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JordanD6749
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 Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 12:01 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| I started planning our wedding one year and 2 months before the big day this Aug 16!, my maid of honor and bridesmaids for a total of 4, are very good friends from years and 3 girlfriends, planned to have a trip to Vegas this May as my big bachelorette party. We had 7months to save$ and even had a budget plan for the trip. Well this Feb, when we were ready to purchase the tickets and hotel for Vegas; only my maid of honor actually purchase tickets, she has been awesome about it too and my 3 girlsfrieds too, 1 of my bridesmaid told us back in Jun couldn't go, which was fine, but then 2 of my bridesmaids decided to tell us this March when all was planned that they were not going because they didn't have $. I was/am sad, but didn make a big deal about it. but now when from a budget of $250 went to a budget of $550 I am so mad!!! should I tell them that? should I tell them how disappointed I am at the 2 of them for waiting so long to tell us? I do love them but still mad at them..It's amazing how negative can some of you be. My vegas trip, a trip that was my friends idea and I though was awesome, is happening and 4 girls are going with me, It will be lot's of fun, sad my 2 bridesmaid can make it, . I decided not to even mentioned it to them. Even though we are all professionals with good salaries, I know we all have our reasons to doing things, I did tell them we will miss them.I strongly believe that for that wedding day, to celebrate the finding of our real love, from beginning to end, is about the couple, mostly the bride and that no matter what, is all about our happiness.thank you for the good wishes |
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ghetto_princess283
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 12:55 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| um NO. your asking them to take a trip to vegas, that's not a regular night out... that's a big deal... maybe a year ago they didn't realize how much they'd have to spend on a dress, shower, gifts, hair, shoes, etc. for your big day along with their own lives. a lot changes in a year and when they really got down to planning they may not have really had the money. your maid of honor and yourself should of gotten in touch again before buying tickets to make sure all was still on track. you can say you wish you knew sooner, but to be mad at them for not going i dont' think is fair. |
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jess
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 1:48 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| I understand that you are mad but money situations change for people everyday. I would let it be now because regardless of the situation they're not going and theres nothing you can do or say to change that. |
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jessicab
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 2:42 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| Don't be mad at them because they can't afford to go. Things are very costly these days and maybe something came up for them. Get over it and carry on with your wedding plans. Be happy. |
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Hoogmatet
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 3:36 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| Honestly, I'd blow it off and go to Vegas and have a great time. It's tough when you bring everyones financial situation into it. Especially when it comes to traveling, which is more expensive than most things we pay for regularly. They are probably just trying to be responsible rather than blowing money on a party. It's more important that they are there on your wedding day. Try not to be mad at them. Have a great time in Vegas and congratulations on the wedding! |
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hotelmajor
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 4:29 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| I think it is you that is being unfair honey.You cannot decide to do a bachelorette party where someone has to pay for the airline and hotel tickets for however long you will be there and then get upset when they don't have the money. Had you asked ME 7 months ago, I would have said sure. But just last week I had to replace my AC unit so I would have had to bail. s*** happens and its much harder to save than most people realize.I think you should have considered the financial responsibilities of everyone else before choosing such an expensive place to go (airline, hotel, CLOTHES, ALCOHOL, GIFTS). |
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J
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 5:23 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| They should not have agreed to go if they knew they wouldn't be able to save the money, but being a bridesmaid multiple times, it is an expensive job. I don't blame them for not wanting to go and don't doubt that money is a problem. You can express how disappointed you are, but you'll probably just make them angry.If you haven't already gotten the tickets and you can cancel things, I would just do something closer to your home so everyone can participate. |
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googue]
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 6:17 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| This is the #1 reason I don't like the mini-vacation bachelor or bachelorette parties - - the cost is huge and if one person or more backs out the costs go up for everyone else.If I were you, I'd be quiet. I totally understand your point that they could have told you before you & your MOH bought tickets so you could have opted out as well due to the $300 increase in your own costs now. |
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Jaylynn
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 7:10 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| I understand your mad and you should be they've had long enough to save. Yes tell them your disappointed and ask thme if they can borrow money for the trip because it means so much to you, it will be one of the lasts times you'll be able to have fun with them for months. I'm sure if you tell them you feel angry AND sad they will try as hard as they can to find that money. |
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graemeb
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 8:04 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| the two of you will have a better time anyway. two gals have a much better chance of getting into places and an easier time getting around than a group. tao is worth seeing even if you dont get in, and, try the new spa at ceasars, especially the arctic cold room. |
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GlamMan
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 8:58 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| You have no right to be mad at them! What a Bridezilla!!!If I were in your bridal party, I wouldn't have even agreed to go to Vegas for a bachlorette party. It's such a waste! Those poor girls probably had something come up, and had to change plans. It happens. Vegas is a huge expense!!! You know it wouldn't cost them $250, it would be closer to $1000 if not more - by the time you add in food and drinks... entertainment, casino money... AND that's if you don't have to travel to get there. |
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Hilllbilly_gal
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 9:51 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| uuuuuuhhhhhhhh....NO. The bridemaids/maid of honor host the bridal shower. If YOU chose to host yourself, then you get to deal with costs, what to do and WHO DOESN'T WANT TO GO.It's great that you think so highly of yourself to throw yourself such an elaborate party...are you expecting your parents to pay for everything high-end trinket that absolutely have to have at your wedding too?It's all about you, isn't sweetie. |
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Homemade3744
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 10:45 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| You can tell them you are disappointed that they will not be able to join you and you were counting on them. However, we are in a recession right now. So even if they had saved money initially- they may have had to spend it on other things right now. You could all save the money, cancel the trip, and do something fun in your hometown that involves all of them. It's up to you- is it more important to be with everyone for your bachelorette party or is it more important to do something exciting and new? It's your choice, but in today's economy, you can't get too mad at people who don't want to go into debt for a little trip. |
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Jiminy
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 11:38 pm Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| I can understand your hurt and frustration about your bridesmaids not going to Vegas, especially if their not going raises the prices of other tickets.I would do your best to let this go. If they can't afford it, they can't afford it, plain and simple. No good can come out of berating them for not having enough money to go on the trip. Perhaps their financial situation is different now, they didn't realize how much else they had to purchase for the wedding, or any number of reasons. Perhaps the two that just notified you were hoping to be able to make ends meet and found out they could not. They will be with you for the important day, your wedding, even if they can't afford to go to Vegas for your bachelorette party.Have a great time at your party, let this one thing go, and enjoy your wedding. |
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harryb
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| Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 12:32 am Post subject: should I be mad at my bridesmaids to not go to Vegas to Cele |
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| what is it about the weddings that brings out the absolute worst in people?oops, my bad, just wait till the divorce. |
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