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fomnuh



Joined: 27 Feb 2008
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Location: USA

PostPosted: Sat Mar 15, 2008 3:02 am    Post subject: How many of you had just hors'deurves at your reception and Reply with quote
I want to have an hors'deurves reception. Don't worry, I'm going to make sure that's clear to everyone who's invited and I'm planning on starting the wedding at around 2pm. I don't want a reception longer than 3 hours. Is that too short or too long?My friend did something very similar for her wedding a couple of years ago. She had a fairly short ceremony and reception (with just hors'deurves) in the afternoon and afterwards, close family and friends went over to her parents house where we grilled out, drank hunch punch, and had a good ole time. I want to do the same type thing for my wedding. Do you think she would be mad if I copied her? I'm not copying her flowers, colors, cake, dress, decorations, or any thing like that, just the way she had the short ceremony, reception, and "after party." I know I could just ask her but I just want to know from you ladies first if you think that it would be tacky of me to even ask her.Yeah, I was thinking maybe a 2 hour reception, 3 hours being the max. I was really liking the whole concept because we might have the wedding on a Sunday (because a lot of my fiance's friends work on Saturday) and that way, people could come to the wedding and reception and not have to worry about being out late on Sunday night. Anyone invited to the wedding would be welcome to come to the after party. I just figured that whoever wants to party longer than the reception, can come on over and party some more in a more relaxed environment.No alcohol at the reception either.
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AlyssaS



Joined: 15 Jan 2008
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PostPosted: Sat Mar 15, 2008 5:00 am    Post subject: How many of you had just hors'deurves at your reception and Reply with quote
The length of your reception just depends on what you're going to do. If there's dancing with a DJ then you probably can't get away with anything shorter than 2 or 2.5 hours. I'm personally not a fan of an after party because it smacks of "you're good enough to come to my wedding and give me a gift, but not good enough to share a drink and a meal with."As for your friend, I can't say if she would be mad (you probably have an idea on that since you know her) but I don't think there's anything wrong in asking her. No one holds a copyright on how to run a wedding. She could very well take it as a compliment that you enjoyed her wedding so much, so I wouldn't hesitate to ask her.Edit: CJ, that sounds like a good plan (inviting everyone to the after party) and the fact that it's on a Sunday makes sense. I think that's considerate of your guests who will have to travel to get home. I had a finger-foods only reception, non-alcoholic (we're Methodist) and it was about 1.5 hours - but later people told me they thought it was too short! Go figure.
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abecaglia



Joined: 03 Dec 2006
Posts: 21

PostPosted: Sat Mar 15, 2008 6:57 am    Post subject: How many of you had just hors'deurves at your reception and Reply with quote
Good day,Ask HER for advice and planning help. No one should be anything but flatter. I think its a great thing. Just be really careful on the party after wards, people who were invited to the wedding and reception, might get their feeling hurt to know that they are not welcome to after-party. May i ever offer, that after party not start for at least 2 hour after reception ends...you don't want to rush anyone. Happy nups to y'all
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Cynthia6347



Joined: 13 Dec 2007
Posts: 4

PostPosted: Sat Mar 15, 2008 8:55 am    Post subject: How many of you had just hors'deurves at your reception and Reply with quote
Our venue recommends:Reception without sponsored dinner to follow:One hour-10 pieces per person Two hours-15 pieces per person Three hours- 20 pieces per person
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Arormaurbat



Joined: 28 Jan 2008
Posts: 1
Location: Philippines

PostPosted: Sat Mar 15, 2008 10:53 am    Post subject: How many of you had just hors'deurves at your reception and Reply with quote
If you don't feed your guests a meal, I wouldn't make the reception last more than one or two hours. I mean, with getting there and the ceremony and the reception, if you have a 3 hour reception you're trying to have them go for maybe 4-6 hours without a meal. If you don't want to do a meal, I think it would be prudent to have a short reception. Also, if you're having alcohol and people are just drinking and eating finger foods for two hours, that can go poorly.
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Gorkoutrary



Joined: 30 Oct 2007
Posts: 7
Location: Guam

PostPosted: Sat Mar 15, 2008 12:51 pm    Post subject: How many of you had just hors'deurves at your reception and Reply with quote
We did a small semi formal wedding with the reception in the same hall. We had cake, punch, chips, chicken nuggets and veggies, about 7:30 pm. lasted about 2 hours (no booze)Asking your friend sounds like a good idea.
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