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Fair_bride
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 Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:17 am Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| Hi GuysI am getting married soon and I have asked that my bridesmaids pay for their dress.One of them has told me that allthough she can more than afford the dress, that she should not have to pay for it on principal and I should downsize my wedding if I cant afford bridesmaids. I was deeply hurt by this as this is someone that I thought highly enough of to be one of my bridesmaids.I did tell all the girls if they had financial strain with the cost I would gladly help them out, but this is not an issue of money but of principal apparently.I am offended because i would gladly, come hell or high water find the money to pay for anything a close friend would ask of as it is her day, not mine.I was wondering if anyone else has had an experience like this and how it has turned out? |
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aunt_webby
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 6:13 am Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| it depends on how good a friend she is ? if she is a good pal she would gladly pay for her own dress else she is not worth keeping as a friend ?* I have paid for all my own bridesmaid dresses cos i get to keep them after !! |
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MHnurseC
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 7:09 am Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| Bridesmaids are SUPPOSED to pay for their own dresses. If she is going to make a stink, you should downsize a little and write her a$$ out of the wedding. |
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mynxr4114
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 8:05 am Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| It is not only acceptable, it's the norm for bridesmaids to pay for their dresses and has been for decades. Tell the bridesmaid to get off her high horse and either pay for her dress or resign from the wedding party so that you can get someone that really wants to be a part of your special day as a bridesmaid.We paid for our bridesmaids' dresses and our groomsmen's tuxes simply because one of the girls couldn't afford to pay for hers and we had a husband and wife couple in the wedding party and didn't think it was fair that they had to pay for both a dress and a tux. But that was a choice that my DH and I made after discussing it. |
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diamondgirl8216
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 9:00 am Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| I don't know where your friend gets her information from, perhaps she's never been in a wedding before, but the bridesmaids traditionally pay for their DRESS, SHOES, HAIR, AND MAKEUP!!! You might want to let her read an etiquette guide on weddings as she sounds quite rude!! |
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latingirl
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 9:56 am Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| yes my bridesmaid paid for their dresses if theyre good friend s they should be more than aware its your day and u have lots of expeses...of course one of them couldnt afford it so my bridesmaid helped out since they knew i couldnt good luck and congrats |
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chicka2834
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 10:52 am Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| My 3 offered to pay and i was like ok but i thought i was ment to buy them they were like nuh we want to pay i was quite shocked but apperenlty its normal for bridesmaids to pay for there own dresses. Your friend doesnt sound like a very nice person she should be doing everything to help you out for your special day |
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Aurora
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 11:48 am Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| Yes it's normal for the bridesmaid to pay for her own dress etc, or if she is very young, her parents pay.I know - I've been a bridesmaid and had to pay, and my bridesmaids paid for their dresses and so on. |
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coopersmummy
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 12:43 pm Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| Most people ask their bridesmaids to pay for the dresses.Im not as my dresses im getting made for them cost a tonne.. stupid money. But, most people actualy ask their bridesmaids to pay for the dresses!! |
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dbacksfan44
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 1:39 pm Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| Yes. Bridesmaids normally pay their own dresses. When i got married my girls bought there own. When I was the maid of honor in my friends wedding, a few weeks ago, I had to pay my own dress also. |
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ButtercupK
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 2:35 pm Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| Well I thought I had to pay for them?! So although I would much rather them pay (they earn more than me, I am letting them have a major say in what the dress will be and they are all keeping it) - I said I would pay because I thought it was the done thing and I know they paid for their bridesmaids when they got married. Damn. Anyway, I think if they are paying, they should be able to choose a dress they like and would wear again. If you are paying, choose what you want in terms of colour and style. I nearly paid for their shoes etc too but they said they would pay.Muggins. |
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Cher8561
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 3:31 pm Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| My daughter has been in 7 weddings past 3 yearsand is getting married herself this Sat.In all weddings the bridesmaids paid for their own dresses,it just always understood that is they way it is in our area USA,I'd tell your "friend" that you are sorry that she will notbe able to be there, but that you understand!! |
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sden26163303
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 4:26 pm Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| My best friend paid for my dress for her wedding only b/c i was the maid of honor and was flying to the bahamas to be in her wedding, and my flight and hotel was fairly expensive. For all of the other weddings, I have paid for my own dress, weither they were expensive, ugly, etc. So, I think it is very usual for the bridesmaid to pay for her own dress. She should have understood the financial responsibility before she said yes. |
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aine_alainn
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:22 pm Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| If you're in the US it seems to be the custom that the bridesmaids pay for themselves, but here in Ireland (and UK) the bride usually pays for the bridesmaids dresses. Depends on where you live and what the general custom is really, but if here in this part of the world, then yes, I think you should pay. |
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JayD
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 6:18 pm Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? |
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| It may be the norm but I dont see why anyone is expected to pay for your wedding except you. |
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