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Bon
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 Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 4:29 pm Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| My boyfriend, been talking to is a new Christian. I'm basically helping him a long the way when he needs answers. Yesterday he started talking about sex how he lost his virginity at 19 [He's 25 now] and bits and pieces about his -sex life. It's just its uncomfortable talking about it. I don't know why. He knows I'm going to wait till marriage, I've already went 19 1/2 years without sex I can hold my self for awhile until i get married. He told me, he'd wait for me..But how do i tell him that having sex before marriage is wrong? Its in the Bible without sounding like I'm condemning him?BTW. He was trying to be a Christian for awhile, but nobody he knew was a Christian until.. later on him and I became friends. |
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JJ8903
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| Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 6:01 pm Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| Sounds like he is doing what you want, to get what he wants. Sorry this is how I perceive this question. If he is only after sex, reading him scripture will be like showing a vampire the sun |
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MrChristian
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| Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 7:34 pm Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| Show him proverbs 1-5 chapters. It deals with exactly what your looking for. (The marriage bed) |
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allynh
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| Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 9:07 pm Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| It's something he has to be convicted of in his own time. If you bring it up now you could push him away from the truth by sounding judgmental. IF he asks you can always tell him why you chose to wait without condemning him. |
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CitizenEvolutionary
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| Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 10:39 pm Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| Why does it matter? What do you expect him to do once you've conveyed that message? It's not like he can go back and not have sex before marriage. There is no way to tell him that without sounding like you are condemning him because that's exactly what you would be doing.I'd leave it alone. |
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DusttoDust
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 12:12 am Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| why are you destroying yourselves |
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keoh6
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 1:44 am Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| If he has accepted Christianity he already knows it. He is going to talk about things he has done in the past, it is just part of being in a relationship. He already knows the things he has done wrong, he just needs to be assured that he is forgiven and needs to move on. If he approaches you about having sex, then that is the time you remind him of your beliefs. Remember, in God's eyes he has a clean slate.If he seems to be bragging about it, then be subtle and read some verses together as a couples study. |
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kclightman
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 3:17 am Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| Ask yourself what you hope to accomplish by saying this.He knows you're going to wait until marriage and is fine with that. But he can't change what he's done. Why do you feel compelled to say more? What do you think will change if you say so? Do you honestly think he doesn't know you think this? Most non-Christians know that Christians hold this opinion. Why else would you wait?If you want him to stop talking about sex, just say so. I think you are wary of sounding like you are condemning him because that is exactly what you would be doing.He's converted, so stop trying to chide him about his past. If you continue to hold it against him, there'll be no future for you. |
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Franco
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 4:49 am Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| If he told you he will wait, what is the problem? Or do you want him to try and change your mind, so you can tell him no? |
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DaMick
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 6:22 am Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| Just tell his a**. Save yourself the headache in the long run. Saves you from1) Possibility he might call you a "prick-tease" for "Leading him on." 2) He might be trying to bag you inoocently (You get my drift?) Hey, YOU said he's telling you "stories" of "what he can do in the sack."(Read between the lines) Just be honest... |
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BrendaC
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 7:54 am Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| Hahahahahaaaa!!!! |
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profoundtomato
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 9:27 am Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| I agree with JJ.Also, don't take this the wrong way, but it's quite insane to ask a 25-year-old guy to not have sex |
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Tammie
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 11:00 am Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| First of all you are one amazing girl.I'm happy to hear your boyfriend has taken God's word seriously.It's only normal for you to feel uncomfortable but I suggest you not to linger in his past,since he was not a Christian then and don't know any better.Just move on with life and the new him.Yes the bible does state clearly not to have sex until after marriage.Go through those passages with him and most of all give him time.Understanding God's word is sometimes as difficult as understanding algebra,sometimes even harder.you can get help from your church's youth pastor or any elder who's open about discussing this. |
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H
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 12:32 pm Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| Just tell him like that.It's wrong.Against your religion and you don't want to hear about it any more.If he feels like your condemning him tell him that's not your job it's Gods.If cant respect you any more than that send him on down the road any ask God to bring a true Christian into your life.there are a lot of fish in the sea you don't have to settle for a TOAD. |
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daisymae
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 2:05 pm Post subject: Boyfriend been talking to, new Christian? |
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| If he is a newborn Christian, he has much to wrestle with as coming out of the world is tough. Most newborns are excited about God and their minds are usually on learning more about him.Sounds like he just wants to open up to you. You don't say that he is pressuring you. Perhaps you can have a bible study and open discussion on sex and what God says about it for his followers. This will help his understanding. You will not be condemning him (no one should condemn anyone), but showing him why you feel the way you do and why waiting is important to you in your walk with Christ. |
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