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Ipshwitz7243
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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 Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 9:24 pm Post subject: Would you give her a second chance? |
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| When I was in 11th grade, my best friend of 7 years made a new best friend and started ditching me. They used to hang out and do fun stuff w/o me. The two of them and their other friends all drove together to the Gap's hiring fair and got jobs together, but didn't include me. I had a heart-to-heart talk w/her back then about how my feelings were hurt, but she acted like she didn't know what I was talking about. For the next 6 - 7 years, she acted like she wasn't interested in being my friend. She was cordial when I saw her, but she barely talked to me, I found out stuff about her life second hand. I also was one of the last people to find out she was pregnant and moving. Now, when she finds out she isn't going to be a bridesmaid in my wedding, she wants to work out all our issues. |
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heshoots
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 1:10 am Post subject: Would you give her a second chance? |
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| Definitely not. She's been avoiding you for 6-7 years?! Come on, that's completely ridiculous. No one with the right morals throws away her best friend just like that. She doesn't deserve a second chance. Why should you include her if she hasn't included you in anything of her life |
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hatetrashmail
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 4:55 am Post subject: Would you give her a second chance? |
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| I think Boom's right. I mean, c'mon, you're not a stupid girl -- I've read your other questions and answers and know that you have a good head on your shoulders. For the sake of your frienship, I would at the very least listen to what she has to say and then YOU have to decide what you want. She has broken your trust. I wouldn't make it easy as pie for her to gain it back. I would deal with her the way you would with a pet snake -- you can love her, but you need to be aware of her fangs and the fact that they could come out at any moment. |
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Gwendlyn702
Joined: 15 May 2007
Posts: 13
Location: Las Vegas
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| Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 8:41 am Post subject: Would you give her a second chance? |
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| Tell her you are way over the drama from when you were young. You have different priorities in life now and drudging up the past is pointless. |
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JordanD
Joined: 26 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 12:26 pm Post subject: Would you give her a second chance? |
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| Don't include her . The way she treated you now she suddenly want to "work" things out . She just doesnt wan tto be left out . So leave her out let her feel what it was like when she did the same thing to you . Not telling you she was preg not telling you she was moving . She doesnt deserve to be the bridesmaid at your wedding . I mean have you ever think that if you let her then maybe later when you guys "work" out the issues as she said so she would just turn back to being her old self again ? Leaving you once again in the dust . |
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isarcasm
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 4:11 pm Post subject: Would you give her a second chance? |
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| I may consider giving her a second chance BUT I wouldn't let her be a bridesmaid in my wedding. A bridesmaid should be a friend that you are close to and who has been supportive. She does not fit either of those two criteria. There hasn't been enough time for the two of you to repair your broken friendship. She ignored your hurt feelings for years and now she all of a sudden wants to pretend like you two have been best friends? How convenient for her. I believe in forgiveness but that doesn't mean you have to forget what she did to you. Even IF you two work out what happened in the past, she doesn't deserve to be in your bridal party. |
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