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Green_eyes69
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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 Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 7:46 pm Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| I am ordering my invitations in a month they are on sale right now but im not getting married till July 10 2009. When is good time to send them out I want to give people lots of notice it is a friday wedding. My fiance wants to send them out in November that way people have our registry in time for Christmass and hopefully buy our gifts of it. Is this a good ideal I also am pretty sure that half of them are not going to be attending so I want to know in advance so that I can know if I need to redo my guest listIm noit trying to milk it's just that his side never knows what to get us so he thoughh that it might be helpfulTo all you very rude people I am not only concentrating on gifts. And quite frankly keep all your rude opinions to your self you are all getting thumbs down.My problem is that we are pretty sure that my fiance side will not be attending and we don't want to call them and ask them that would be rude so I will have no choice but to do 2 list |
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nova_queen_287952
Joined: 25 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 9:13 pm Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| Invitations go out 6 to 8 WEEKS before the wedding.If you really need to give people advance notice, you send save-the-date cards 8 to 12 MONTHS before the wedding.And you should be getting gifts off of your registry for your wedding shower and wedding - NOT Christmas.how far do you want to milk this? |
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B2B50308
Joined: 25 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 10:39 pm Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| I would wait untill May to order those invitation. You're wedding is more then a year away alot can happen before that, you guys might change the month, date, break=up i don't know I just think it's too early to order them.save the date cards go out 3-4 months before the wedding not a year |
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lillismommy
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 12:06 am Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| I have always been told no more than 3 months before, but generally two months before and you request rsvp's to be back one month before. |
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CorpCityGrl
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 1:32 am Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| If you have the ceremony and reception details locked in, by all means go ahead and order them--especially if you are getting a good price.You shouldn't be sending them out in November though. First off--it's too far in advance of your wedding and guaranteed it will get lost by people or forgotten since it's a good 7 months away. Secondly--it's rude to send out invites that early in the hopes of getting Christmas presents from people.I got married on a Friday too (August 2007) and I suggest you send out save the date cards to all your guests (especially out of town guests). This is a good way to let them know when your date is and to mark their calendars and make arrangements. As for invites, those usually go out 6-8 weeks before the date of the wedding.Even if his family never knows what to get you for Christmas, what your fiance is suggesting is STILL inappropriate. |
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Blunt6624
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 2:59 am Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| Several things here:-Invitations should be sent 3-4 months before the wedding date, not before. -Save-the-date cards can be sent a year in advance, only if it's a destination wedding' If it's local, then a year advance notice is not necesary.-People do not buy wedding gifts during Christmas time. people have other expenses during the holidays.-Do not focus on your presents and registries. You are concentrating your energy in the wrong thing. you are coming across as very greedy and presumptous. A lady shall not comment on "how many gifts I'm I going to get". Not lady like at all. Good luck |
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anastasiabeaverhausen
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 4:26 am Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| you send the invites 6-8 weeks before. "save the dates" can go out 6 months ahead. |
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KathleenG
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 5:52 am Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| about 2 months before. |
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Lucy0909
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 7:19 am Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| If they are on sale, go ahead and get them. Then I would send out the actual invtations two months before the wedding, but I would send out "save the date" cards around the holidays this year. |
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SurvivorsReady
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 8:45 am Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| Wedding invitations go out 30 - 90 days prior to the wedding.What you can do is send out "Save the date" cards (postcards are fine) letting people know that you're getting married the upcoming summer (include date: Friday, July 10, 2009) and send these out in November. |
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dianemitchell777
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 10:12 am Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| Normal protocal is to send Invitations out 8 weeks before the wedding. You may want to send them a little earlier for people who need to make long distance travel arrangements.I would suggest you include everyone you want to come on your invite list. Even those that you would pick as your second favorite attendees. This way you are not redoing your guest list, which would be embarrassment to you if word ever got out that you actually had two lists. Think about it!It doesn't matter when you order your invites, as long as you can begin to address them about 3 months before the wedding and send the long distance ones first. All invites should be completely out by 8 weeks before the wedding. Your rsvp date should be 2 to 3 weeks before the wedding. Good luck! |
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Bride2Be2009
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 11:39 am Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| Hi there! I would say that if you have chosen the location and are sure that wont change then order them but if you have any doubts as to anything that will be printed you should wait. If you are concerned about letting people know you can send out save-the-date cards and still register in November and then just make a note of that on the save the date however some people may look at this wrong, but if it was me and I wanted to I would! Really who cares what other people think it is your day and it is not like you are trying to be greedy you just want to help all of those family members who will most certainly be stuck when it does come time to shop. (just a note you really dont have to register that early) but as I said this is your day do it your way! Congrats! |
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Cher7635
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 1:05 pm Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| send save the date cards in with yourChristmas cards, that will get the word out! |
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Shortie6933
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 2:32 pm Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| I'm having a Friday night wedding as well and we still sent them out 6-8 weeks beforehand. If you want to send Save The Dates in Nov that would be fine, but its was too early for invitations...people will put them aside and forget or misplace them. Also you don't put where you are registered in the invitation, that's considered rude...sorry |
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Jenny8668
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 3:59 pm Post subject: Wedding guest? |
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| 1. Gift registry is not mentioned on any correspondence related to your wedding (Save-the-Dates or Invitations), with the one exception being for the bridal shower. Unfortunately, this DOES make you seem greedy, and puts the focus on GIFTS or return on investment, rather than on the occasion. You can read a million ettiquette books or ask the question here a hundred times, the answer is the same. No mention of gifts.2. You need to send Save-the-Date cards if people have to travel for the wedding - this can be 9-12 months before the date. It will help them plan accordingly and gives them the option of a gift anytime before then.2. Set up a wedding website with the Save-the-Date information, and your registry information. Include the website link with your Save-the-Date cards that you are sending out.3. Purchase your invitations in early April, and mail them by May 10, 2009 (8 weeks before your wedding). For your RSVP date, get with your caterer to find out when they need final numbers by.I hope this helps. |
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