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blueeyes
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 Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:56 pm Post subject: my 2nd marriage is approaching 10th yr & we only signed pape |
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my 1st marriage only lasted about 3 months, as soon as we married my husband thought that gave him the right to physically and mentally abuse me. we didn't have any children. My 2nd marriage is approaching it's 10th year in about 6 months and i want to start planning as soon as possible. I have 4 children now and I want them included in the renewal and I want my husband to experience a big "wedding" as we only signed the marriage cert. in front of the minister. My husband has never hurt me physically and we do have our arguments but he is the best. When I am sick he will cook for the family(fresh tortillas, hot frybread and homemade biscuits made from scratch) no questions ask and if I need some "alone" time he will take the kids for the day. He also works 50+ hrs a week sometimes more & we work hard to make our marriage work. I need some ideas to go about plannin our renewal. thank you for your time and ideas  |
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Deanri9595
Joined: 29 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 2:49 am Post subject: my 2nd marriage is approaching 10th yr & we only signed pape |
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| Sure, if you want to have a renewal, that would be nice. Sit down as a family and decide what kind of party you would all like. Write down all of the ideas and put something together. |
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wed_planner
Joined: 29 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 5:42 am Post subject: my 2nd marriage is approaching 10th yr & we only signed pape |
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| If you are doing a renewel plan it as if you were planning your wedding. Also, sounds like you have a great husband, cherish him not everyone is so blessed. |
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VictoriaG
Joined: 29 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 8:35 am Post subject: my 2nd marriage is approaching 10th yr & we only signed pape |
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| Congratulations!! What a nice way to celebrate such a milestone. Your budget has a lot to do with how you will throw your renewal. Do you want a big renewal to make up for lack of a big wedding? Are you having the ceremony inside a church or a more natural setting? Find out what your husband wants to do. You can have fun planning together, or if he just wants to show up, just tell him what to wear and have fun with it. This is a very special time in your life, remember to enjoy it. |
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redroze7777412
Joined: 29 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 11:28 am Post subject: my 2nd marriage is approaching 10th yr & we only signed pape |
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| I agree with the answer above. Talk to your husband first. Ask him what he'd like to see happen. Then once you and him have concluded on a few options take it to your children. Ask them how they want to be apart of it. Once you've all settled on a plan, give your children jobs. Make them as much apart of this as you can. You'll really show them what love is all about doing that.A renewal is something I'm looking forward to. Although, you've got 9 years on me. I know my husband and I look forward to the day we can say "I do" again!Good luck! |
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bizzy
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| Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 2:22 pm Post subject: my 2nd marriage is approaching 10th yr & we only signed pape |
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| I think that is a lovely idea. I think it would be really special if you could write your own sort of 'wedding vows' but saying all the sorts of things that you've just written on here. It gives you a chance to say to him, in front of your guests, what a special man he is and how much you appreciate all those little things that he does for you - the cooking, looking after the kids, working long hours for you and the kids, giving you a wonderful family etc etc. |
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KarissaC
Joined: 29 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 5:15 pm Post subject: my 2nd marriage is approaching 10th yr & we only signed pape |
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| That is awesome i am so excited for you and your husband - Congratulations!!!!!!!! You have a reason to celebrate.Well if I were you I would first start putting together a video or slide presentation of your life together to show at the celebration...then i would make a theme around the party, for example if he likes to fish or hunt or sports, decorate accordingly. I would make it a surprise party for him, dedicated to 10 years of love and devotion to his family. Have some people give testimonies about him (he seems like a wonderful man). Then have the kids say something about daddy. If your kids like to do crafts, you could have them put together a scrap book of them and daddy. If you really want to surprise him, you could have a guest visitor show up, perhaps someone unexpected or a childhood friend, or someone he hasn't seen in a while. Hope I helped!! |
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lorileland
Joined: 29 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 8:08 pm Post subject: my 2nd marriage is approaching 10th yr & we only signed pape |
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| My husband and I didn't have a wedding. Because of financial and family issues, planning a wedding was causing more pain than happiness, so we just went to the courthouse one day. So for our 5th anniversary we are going to do a vow renewal. The beautiful thing about a vow renewal is that you're already legally married so there are NO RULES! The two of you could write your own vows or find some online, or just read a poem to each other, you can have a religious leader to bless the vows, or not - it's 100% up to you. I am going to have something very small, just immediate family and a couple of friends and we will hold it in our backyard. I just want to say something along the lines of "Five years ago on this day, I vowed to love you through good times and bad, for the rest of my life and beyond. And we've been through good times and bad, and our love has grown. Today, in front of all our loved ones, I am here to say that I stand by that vow even more, and I love you even more than I did five years ago." His Grandma is a riligious official so I'll ask her to say something to bless our marriage and our future. For you - I'd say follow your heart! You can include your kids in lots of creative ways. If you have a young girl, she could be a flower girl or walk her dad down the aisle. If you have a son, he could walk you down the aisle. And you can mention their importance to you in your vows "you gave me 4 beautiful children". There are no rules about the ceromony. The only vow renewal rules I've ever heard is that there are no "bridal" showers and don't expect any gifts. Other than that - just make the day all about celebrating how far you've come, and where you're going! Congratulations and I hope you have a beautiful day. |
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