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MrsGaddis
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 Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 12:11 pm Post subject: My previous question about my bridesmaid dress? |
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| I just talked to the bridal store, and even though I haven't picked up the dress, it is still a final sale, even though it wasn't altered! Geez! So, the bride will not be wearing her wedding dress to the reception since it is a month later. So, I think that I will just try and sell the dress on ebay and explain the situation to her. I feel really hurt by all of this. Since now the "bachelorette party I planned as "maid of honor" that I'm paying for will now be 3 weeks following her actual wedding. And I'm no longer the maid of honor! My 7 month old son has been in the hospital 3 times for 5 days at a time in the last 2 months, he has West Syndrome, so this has already been a really bad time for me. Still I've tried to do my best to be supportive of her, while meanwhile she doesn't even ask how my son is doing, and called me every day while I was at the hospital with him with more wedding drama when she knew I was really busy.She has now asked me to come to Vegas for the actual ceremony so that I can wear the dress. But it's really impossible for me right now, since I already had made arrangements for the original date. Also, with my son in and out of the hospital, and me being the only one to give him his injection every day, it would be too much for me to take off to Vegas. She's upset that I won't go, even though I wasn't invited to begin with! This is driving me crazy, and I wish that bridezilla would go away and my friend would come back SOON! Any way to get her to stop being angry with me? It's not that I don't want to be there for her, I just need to be here with my son right now! |
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Hokie_Pokey
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| Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 2:43 pm Post subject: My previous question about my bridesmaid dress? |
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| Wow. Your friend is not being a really good friend. She needs to understand that her wedding is not a big deal to anyone but her (maybe the groom and parents)....and this goes for ALL bridezillas.She has NO reason to be angry at you. Your son is your priority above everyone else and that is how it should be. You should be firm with her and tell her that your focus is your son right now. If she can't understand that, then you need a new friend. |
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Jukebox122
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| Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 5:14 pm Post subject: My previous question about my bridesmaid dress? |
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| Wow your friend sounds very selfish. I dont care if she is getting married, no reason to be so inconsiderate to someone's feelings! Especially with what you are going through with your son right now. I think you should try to get together with her and have a talk. Tell her how you feel and that you are willing to compromise and find a way for it to work out, although there are some things you can't compromise on, like leaving your sick son for her last minute wedding.She will have to understand. If not, you have a bigger problem--your friendship with this selfish person. |
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mystery
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| Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 7:46 pm Post subject: My previous question about my bridesmaid dress? |
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| Why on earth would you care about such a moron? You should be thrilled at he possibility of having her out of your life forever...ignore her the way she has ignored your situation with your son. Rude and thoughtless gets what it deserves. Screw her wedding, focus on your son, he is far more important than a self centered egotistical twat. |
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mrsdeli
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| Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 10:17 pm Post subject: My previous question about my bridesmaid dress? |
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| She is self centered. Sell the dress and keep far away from her. She is the type of person who has to be the center of attention. I am a firm believer in "if it's too hard to be your friend, then I'm out". You may want to take that into consideration. The world revolves around her alone...can you handle that?? I couldn't!! |
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MagickKitty
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 12:49 am Post subject: My previous question about my bridesmaid dress? |
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| tell your 'friend' that your family comes first. a sick child definitely comes before her wedding. if she's too self-centered to understand that, tell her to find another place for her reception & cancel the plans for the bachelorette party. |
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johnw
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 3:21 am Post subject: My previous question about my bridesmaid dress? |
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| In my part- time job I have had the opportunity to work with many brides. A lot of them are so blindly focused on having a perfect wedding that they are completly oblivious to the needs, wishes, desires, finances, personal situatiuons, health, and feelings of their family and friends. You were correct that she is suffering from the Bridezilla Syndrome. After the wedding is over, she will be less stressed out and will likely return to normal. In the meantime do what you have to do. |
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speranzacampbell
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 5:52 am Post subject: My previous question about my bridesmaid dress? |
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| Tell her that if she wants you there so badly she should pay for travel & lodging for you & your son. Cancel the bachelorette party. It isn't appropriate now anyway. Sell the dress to recap the money.Make sure she pays you for the reception.Just because it is in your backyard doesn't mean you have to pay for it. In fact have the florist & food service start calling her about it. |
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bainaashanti
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 8:24 am Post subject: My previous question about my bridesmaid dress? |
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| I'm assuming that you've explained to her that you need to take care of your sick child. I would say that getting her to not be angry with you is not the problem, but getting you to be angry with her for being such a sucky friend! Yes, she is getting married, but you are dealing with a sick baby, paying for a dress which she has made unusable and paying for a party you can't afford which is now irrelevant. All this while having to pay for medical care, I'm assuming that since your son is in and out of the hospital that these visits aren't planned but come because of continuing crises, and you have to do all of this all alone while she's bringing even more chaos and financial strain upon you without any thought as to what it's doing to you. Have I got all of that straight? You need to sit her down and explqain all that is going on with you and how her total lack of concern for you, your child or the chaos she's adding to in your life really hurts you and is making things that much more difficult for you. Perhaps she needs to be reminded that life will continue after her wedding and that she's going to look for her friends and find that her current behavior has driven them away! Did she seriously call you at the HOSPITAL with wedding drama, but not to see how you or the baby were doing and how she could be there to help you or him? This is not a friend, at least she's not being one right now. Nothing excuses that, definitely not a wedding. |
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