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Tabby
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 Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 10:40 am Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| Okay lets see I get married march 29,08. I am the only girl in my family and my mother nor grandmother are going to show up for my wedding and i am really hurt by all of this. My mother would rather go to work that day than to be at my wedding and has been giving me soo many excuses why she cant show. The reason they arent showing up is cause i let my little brother (18yrs old) move in with me i found out he was doing steriods and told him he had to clean up or get out well he choose to get out. well of course i told my mother and she is in complete denile of this whole thing that her baby wouldnt do drugs.. But the up side is my dad and step mom will be at the wedding... I am just really depressed about this and i found out that on march 13 my dad has colon cancer.. What do i do?? I am soo embarassed that my mother isnt going to be at the wedding she has never met my future inlaws. she just dont want nothing to do with any of this.. Is it okay to be depressed,stressed and all theaboveNo my brother dont talk to me anymore he is mad at me for ratting him out.. My mother and i have never been close at all. And i feel like her not being there is only going to make me resent her even more. She tells me well this wont be your only wedding. I have been with my finace for 7 years now. so this is the only weddingMy mother dont talk to me i can call her and leave her voicemail after voicemail and she still wont call me back. I have tried to include her in the wedding and everything she is the one who choose not to be there she is leaving the 26 to go to utah and wont be back until the 3rd. She has know this wedding date for a year now there is no excuse for not being there. Her and my dad get along just fine so that has nothing to do with her not coming to the wedding. |
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Gumbo
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 10:55 am Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| That's cold... your mom sounds like a failure. |
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MyMichelle
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 11:10 am Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| I can imagine you are very depressed...your mom will be sorry in the long run. Just be grateful that your dad and step-mom are there, and don't let it ruin your day....after all this is your day dear...have fun. Share these memories with your father, and do not let your mother put a cloud on these happy times. |
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Jess9266
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 11:25 am Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| I'd ask her if she could put aside your differences for one day. In the future you will probably make amends and she will regret it is she doesn't show up to your wedding.Are you still on good terms with your brother? Could you get him or one of your other siblings to talk with her? |
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reenaa18
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 11:40 am Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| Dont worry sweety,,,,,,,,,,,convey with ur mom and request,,,,,,,,,,diffnitely she will coming on ur marriage ok,,,,,,,,,,wish u happy married life |
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NatazhaT
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 11:55 am Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| That is sad but your so right Its your day don't let them ruin it for you .Be happy for everyone who is coming don't let them see that your hurt but excited to have their company.Your new husband and future kids are your immediate family now so thats what matters now .You have fun she will have to live with that for the rest of her life.If you can tell her how you fell and keep your head up |
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for79499197
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 12:10 pm Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| You know what, it's YOUR DAY! If your mom is in denial about your brother, that's on her. At least there's someone there to represent your family, (your father and step mom.)Perhaps she's not going to be there because they will be. It's a hard time for parents because you'll always be their little girl. So, you present that to your mom and tell her you understand why she won't be at your wedding, she'll be missed. And take lots of pictures and videos. Send her one and make sure that you say in at least one of the videos that you wish your MOM was there. (add a tear!) and have a great time. It'll be her loss and she'll never forgive herself. In the end, she may show up and suprise you. But if she doesn't, don't sweat the small stuff. It's your day, enjoy and congrats! |
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NeseT
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 12:25 pm Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| Well that is very hurtful to you but say to her that you can only see a really beautiful wedding at her first time that you get married not other times,she also would want to see you in a wedding dress.She wouldn't want to miss out would she? |
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BradyG
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 12:40 pm Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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wow, you have really hit it hard. im sorry about what has happened to you. and it is okay to be all of the above. any normal person would. if i was you i could try talking to a good friend of your mums and tell her about what has happened and then maybe she could talk to her for you or something? im not very good at these things. or try to get your 18yr old brother to talk to her... im not sure. is your dad showing up? well i hope things sort out for you and i hope i helped in any way.  |
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MrsK3622
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 12:55 pm Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| It is very sad, and very wrong also shes not going. Dont bother about your in-laws and parent not meeting before the wedding, thats more common than you think! My parents and my husbands parents met the day of the rehersal, one day before! About your mom, I think you should face her, any chance you go to her and just have an honest talk to her? she might be also hurt she hasnt felt included in the wedding or that she doesnt know who are you marrying to... may be so many things... and I think an honest open heart conversation would solve everything.Moms always want the best for us, as mad as they can be they never stop wanting that... and I know its every moms dream to see their daughter marrying... you should go talk to her and tell her you NEED her there, that she is your mom and you cant see you in that huge day of her life without her... that is very important to you... and get her talking whats the real reason she doesnt want to go... and whatever it is Im sure you can figure something out so she feels good and want to go...Good luck! |
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Heather4656
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 1:10 pm Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| Ofcourse it's okay to be depressed! That is really inconsiderate of your mother. I would talk to her more and try to convince her into it. If she really won't budge then just don't have her there! If she cared enough she would be there - if not then its not worth having her!That's really upsetting to me because my mom was killed 4 years ago and I can't have her at my future wedding now no matter what! She should be grateful to be able to go to your wedding! |
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InCali
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 1:25 pm Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| Even though she will not be there, don't stressed out on your happiest day. She will regret it later and it will be to late. Your hubby is the only one who has to be there. And as for your dad, show him how happy you are going to be from now on.Reason my father didn't show up to my wedding. He didn't want to see my mother with her man. Now he regrets it. |
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SigmundFreud
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| Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 1:40 pm Post subject: My mom is not coming to my wedding? |
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| Congratulations on your new life! It's okay to be hurt but don't stress over it. It's her loss. She will regret it someday. The only person that will look foolish is her. You invited her and that's all you can do. You are being the mature one here. Sounds like she is a bit jealous of you for allowing your brother to live with you.You did the right thing by giving him an ultimatum. You have a right to enforce rules and not allow drugs or the use of drugs in your home. After all you did give him a choice. He choose to leave. He is fortunate that you didn't report him to the police.You are a good sister and a good daughter. Your Mother may be in denial because she may be asking her self where she went wrong in raising him.Your mother shouldn't blame you for what your brother does or does not do. Nor should she blame her self. Your brother is 18. He is an adult and makes his own decisions. Good luck to you on your special day and also for every success in your future. |
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