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Unconseroor
Joined: 09 Mar 2008
Posts: 3
Location: The Bahamas
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 Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 12:00 pm Post subject: Planning 50th wedding anniversary for parents, would a cockt |
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| I want to have a cocktail party at a hotel or restaurant from 4:30pm to 6pm. It will be passed food and trayed displays, and full bar. This is all my budget will allow, which is around $55 a head. The hotel said the cost would be significantly less if I had a dinner following the party. Would it be a tacky idea to invite the guests to a sponsored dinner at their expense in leau of gifts? It would be optional.I would be paying for the reception already, just an additional after party dinner would be separate, I really need a better solution than cutting corners on the reception, could I put on the invite, dinner available following reception $xx per couple? |
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triandatift
Joined: 12 Mar 2008
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Location: Honduras
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| Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 3:30 pm Post subject: Planning 50th wedding anniversary for parents, would a cockt |
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| I would cut the open bar and have the dinner instead, in the long run it will be cheaper for you instead of an open bar. |
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tricia1232948
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 6:59 pm Post subject: Planning 50th wedding anniversary for parents, would a cockt |
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| Guests should never be expected to pay for their own food or drinks. If you can't afford to feed everyone at that venue, find a different one that is less expensive. |
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WertyNtont
Joined: 28 Mar 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 10:29 pm Post subject: Planning 50th wedding anniversary for parents, would a cockt |
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| Why not look for a cheaper venue?! There are many restaurants and hotels that I am SURE would be able to host the event for much cheaper. I would be completely appalled at being asked to pay for my own meal, when I was invited to a party. If you have brothers or sisters or aunts and uncles, ask them if they can help foot some of the bill. |
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WherestheFence
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
Posts: 5
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| Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 1:58 am Post subject: Planning 50th wedding anniversary for parents, would a cockt |
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| i would have a buffet dinner, with a cash bar ( no-hosted) and no pre- cocktail party before. i dont really like the idea of a bunch of 70 year olds standing around at a cocktail party that is over before it has begun. OLDER PEOPLE NEED TO BE SITTING haha. have your buffet dinner starting at 6pm. people will arrive at about 5;30 and if they want a drink they can get it themselves. you have already put up poster board with pictures of them from their 50 years on easels around the room. at 6pm everyone can be seated and you can open the door and announce your parents and usher your parents in to grand flourish and applause. you can assign yourself the job of doing this. you and your parents sit at the same table and the staff at the hotel will announce that each table can go to buffet. when all are seated and eating you can get up and give a series of toasts. your generation starts and then each grandchild goes in turn, all pre-prepared. if the old best man and maid of honor are there they then give their toasts, you go over this with them ahead of time. in lieu of gifts each person with their response to the party invite is to send you a writen memory of your parents which you bind in a lovely book and present to them after dinner. then, they cut their cake and it is served. everyone will be gone by 9;30 or 10;pm. never ever make a 50th a surprise, older people want to look their best and need time to prepare,,,.,.,.,please think about this idea instead of a fast impersonal cocktail party which will be uncomfortable for older people. good luck! |
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urivyPigeerem
Joined: 02 Nov 2007
Posts: 3
Location: India
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| Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 5:28 am Post subject: Planning 50th wedding anniversary for parents, would a cockt |
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| I don't think it would be a good idea to ask guests to pay for dinner. Try to think what your mother and dad would think if they knew their friends and family were being asked to pay. I totally sympathize with your predicament as I am also planning a 50th wedding anniversary party for my parents this year. We're going to rent a space at a public park and have it catered - it turned out much cheaper that way. But my point is that I wanted something fancier and my husband and I can afford it - but my parents put their foot down because they didn't want us to be putting so much money toward a party for them. It's frustrating, but we were able to compromise. I'm just thinking that if you think of it from their point of view, they would be embarrassed to have people pay to come honor their wedding. I just wanted you to have that perspective. |
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