pretend she's not there at all except if she realises what she's been doing to you and making an effort to redeem her image with you.untill then,...hun,you be the feisty one. |
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gydayHofIrody
Joined: 03 Jan 2008
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Location: Dominican Republic
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 1:01 pm Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| Talk to your brother in law, he is showing off to impress this girl.He wont be doing it on purpose to upset you but he wont know that you are until you tell him. Just be polite, overly polite to her if you have to nasty people hate that, compliment in front of the others, on her clothes, ask what colour lipstick shes wearing she wont be able to be nasty if everyone else can hear her answer.And if she does look down at you or give a snide answer she'll be the one to look bad not you. |
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gumnut
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 2:04 pm Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| Talk to hubby about this beforehand and enlist his emotional support. Tell him what's been going on and ask him to make certain you are never left alone with her, or her & your brother in law. Tell him what they've said to you and how hurtful it is. Tell him you need him to be your knight in shining armor and politely put them in their place when the negativity starts. Or maybe he could talk to his brother beforehand. Tell him you love him and want to feel you belong in his family.If you should find yourself alone and face to face with her, don't lower yourself to her behavior...hold onto your own dignity and self-respect. If she starts in with negativity, calmly remove yourself from their presence...go to the bathroom, your bedroom or go take a stroll outside. |
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Gwendlyn702
Joined: 16 May 2007
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Location: Las Vegas
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 3:07 pm Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| How arrogant are they !!!! your good to go away in the first place with peoeple like them .. I think you should be your normal self and if they start again with their nasty comments then confront them , just ask them what their problem is with you. Or you can be just as funny back to them and ignore them , enjoy your holiday , you married your husband not them and at least he is aware of your feelings and their behaviour.Youll probably meet other couples there to have a laugh with and then you can leave them to it . Dont let them get to you just have a nice time |
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gumnut3818
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 4:11 pm Post subject: How to survive a week with someone you don't get on with? |
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| Do not make a big issue of it. It is only one week and now is not always. It may be wise to take separate holidays in future. If you get the chance, talk to her....she may (possibly) have misheard what you said. |
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