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DrAnders_pHd
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| I love all the answers on here..... "talk to your parents and tell them you are not having sex ( even though you are), tell them that you are mature (even though it is clear you are not even close to mature), and tell them you are responsible (even though it really sounds like you have no idea what responsibility is)".If you are going to have a heart to heart with your parents and you are as grown up as you think you are, then be honest. And if you are not ready to put all your cards on the table, then forget the heart to heart because lying to them is not good advice. As far as how you should handle this..... if your parents grounded you, then do what they say. You may not agree with your parents, but they are still your parents and you have to follow their rules until you are living somewhere else.And by the way, a 20 year old with a 17 year old half undressed..... be glad your parents are not trying to push for statutory rape charges or child pornography. |
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Gina
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| Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 2:38 pm Post subject: my parents saw a "sexy" picture of my boyfriend and i, and n |
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| i feel bad for you that this private pic got out. it actually sounds like a sexy pic like something you get blown up and put on your bedroom wall. deck the halls has picks like that nothing is showing but it's considered art. you are 17 so the pic might actually be illegal bc you are topless with a 20 year old boy. That might be their concern. I'm 21 so when me or you look at that pic we think what a hot pic of that couple they look so in love. so take a second to think of their perspective. When they saw that pic all they thought was omg our 17 yr old daughter is dating this 20 year old guy, she is in a pic with him where you can see some of her b***, it ended up on her 15 yr old cousins myspace, the whole world can see our daughters b***. omg they must think we are terrible parents. Maybe you should talk to them and tell them that you see their side and that you won't do that anymore because you realize that is is disrespecting yourself and them. They will most likely unground you and they will think that you are being really mature about the situation because you were able to rationalize and be mature about this on your own. Don't ask them to unground you but ask for a shorter sentence they might decide to unground you completely. if you act like you shouldn't be punshied they won't budge, but try to work out a shorter time. Good luck girl, bc i know a month will fee like forever until it's over!!! No more pics keep your beauty to your private time with your man, myspace doesn't deserve to see you. |
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Chris
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| Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 3:25 pm Post subject: my parents saw a "sexy" picture of my boyfriend and i, and n |
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| Well, first of all, to be fair, I think I need to see ALL of these pics before I can give sound advice. Email me the link. ;)But in general, the parents are actually being smart. They know how HARD life becomes and how you lose all of your childhood and youthful freedoms the second you get knocked up and have a baby. They don't want to be grandparents yet, they don't want you to be a mommy at 17, and they know at your ages, you, the new baby (what if ya got twins!) AND this boyfriend will probably all be living in their house. You can't even get into a bar yet. |
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jugajigus
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| Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 4:13 pm Post subject: my parents saw a "sexy" picture of my boyfriend and i, and n |
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| u gotta try to win their trust again....tell them u know it was wrong of u.have ur bf talk to them. |
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gilbert_koa08
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| Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 5:00 pm Post subject: my parents saw a "sexy" picture of my boyfriend and i, and n |
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| LOL You were topless at 17 years old, being photographed by a 15 year old while simulating a sexual encounter with a 20 year old guy.... and you do not see the problem with that or understand why your parents are alarmed???? And to top it off, people are surprised that you "still get grounded"? So what would be the other alternative for punishment of a 17 year old? A spanking? LOL |
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BRIANM
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| Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 5:48 pm Post subject: my parents saw a "sexy" picture of my boyfriend and i, and n |
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| Poor thing. That's one of the problems with MySpace - that stuff is quite public.However, how did this other person get the picture if it wasn't already in your cousin's MySpace? That isn't too likely. Likely is your cousin posted it.I can understand your parent's concerns - now is the time to sit down with them and talk to them about your boyfriend in a mature manner. Time to reassure them that you are NOT having sex, and that if you did, you would be responsible about it. And that he is no more to blame than you are- so it is useless to hate him - all that will do is drive a wedge in between you and them.Trust is an interesting issue. There is a thing called "self fulfilling prophecy" - as in you tell a person what their behavior is (especially if it is a false perception) for long enough, eventually they WILL live up to that expectation - and you caused it to happen. If your parents harp about the sex deal long enough, eventually you may say " well, they are accusing me and punishing me for it already, might as well do it."In the meantime, take the grounding without whining or complaining, realize that you did make a mistake, and that your cousin made a mistake and move on with the month.And you're welcome to show them this answer - I'm speaking a parent of teenagers(One with the same boyfriend for 5 years now and in college), and as a high school teacher. |
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FirstMen
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| Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 6:36 pm Post subject: my parents saw a "sexy" picture of my boyfriend and i, and n |
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| I don't think this is a case of Parents not realising their little girl growing up. If they knew your boyfriend is 20 Unless you come from a deeply religious family they would expect it. What they wouldn't expect is for you to be advertising the fact to the rest of the world. Again its not just the contests of the Pic, which sound like they were tastefully done. its more about the underling message. which is basically. "This is just a taste of what's to come". So in their eyes you could be on your way to making your own "Porn" movie.Your parents don't hate your boyfriend on the contrary i think the months grounding is a expression that they expected HIM to take better care of you. What you need to decide is:-1. Are you sorry for taking the pics ? 2. Are you sorry that you got busted?If its the first one i suggest you and your boyfriend meet with your parents apologise and re assure them it was just a "one off"If its the other than really your parents know that they haven't got the time and energy to enforce the grounding for a month. So leave it a week and then just be very discrete for the rest of the time and it will blow over. |
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earnepPeque
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| Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 7:23 pm Post subject: my parents saw a "sexy" picture of my boyfriend and i, and n |
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| just stay grounded |
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