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Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress?
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Krissy5910



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PostPosted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 7:13 pm    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
you should smack her.....YOU DO NOT PAY FOR IT!!! send her this link http://www.bridesmaid101.com/
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thewickedwitchofmi



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PostPosted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 8:09 pm    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
First, it's typical for bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses. Some brides will pick up the tab just as a courtesy but it's not the norm. I can't believe that she's acting this way about it. You have enough to pay for when you get married without that added expense. Tell bridesmaid-zilla to pay up!
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Sunny



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PostPosted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 9:05 pm    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
yes.. normally bridesmaids pay for their wedding dresses, but sometimes brides go crazy and pick out these way to expensive dresses. for my bridesmaids, i actually let them pick out their own dresses. just told them the color. that way whatever price it was, i didn't have to feel bad because they picked it out, not me.
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sandie



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PostPosted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 10:01 pm    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
my bridesmaids are paying for theirs
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pinkheels01



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PostPosted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 10:56 pm    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
It's your day, your wedding. Can you explain to me why someone should pay for a dress you want them to wear and that they will probably never wear again?? Whoever expects their bridesmaid to pay for their dresses, hair, make-up etc.. is selfish and rude! It has never been a tradition for bridesmaids to pay for their dresses, this is something modern society has developed. Usually its the brides mother or the bride!!!
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bebe



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PostPosted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 11:52 pm    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
she is doing you a favour so you should pay for it. its tacky and selfish to expect her to payfor it..im with her on this one.
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MissE9524



Joined: 16 Apr 2008
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PostPosted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 12:48 am    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
No experience a such, but I agree with her.In all the weddings I have been a bridesmaid we ended up stating a preferred colour and that was that. We used our existing wardrobe where possible.PS In all cases I had to make the expense of flying half way around the world (NZ to Europe) to attend. That was enough of my money.
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Cassie2149



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 1:44 am    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
In the states it is expected the bridesmaids purchase their own dress unless the bride offeres up front. I think your "friend" is being a stinker and you should find someone else to fill her shoes.
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Felicity



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 2:39 am    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
I was once a bridesmaid and I did pay for my dress 'cause of the bride's request and I understand that they are on a tight budget. I consider it as a gift for their wedding day. <*-*>
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ShantiMT5188



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 3:35 am    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
It is customary for the bridesmaid to pay for her own dress, though often the bride will help out in cases of financial difficulty. Kudos to you for steeping up for your girls! For this bridesmaid of yours to refuse to pay for her own dress, when she can afford it, "on principal" is a full-on load! If she doesn't want to pay for her own dress, is she going to refuse to chip in for the bridal shower or bachelorette party "on principal" too?
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m87



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 4:31 am    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
Depends on what the price of the dress you want them to wear costs, if its really expensive then you should contribute to it, if its reasonable then they should as most people buy new outfits for weddings anyway!
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PugMom



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 5:27 am    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
It goes without saying that the bridal party pays for their own attire and all the accouterments. Definitely take her advice and "downsize," her that is. If it is already starting that way with her, just imagine what the rest of the planning will be like. Sidenote: I have been in 7 weddings and have paid for all. My best friend has been in 16 and has paid for everything and has never batted an eye.
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aout



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 6:22 am    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
I was actually starting to freak out wondering how I was going to pay for the whole bridal parties clothes when my Maid of Honor told me that I didn't have to. Although its a nice gesture if your able to, it's not mandatory. By accepting to be in a wedding, people should automatically know that there will be costs incurred on their part.I say, if she's not willing to pay for her dress, then drop her from the wedding party.
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LovingLife



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 7:18 am    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
Bridesmaids are supposed to pay for their dresses- and it is soooo rude that she would even THINK about saying that to you.How good of a friend is she? If someone said that to me- I would tell her she does not have to be in the wedding.Explain to her that all the other bridesmaids knew that they were paying for their dresses- want to know why? Because that is the tradition and has been that way for as long as I know of.You were very nice to tell her you would help her out- but she said herself that she has "more than enough" to pay for the dress- so don't pay for anything for her.I would not have her be in my wedding party- I had a similar situation happen and she ended up not being a bridesmaid because she was far too difficult.We are still best friends- but she knew that she was wrong later on.
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steph5217



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 8:14 am    Post subject: Is it acceptable to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her dress? Reply with quote
As a bride.. we're paying for all our dresses... I think if your asking a friend to take a part in "your" special day.. you should foot the bill.. I mean it's not like she asked or volunteered.. If someone asked me to be their bridesmaid.. I'd expect at least some help with the dress purchase..even if it was half and half.. Smile IF I HAD to pay for it.. than I better get to choose the dress I'm wearing.. seeing I'll probably keep it for other occasions..
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