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RabDeeree
Joined: 01 Sep 2007
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Location: Papua New Guinea
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 Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 3:48 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| I'm in a wedding and the mom & maid of honor decided to throw a Huge $400 Bridal Shower/ Party for all Family & Friends to attend (Guys & Girls) and 8 of us have to pay $50. Is this normal? Shouldn't the parents of the bride pay for it? |
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qwertystar
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 4:10 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| the maid of honor should organize the bridal shower, and she can pay anyway she wants. |
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RachelL
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 4:32 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| yeah. i would think so, but 50 bucks isnt that much to do something nice for the bride to be |
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Qwycfslk
Joined: 29 Sep 2007
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Location: Nuqzetfi
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 4:54 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Everything about the wedding is actually the bride and groom's to pay for. People can offer. They shouldn't expect you to pay for anything. |
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Qwycfslk
Joined: 29 Sep 2007
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Location: Nuqzetfi
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 5:17 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| It's traditionally the MOH and BM's responsibility to throw the bride a shower, therefore it's their responsibility to pay for it as well. $50.00 is not alot, trust me, I would be thankful that that's all they are asking for. |
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RachelK
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 5:39 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| 50 dollars is really inexpensive, and yes this is normal. But they should have spoke it over with you guys before hand on what you were comfortable with spending.No the parents don't pay for these kind of things at all. |
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RachelL
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 6:01 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| I THINK BRIDEMAIDS SHOULD PAY JUST PAY FOR DRESS,SHOES, AND JEWERY. BUT THE PARENTS OF THE BRIDE AND GROOM SHOULD PAY IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD IT MAKE THE BRIDAL SHOWER SMALLER IN GO ON A BUDGET. |
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Qwycfslk
Joined: 29 Sep 2007
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Location: Nuqzetfi
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 6:23 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| My mom is doing all of my bridal shower. My bridemaids and such haven't even asked to help...except for the little stuff. And, 400 dollars for the whole shower IS NOT alot...trust me! |
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Qwerepusthe
Joined: 01 Jun 2007
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Location: New Zeland
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 6:45 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Yes the bridesmaids pay for and host the bridal shower. It is a breach of etiquette for parents of the bride to host it or even pay. |
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Qwycfslk
Joined: 29 Sep 2007
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Location: Nuqzetfi
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 7:08 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Yes. The cost is usually split between the bridesmaids and the mother. However, in this case, since it's guys and girls, I feel as if the groomsmen should have chipped in as well. |
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racer51
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 7:30 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| i think it is normal to have the bridesmaids pay and plan. $50 is not a lot, however. I planned my sister's and planned it alone since the rest of her bridesmaids are from out of town..but I'm totally fine with it. And my parent's are paying, I'm paying for some things I can afford (flowers and invitations, shower favors and game prizes) |
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RachelL
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 7:52 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| As far as etiquette is concerned, no one who is related to the bride should be hosting the shower, because it looks like they are begging for gifts on behalf of their daughter/sister/niece, etc. So, yes the maid of honor is supposed to host the shower, and the bridesmaids are supposed to assist with the planning and the cost. However with the cost of weddings and all the pre-wedding parties, these days, the mother and/or other relatives of the bride help host it to help defray the cost. In your defense, I do think it was presumptuous of them to plan the shower without talking to the other bridesmaids or asking their opinions and input, and just handing you a bill for your share. On the other hand, it sounds like you are not prepared for the responsibilities and duties of being a bridesmaid. Everyone thinks it's just an honor, and it is, but it's also a big responsibility, and a huge cost. |
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Rachie
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 8:14 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| yes, the bm's pay. |
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ra4bat
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 8:37 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Excluding the the bride, mother of the bride, mother of the groom and any very close relative, any one maythrow a shower. It's terrible ettiquette for the above women to have any involement other than attending. The MOH usually is the one to organize and pay for the event and pay for it with the help of the bridesmaids. 50 each is very reasonable, but the mother should never have been involved and the MOH should have consulted with the maids not just handed them a bill. |
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ra4bat
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 8:59 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| if they are the ones planning it then they should be the ones to pay for it. |
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