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Qwerepusthe
Joined: 01 Jun 2007
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Location: New Zeland
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 Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 9:21 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Sorry, but Maid of Honor & Bridesmaidsare responsible for planning and payingfor shower. |
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Rachie
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 9:43 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Usually the bridesmaids pay for it, but sometimes the bride helps. I have an incredibly maid of honor that is throwing mine and set aside $1000 just for my shower. She is amazing, and I wish I could do something to thank her for all she does and has been in my life! |
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ra4bat
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 10:06 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| The bride is not responsible for paying for the shower. It is a gift to the bride to shower her with gifts. Whoever decided to throw her a shower is responsible. My mom and bridesmaids are throwing mine. Every wedding that I have been in as a bridesmaid (7) I paid part for the shower and most of the time it was way more than 50 dollars. So I wouldn't complain about that at all. You should know going into being a bridesmaid the responsibilities and if you cant afford it then you should have said no. |
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racer51
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 10:28 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| It's not supposed to be hosted by the family of the bride, it's supposed to be put on by the bridesmaids. In this case it sounds like you weren't even asked for input so that would be pretty irritating since you are being asked to pay, but on the other hand, this sounds like something kind of minor in the long run. The other thing is that this sounds a lot like it's just a general engagement party if it includes all family and friends. Meh, everyone's intentions are good, I'd just pay up and enjoy. |
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racer51
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 10:50 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Whoever is hosting the Bridal shower should pay for it. In this case, the mother and the MOH. |
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Qwycfslk
Joined: 29 Sep 2007
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Location: Nuqzetfi
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 11:12 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Check out the site below, it should help you out a lot. Good luck, and I hope I helped you out>>> |
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RachelL
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 11:34 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Actually, one of the duties of being part of the bridal party as a bridesmaid is to help in paying for/planning the shower(s) and bachelorette party. $50 really isn't all that much, after all. Traditionally, the parents of the bride aren't supposed to be invloved in the planning/paying for of the shower at all. It was really frowned upon for the MOB to throw her daughter a shower back in the day. Those rules are much more relaxed now, though, and many more brides' mothers are planning showers for their daughters. |
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qwertystar
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 11:57 pm Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Yes bridesmaids pay for it....that's one of their main "responsibilities" $50 isn't much at all! That's really cheap! Last wedding I was in we all chipped in $350 each for the shower... |
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RachelL
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 12:19 am Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Well my maid of honor and my mom are organizing my bridal shower and the bridesmaids are helping with what they may need them to help with. |
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radiant_innerlight
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 12:41 am Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| $50 isn't much. If you really can't afford to chip in, talk to the bride's mom or maid of honor about it. Let them know you're in a pinch, and feel really bad, but really can't afford it right now. However, if you have a hard time paying $50 for the shower, are you going to be able to afford your dress, shoes, jewlery, gift for the bride, etc, etc? Is it that you can't afford it, or don't think you should have to contribute? |
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Qwerepusthe
Joined: 01 Jun 2007
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Location: New Zeland
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 1:03 am Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| When my son was married the two moms did it together & the bride's maids made something. If you can't afford it you have to tell them & offer to make something. As far as just telling you, you have to give $50.00, I don't think that's right. You can't assume everyone has the $.. |
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RachelL
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 1:26 am Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| Nope. I think it is a rip off I would not pay that! |
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Rachie
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 1:48 am Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| i would say thats pretty much normal.I was surprised when i was in my firstwedding and asked if everyone would pay $50 for the shower.But shes worth the 50 bucks thats for sure! :)But i was in another wedding and was willing topay another $50 but the bridal shower was more "homemade" like on of the girls brought tuna saladi made chicken salad... ect. and made little "tea" sandwiches! So every shower is a littledifferent. But always be willing to help.Causse you did sign up for it when you said yes!!:)plus its fun to bless the bride to be! |
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RachelL
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 2:10 am Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| This seems to totally depend upon the region one comes from, and family traditions, too.Amongst my family and friends, the moms/sisters/aunties throw the shower, with everyone contributing food, etc.However, I know from here on Answers, that the majority of the time it's the case you describe. So it's not unusual, I suppose. |
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Qwycfslk
Joined: 29 Sep 2007
Posts: 81
Location: Nuqzetfi
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 2:32 am Post subject: Are bridesmaids responsible for Paying for the Bridal Shower |
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| $50 isn't that much so I would agree to it ...but if the "guys" are also going to be there shouldn't the also chip in? |
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