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GRONMORMON
Joined: 24 Dec 2007
Posts: 20
Location: US
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 Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 5:58 pm Post subject: My mom passed away 6 weeks today. It has and is so hard for |
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| I so sorry for your loss. I do not think you are being selfish, but I do think you should step back and think about it. It sounds like you are being consumed by your grief. What is your relation to this couple? I do not think there is an excuse for them not offering their sympathies, but to play devils advocate you never really know what's going on in other peoples lives. Maybe they have never had to deal with someone close passing and didn't know how to handle it. That doesn't make it any easier on you, I know. I would just ask yourself if you care about these people. If you do then include your children and use the opportunity to find something joyful to celebrate in a time when pain is so much a part of your life. It's got to be painful for your children also, losing their grandmother and watching their mother suffer. No matter how young they are, they do pick up on that. I think celebrating is exactly what you and your family needs now and it may feel good to be the bigger person. Ask yourself what would your mother think and how would she want you to handle it. You have to make the decision for yourself. I wish you & your family the best. |
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groupviagra
Joined: 02 Aug 2007
Posts: 25
Location: Porn
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 6:34 pm Post subject: My mom passed away 6 weeks today. It has and is so hard for |
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| My grandma who was like my mom pasted away 6 weeks ago as well, and i totally understand what your going thought. My family would also get upset if people who we thought were really good friends didn't stop by, or at least send a card. Because the fact is that people who we barely talk to would send big things of flowers or a basket of some short. I guess I'm trying to say is that if you are getting the feeling that there using your cute children as fill ins then its not worth, and that's not being selfish by no means. You just have to explain to the wedding family that your mom just passes away and your going through alot and have to get alot of stuff done because you haven't had time to handle anything. And you never know maybe they never knew she died. Sorry about your loose. I know how you feel it sucks, just remember that her life is not something to mourn over, its something to know that god has taken her into heaven and celebrate the life she had. |
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gryphon19111325
Joined: 11 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 7:10 pm Post subject: My mom passed away 6 weeks today. It has and is so hard for |
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| call them up an let them know that you will not being able to attend the wedding at least she got time to replace them if she wants to |
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Groom2Be0306
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
Posts: 28
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 7:46 pm Post subject: My mom passed away 6 weeks today. It has and is so hard for |
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| Kindly tell the couple that you are sorry but since you are grieving since the death of your mother you would like to not participate. Never mention anything about their ignoring the funeral...some people just don't handle them well and don't know what to do and so do nothing. Besides that is over now and they can't go back and do what you thought was the right thing now. |
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GrthHtery
Joined: 07 Oct 2007
Posts: 12
Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 8:22 pm Post subject: My mom passed away 6 weeks today. It has and is so hard for |
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| I want to start off by telling you how sorry I am about the loss of your mother. It is a horrible loss to deal with. I am appalled that your friends waited so long to contact you. Pull your children out, it may be hard to have to talk to them during the wedding festivities. It is not selfish at all.Again, I am sorry. |
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gryphon19112702
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 8:58 pm Post subject: My mom passed away 6 weeks today. It has and is so hard for |
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| Absolutely not. They sound like two selfish brats who didn't give a care in the world that you are in mourning for your Mother. Also they didn't have the courtesy to attend the wake or funeral. Pull your kids out and let them know that you are not up to all the hustle and bustle of a wedding. Actually you don't even have to give them an excuse..Your excuse is you are still mourning the death of your Mother. That is it! I wouldn't give it another thought. |
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