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JenS
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 Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 3:40 am Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| Well I don't mean to offend but he came out right after I broke up with him. We where supposed to get married and I called it of 1 month before our wedding it's been 5 years, even though he is happily living with the guy of his dreams his mother still balms me and says she will never forgive me, and even though I have nothing against gays I'm starting to feel bad about it, so I guess my Question should be can you turn people gay by hurting them in a straight relationship? |
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gopus_liini
Joined: 30 Apr 2007
Posts: 9
Location: New Zeland
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 5:23 am Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| Nawl He had Gay in him from the start. I bet he didnt like it when you touched him. |
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Jasmine8088143
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 7:05 am Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| First of all, you can't turn someone Gay, second of all his Mom needs to have a sit down with her son and stop blaming you. She also owes you an apology for being such a sh*t to you. You are good person and you have done nothing wrong . |
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JonnillK
Joined: 11 Jul 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 8:47 am Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| u cant turn gay your born it - even ask anyone |
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jimmyd
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 10:30 am Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| Most likely not. It is something that was there all the time. I am gay and I have a relationship with a bi man. Sometimes they trust more men than women because they have been hurt by women, at least my friend has. Don't blame yourself though. Your ex was a bi all time long. |
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JennK
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 12:12 pm Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| You poor girl....I doubt you had anything to do w/it whatsoever. I will tell you one thing though. His mom is evil. If a person isn't born that way, then I would guess that their upbringing, or environment helped lead them down this path. She would have a much greater chance of carrying any blame if there is going to be a finger pointed anywhere. |
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Icormurrouhf1er
Joined: 24 Mar 2008
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Location: Japan
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 1:55 pm Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| I'm guessing he's been gay all along and may have just been with you to fulfill his mother's wishes or something along the lines of that. A person cannot be "turned gay" by some one else or anything else. I have a friend who only dates women because his mother and father cannot stand the thought of a gay son and that may have been what you ex was doing but now no longer wants to live a lie. Either way it had nothing to do with you or anything you did or din not do to him so please do not beat yourself up sweetie. |
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IamMARE6163
Joined: 19 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 3:37 pm Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| People don't turn gay. It was probably his mother scaring him into acting straight all these years.He could also be bi. He has fallen in love with someone else just as you will or already have, it's just this time it happens to be a male. There's so much more to a relationship than sex.I'm sure his mother is just going through some acceptance issues and looking for someone or something to blame. |
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JoyceD
Joined: 22 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 5:20 pm Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| he could of been bisexual when you two were dating then when you dumped him he thought to himself, i am only going to date guys now cause girls suck.thats what most bisexual girls do when a guy hurts them. |
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Idiontout
Joined: 10 Feb 2008
Posts: 28
Location: Yugoslavia
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 7:02 pm Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| No, you did nothing wrong. I am sure he was always gay. You can aske him if you want, dont worry about his mother who has no clue about homosexuality. But you can ask you ex to talk his mom about it if you want your relationship with her get better.Take care. |
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Hovonokscown
Joined: 13 Jan 2008
Posts: 4
Location: DO
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 8:45 pm Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| It is not possible to turn someone gay.It is, however, possible to make them realize it... |
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ImmusyUnush
Joined: 10 Feb 2008
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Location: France
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 10:27 pm Post subject: Did I turn My Ex Gay? |
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| A few days ago a girl posted a question about her situation... She had been married to a guy who came out as gay while they were still married... I'm copying here part of my reply, hoping that it may help you in some way. She was also worried about the way her ex felt when they made love - She thought that it must have been unpleasant for him to have sex with a woman:"I'm gay and I've known it since I was a child... I grew up listening to people, society, and specially church (I used to be Roman Catholic) how bad and sinful being gay was and that the only "normal" option was having a straight life.For that reason I tried to have a "normal life". I lied to myself: I was sure that if I had the right woman with me and I tried hard, I was going to get it, so I had girlfriends, one of them I really really loved (and is still my best friend). Back then I had sex with some of my girlfriends (and enjoyed it - it wasn't necessary for me to think they were men). The thing is that it just didn't work. I worked my *** off trying to make them happy... but I wasn't happy and, of course, that ruined the relationship, I felt suffocated and frustrated. It wasn't enough for me because even when I tried not to think about men in a sexual or romantic way... I did, it just happened. And sometimes I cheated on my girlfriend with other guys. This of course made me feel like scum.So, at some point I realized it was never going to work... I could have gotten married, but I didn't. Sooner or later it was going to end bad. Not all of us have the same timing... Luckily for me I realized truth before marrying. So that's my story. And NO, it was NOT a nightmare to make love to a woman!!!"In a nutshell: No, you didn't turn you ex gay. I think that you were lucky he realized his truth before getting married to you. Now, about your ex's mother, I just can say good for you to have escaped from getting legally related to such a narrow minded (that's the softest expression I found) lady. |
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