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_raty_iniqwe_
Joined: 08 Jun 2007
Posts: 37
Location: Germany
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 Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 2:02 am Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| I got married in 1999, and it was a love marriage, consented by parents. after my wedding, my mother-in-law,sister-in-law n brother-in-law, have constantly tortured me mentally and physically, and even my husband used to beat me.They accused me of trapping their child and demanded dowry of around Rs.500,000/-, which my father was unable to pay. they contaminated my food constantly which led to 2 miscarriages, and this gave them a chance to kick me out of their house, whenever my people went to negotiate, they used to flock some of their hooligan friends, and scare us back home. when ever we wanted to get legal help, they used to threaten us by sending some ruffians to our house. i donot have any brothers and my father is a very old man. now my husband wants to get married and filed a divorce case on the false pretext of my mental instability. the court hearing is on the 12th of march.i donot want to get back to him. how can i get help and how can i restore my rights? please help me. |
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_rago_lies_
Joined: 08 Jun 2007
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Location: Washington
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 3:03 am Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| What country are you in?If you are in the US there are several places you can go for help immediately, but i do not know about elsewhere in the world. |
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_repus_inipul_
Joined: 25 Apr 2007
Posts: 38
Location: London
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 4:04 am Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| What country are you in? |
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_yopul_yomim_
Joined: 05 Jun 2007
Posts: 25
Location: Germany
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 5:05 am Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| I don't see the importance of him wanting to file a divorce based on mental instability. Who cares? When you're in court and the judge asks you why you're mentally instable, you can just bring up all the abuse from him and his family and that led to traumatization.... good luck... |
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_tolre_qweho_
Joined: 28 Apr 2007
Posts: 35
Location: Stafford
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 6:06 am Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| just go and divorce him immediately |
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_rago_lies_
Joined: 08 Jun 2007
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Location: Washington
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 7:07 am Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| Leave him and his family, they are not worth the trouble of putting up with their s***. I don't know where it is you live but if it were canada i'd crash at a friends place call the police and have a restraining order put up against him.And if nothing else works get him to start a fight with you in public he will likely get the s*** kicked out of him by some other guys because nobody likes a wife beater. |
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_yopul_yomim_
Joined: 05 Jun 2007
Posts: 25
Location: Germany
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 8:08 am Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| u need to go to a lwyer file a case ... make a fir tech them a lesson laws are always in the support of women don wooryy contact a lawyer and file a harasment case |
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_pistol_tiyo_
Joined: 01 Jun 2007
Posts: 36
Location: London
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 9:08 am Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| Your details are kind a confusing... I don't know from what country you are.. In my country the man's parents are the once giving a dowry for taking their precious daughter. So I don't understand why your father has to pay.In my country there is a group that helps bartered women or wives. You should start calling them or look in the government yellow pages. You can hide and live there and they will protect you up until the court case is finish. They will also give you a free lawyer. You should record secretly all the abusing they are doing and you can use that to court to sue them for maltreating you and abusing you. You should have went to a medico legal or a clinic to testify all the bruise and wound you got from them and you can use that to court. You can provoke them to get mad in your parents house then, record everything with a hidden camera. And call a emergency police help like 911 or whatever it is in your country.Make a careful plan and work your plan. |
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_yoko_eshe_
Joined: 10 Jun 2007
Posts: 33
Location: Los Angeles
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 10:09 am Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| Are you in india? The currency you use suggests that. Look, there's no question that you need to get away, but I don't know the ramifications of being divorced for mental instability in your country. I don't think it's wise just to let him have his way.Since you have internet access, you need to search for legal assistance! One site that might help if you are in India is http://www.legalserviceindia.com/helpline/helpline_HOME.htmThey have different explanations of laws, and a section on violence. Things are so different between North American and Indian culture that I really can't suggest anything besides doing some really fast leg work for yourself. You have a week, you can help yourself if you start right away!! |
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_yoju_eckho_
Joined: 30 May 2007
Posts: 39
Location: Boston
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 11:10 am Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| Dear anu,I dint even have to read ur name to asess that you are from India...I will highly recommend that you contact a woman's NGO in ur city...since u are net savyy u can google itHave you considered getting a job..u need one desperately..start applying...and why dont u just divorce ur husband..y do u want to hang around with an abusive fellow like himyour last resort can be contacting the media..best of luck |
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_tolre_pulku_
Joined: 27 Apr 2007
Posts: 40
Location: Stafford
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 12:11 pm Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| He is divorcing you on the pretext that you are mentally instable, then i suggest you treat him like a mentally instable woman.i dont know where you are from, but in my country you can injury him heavily and claim to be mentally instable. simple revenge. |
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_yoko_eshe_
Joined: 10 Jun 2007
Posts: 33
Location: Los Angeles
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 1:12 pm Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| I take you are in India....First contact a local women assistance cell (help lines, etc) and file a police complaint against this harassment. Next get yourself a good lawyer to fight the case.... You need to be mentally stronger and fight it out.... file for damages and alimony... all the best...escalate this to national women commission... http://ncw.nic.in/find out local women commission cell... and approach them immediately. |
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_pislio_brayo_
Joined: 29 Apr 2007
Posts: 34
Location: Boston
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 2:13 pm Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| Hi I am Carol I live in Sydney Australia what country are you in, I think this is a good thing you will be divorced and not be treated badly anymore. If I knew if in your country you had a government community service help department then maybe I could suggest something for you to do But remember after court you will be divorced I know it is very wrong the terrible way your husband and his family are doing this to you but you have not got much time left could you tell us a little morebye carol |
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_theopi_ranic_
Joined: 27 Apr 2007
Posts: 28
Location: Johannesburg
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 3:14 pm Post subject: I have been tortured and traumatised by my husband and inlaw |
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| you could get help frm women ortganisations,NGO's,who help in such matters....try them out....and with their help face the court of law....not without them...it will be good for you...or else just divorce the man without any alimony no use staying or in relation with such persons...when time comes u could find a proper match for you....till that time find some work which will keep u busy.... |
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