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Gradsscar
Joined: 06 Apr 2008
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Location: Guyana
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 Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 7:37 am Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| My rsvp date is april 24, everyone expect 2 rsvped that they were coming.. well today i started getting calls saying people wouldnt be able to make it... gas prices are going up to $4 here the week of my wedding...and no kne seems to be able to afford it anymore... i feel like Crap. i am tempted to just cancel the wedding... my guest list of 150.. went to about 50 in one week.... does any one else feel like this year is a bad year for a wedding,with the economey being so crappy? would you or wouldnt you postpone the wedding untill a later date... We really want all our family and friends there :)my wedding is may 24theverything is already done..and the room is really just to big for only 50 people...yes they are all close family and friends.. we didnt invite anyone that we hardly knew... and yes they said because gas prices... it was on the news last week that they were going to go up to $4 memorial day weekend... same weekend as my wedding... thats when we started getting calls..we didnt relize it was memorial day weekend untill we were to far into planningthanks eliz.. thats a great idea.. i will talk to our parents about it.. i would much rather my family there then a gift |
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jjudijo
Joined: 03 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 9:11 am Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| First things first, call your vendors that charge by the number of guests and update your guest list. And pushing the wedding date back might not help with the way the economy is going. Have your wedding, and enjoy your day. The people who really want to be there will find a way to be there. End of story. |
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Hasgasach
Joined: 05 Jun 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 10:45 am Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| Wow, that is really unfortunate. While I know gas has people in a pinch, this is the most important day of your life. I agree, the people who matter will be there. It's unfair of people to RSVP and then change their minds, if you ask me. My wedding is in August and who knows what gas will be like by then. But I know those I love will make it work. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything turns out well for you. |
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IrisR6059
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 12:19 pm Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| My wedding is this Saturday and even though it is a small wedding my families are flying to be at my wedding. There were no one that said that they couldn't make it due to gas prices or the economy. But I am sure some couldn't come because its a little to far from where they are. Really sorry to hear that you are in this situation. If your numbers went down so fast like that I don't know what you should do either. Having a 50 guest wedding would still be nice and elegant and more intimate. So if so far you know that 50 guests are coming that would still be a really nice wedding. And you would have more to spend on decor. You don't have to have a big wedding for it to be a nice wedding. Our wedding is about 60 guests. |
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jade
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 1:53 pm Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| I wouldn't postpone MY day to accomodate everyone else. (personally). I understand that you guys really want both your families to be there, however this is a day that you and your loved one pre-planned. The wedding is not half as important as the marriage. So you guys should continue to go through with it and offer to send pictures to those who didn't/couldn't make it. Or offer to share the pictures with them whenever you guys do get a chance to see them again. But you guys life have to go on. Never postpone an event this important to you and he the most, based around other people. And if they expect you guys to, then they are being really selfish !!! Good luck & congrats |
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imgvis
Joined: 03 Apr 2008
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Location: Ðîññèÿ
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 3:27 pm Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| Honestly, I would be happy the wedding budget was coming down by so many people declining and I would also know who the family members are that really care about me enough to make the effort. I would be a bit bummed that so many of my "loving family & friends" are such a bunch of tightwad cheapskates to use this as an excuse for not coming.Its one thing if someone just lost a job and they're embarrased they can't afford it. But 100 people makes me think twice about that possibility.Gas prices just hit $3.50 in my area this past week. I'm fully expecting $4 by Memorial Day. That would NEVER EVER stop me from attending a loved one's wedding.It might force me to reduce how much went into the card, but it wouldn't keep me from the wedding. |
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Hottie
Joined: 16 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 5:01 pm Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| Is your wedding about you committing to the one you love or having everyone see it? Answer that question then proceed. |
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Imjustblank
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 6:35 pm Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| love if I were you I would feel like crap too but hey it's not there big day it's YOURS AND YOUR FIANCES.Don't let anyone rain on your big day. If they really wanted to come they would petrol prices or not. Tell them to get stuffed. You have just learnt who your REAL friends are.Have your special day and be happy with those who are happy with you.go on, off your butt, smile and continue with your arrangements and have a great day.oxox |
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hulipopol
Joined: 19 Feb 2008
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Location: Cuba
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 8:09 pm Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| two thirds of your guests have blown off your wedding? people have actually said they cant afford a bit of gas in the car to attend your wedding? i have never heard of that. are these close friends? family? wow. there is nothing wrong with your wedding date, moving the wedding is not going to make any more people come to your wedding. i once went through a harrowing, long and annoying journey to attend a wedding on a holiday weekend. the brides mother told me that she knew that those who cared enuf to make that wedding were their true friends. that is the attitude you have to take. be thankful for those who are there for you and will come anyway. focus on that and you will have a great day. |
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JoseyLove
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 9:43 pm Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| That's a tough call, but I wouldn't have planned a wedding on Memorial weekend anyway. People usually have traditional plans for the "first" weekend of summer regardless of gas prices.I can't imagine 100 people realizing your wedding date being Memorial weekend all at the same time. I also can't imagine gas price rumors being a factor either. It's not like they didn't have time to financially plan. Plus, The extra gas money could come out of your wedding present if need be, ya know?I would find out what really is going on. 100 people canceling is weird. |
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iwishthatilovedmyself
Joined: 18 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 11:16 pm Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| I would have your mothers start contacting the relatives who've said they can't go due to gas prices and let them know that you and your FH would be disappointed if they cannot attend, and that they would prefer to have their company over a gift they might give. Then they can use the money they might have spent on a present and spend it on fuel to get there. It would not be appropriate for you to make such a phone call, but coming from your parents it would be fine. |
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journalfortkj
Joined: 13 Feb 2008
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Location: jourhh
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| Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 12:50 am Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| Wow! 100 people have cancelled because of the impending high gas prices? How far are they driving? Are all 100 of these people driving 4-5 hours to come to your wedding? I can't believe that family and friends would cancel on you like that, but, unfortunately, it seems as though they have. You cannot cancel your vendors at this date (I don't believe) unless you want to lose all of your deposits. I do like the other poster's idea of calling those who have cancelled to say that you just want their presence. So, having them spend money on gas will be their gift to you.If these people are only driving 1-2 hours (or less), then I would have to say, I would be more angry and upset. If they are all driving a substantial distance, then there is nothing you can do about it.Seems funny that they would all bail on you in one week. So sorry to hear that. |
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jgf58227806
Joined: 15 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 2:24 am Post subject: Bad time of year for a wedding? |
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| my best friend's wedding is the same weekend. i am MOH, so dress, shoes, shower, bachelorette party, gifts, out of town travel, etc. i am into this deep. i am not rich--i just had a baby and am on leave, no less. there is NO WAY i'd miss her wedding. you just don't do that to people you love. you find a way. on the plus side, at least they called to say they won't be coming instead of just not showing up. i wouldn't postpone. |
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