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JayD
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 Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 10:05 am Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| please read this articlehttp://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4669104.stmis it not therefore just a matter of caution and common sense to wait at least two years after you begin to love someone before you marry?None of us can see the future, and I am not saying new marriages all fail, but I am saying shouldn't people wait till they are older as a caution? just to make sure it really is love and not lust?especially as this 'love chemical' affects your judgement and under its influence you repress a lot of your partner's bad traits.why rush into things?my point is, no matter how much you may think it is love, it might not be.why not just wait?@ truth hurts- people choke and die on the most amazing foods, people crash driving the most exhilirating vehicles, people have heart attacks from too much exitement. There is so much stuff it is dangerous to do, but some things are worth the risk.I think it is kinda funny someone answered about their happy marriage and they haven't had their two year anniversary yet.this doesnt really make a point either way. |
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TRUTHHURTSOOOK7951
Joined: 16 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 12:01 pm Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| Marriage doesn't work if you get married after 2 days or 6 years of dating!!! Take an honest look at all the married couples you know!!! Why don't we stop the lying already!?!?! How many married couples do you know that you can honestly say are still truly "in love"!?!?! Please. If divorce laws were fair the divorce rate would be 95% not 52% which is pretty bad!!! |
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loriloriloriloriv5246
Joined: 16 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 1:56 pm Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| i hate to say this, but the "truth hurts" is partially right. i can only speak for myself, but my hubby & i are still in love, we love each other and are each other's best friends. not every married couple can say that. most married couples can't even say that they like each other...which is sad, but i'm kinda confused what the question is... |
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Cyclist2300
Joined: 16 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 3:51 pm Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| you should never rush into things... esp... marriage.that is why the Catholic church requires that once a couple comes to see the priest to schedule a wedding date..... that date has to be at least six months from the day they come in.....So if they go today to see a priest... wedding can't be set before October 14, 2008. |
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Momof2inLa
Joined: 16 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 5:46 pm Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| i married mine 6 weeks after meeting himits been a up and down love affair as all marriagestime means nothing before.I met my first jerk and married him after 1 and 1/2 yearsit didn't work.time is learning...that's all we have in life..time............ |
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SeanT
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 7:41 pm Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| My wife and I met in 1997 - I was in California, she was in London, England. We talked and emailed and got to know each other over the course of a year, but had only been spent about 35 days together before I asked her to marry me.Neither of us WANTED to get married - we just wanted to be together. Unfortunately, the only way that we could do that was for one of us to relocate and that would involve getting married. So, she decided to move to California.We've been happily married for 10 years and I am very much in love with my wife. We both do things that annoy each other - but those are just part of who we are and we live with them because they are insignificant compared to the really good things about our relationship. |
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lala4710
Joined: 16 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 9:37 pm Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| BEFORE ANYONE GETS MARRIED THEY NEED TO KNOW WHAT THERE GETTING INTO.It does take time to get to know each others likes and dislikes.Do you have the same religion? What about children?What about work schedules? Where are you going to live?So many questions need to be answer before marriage comes.Don't let no one push you into something your not ready for. |
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eekmod
Joined: 16 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 11:32 pm Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| You should wait. If you were really sensible, you wouldn't have sex until after you were married, so you wouldn't let that cloud your judgement about the person's character. I married my husband very soon after we met, and it was rough because we were both immature. But we stuck it out, and I also got lucky by getting a good guy. Others may not be so fortunate. Even so, speaking from experience, it would have been better if we had waited. |
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RebeccaW7257
Joined: 17 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 1:27 am Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| My oldest son married his lovely wife one month after they met. They are an awesome couple, well suited. and loving. They have been married for 4 years as of last month. She is has seizures due to a stroke she had 8 years ago, during one of the seizures this past winter she had another small stroke. We almost lost our beautiful pool of hope and calmness. If they had waited that time would have been wasted. They need every moment together they can get. |
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mamajoey
Joined: 17 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 3:22 am Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| Ive been married 4 years together 8 and still truly wholly faithfully in love with my spouse. it's rare to find a relationship like ours. I hope you all can find someone who can give you real honest love. |
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BB
Joined: 17 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 5:17 am Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| I would have to say it truly depends on the person or people, my husband and I got together in august of 06, and we moved in with each other april of 07, then married in feb of 08. We never fight, though we can be grumpy with each other. But what keeps us together is the fact that we enjoy being with each other. There a million small things that we do for each other that we wouldn't trade for anything. And we havent even gotten to our two year anniversary yet. |
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Doodlestuff4361
Joined: 17 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 7:13 am Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| Depends on you and the honesty in the relationship. I know couples who married within a month of meeting each other and have already celebrated 25th anniversaries. I know two couples who were together more than a decade and divorced within 2 years of marriage. I agree that the cards are usually against you (not knowing anything about the partner), but on the other hand, I knew my ex for 4 years before marriage and that made no difference given that he was a liar in the first place (bigamist). |
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carlaj
Joined: 17 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 9:08 am Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| yes i think that couples should wait a bit to get married at least until they get to know each other a lil bit better, too many couples rush the marriage thing then they end up regretting it, for me i knew my man for like 11yrs and 5yrs we've been married and it was all worth the wait, we love each other now more than ever, if the two really love each other then it won't be a bother to wait til the time is right. |
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oldbeatnik
Joined: 17 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 11:03 am Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| Everyone has their own time table, but I do think that age at marriage is a huge factor in the success of a marriage. We were both 25 yr old when we started dating. We "just knew" by the end of the first date (the date was 28 hrs long - we just didn't want it to end).. It was scary. She proposed to me after 5 weeks and we married 2 days later. We are still happily married after over 41 yrs. Looking back, we know how crazy that was and how lucky we were. We joke that our only regret is that we waited so long to get married. |
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SandyEgo2507
Joined: 17 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 12:58 pm Post subject: Question on getting married soon after meeting partner? |
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| I would venture an opinion that self-awareness and awareness of other people's feelings (empathy) are more important than waiting a specific amount of time. Both people in a relationship need to possess a certain level of emotional wisdom to make the relationship work. But many times, people seem to be largely unaware of what they're feeling, unable to label and identify their own emotions. They can wait two years or ten years - it might not help them at all. How many times you hear someone say - "I'm married, but I think I'm in love with my ex," or something to that extent. You "think"? Naming your emotions and distinguishing between them - this is pretty basic stuff. Some people haven't even mastered that.It is very possible even at the height of a passionate love relationship to acknowledge that this person is not a good fit as a long-term partner. And it is also just as possible to develop a nurturing relationship while bypassing the passion stage altogether. Passion is by far not our only guide - a lot of things come into play when choosing a mate, and I would say that emotional intelligence/awareness is one of the most important of all the factors. |
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