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irishbarfight

Joined: 25 Nov 2007
Posts: 7

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 11:08 am Post subject: We want to get married now.?

We have a ceremony and reception already in the works for October 18th, but not being married is causing conflict for religious reasons. So we want to get married in private at church. We don't plan to invite anyone. We have the pastors wife as a witness. We just don't want to ruin our big wedding in October. But what will the ceremony be like in October? A renewal of vowels? Or just a second ceremony? It will be the same pastor. We don't want to have only a reception so we are having a ceremony, I have my dress and I will wear it then. so what should we wear at the private ceremony? Should we take a weekend honey moon? We do have a 2 week honeymoon planned in October also. ?????Well for those folks that are not Christians and don't know how long it can take to plan and pay for your dream wedding, I will elaborate. It is conflicting with our religion becasue we already are living together. The planning for and paying for the wedding is really why we scheduled in October in the first place. We want to and are going to get married now, I was simply asking for answers to my questions. If an answerer does not understand then they should continue looking for an answer they understand. Thanks to all that answered the questions and did so without being rude.Ummmm, I can control my hormones and why should I hope I don't get pregnant? Some people like kids and want them! What is with these answers today!!!!!!!Ummmm, I can control my hormones and why should I hope I don't get pregnant? Some people like kids and want them! What is with these answers today!!!!!!!

KatieG

Joined: 27 Dec 2007
Posts: 2

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 11:53 am Post subject: We want to get married now.?

you renew VOWS. Vowels are letters A, E, I, O, U and sometimes Y. Unless you sing the alphabet at your wedding it is VOWS!!!And yes, you would be renewing them - - VOWS not vowels.

ignoramousi

Joined: 27 Dec 2007
Posts: 3

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 12:39 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

If not being married is causing problems, just imagine what life will be like once you say I do!!!Edit: In that case, one of you needs to move out. Move back home or move in with a friend-- but stop living in sin!!!

kecySkyclenus

Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 3
Location: Ecuador

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 1:25 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

How the second ceremony will be is up to you and your pastor. Discuss it with him. You can wear whatever you feel comfortable with at the private ceremony. I personally would be a little on the dressy side but not formal. If you want to take a weekend honeymoon after the private ceremony that is completely up to you.

JennyA

Joined: 22 Nov 2007
Posts: 5

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 2:10 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

Just make this your official ceremony. Wait until October to do all the big stuff. Wear a simple white dress. Your second ceremony could be whichever one you prefer.. If people aren't going to know you're married already, ask him to do a regular ceremony. Maybe spend one night celebrating, just a romantic dinner and night in.. But wait till Oct to do everything really. It won't be as much fun if you do everything now.

Jasonstawnos

Joined: 08 Apr 2008
Posts: 3

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 2:56 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

I am not understanding the rush. October is coming quickly.Your second ceremony will not be as special, obviously since you are already married. Why would you take a honeymoon then if you are going to take one now?I just don't understand this situation at all. It seems so odd to rush the whole situation but have the regular wedding in a few months.

KlodNeVamDam

Joined: 16 Jun 2007
Posts: 6
Location: rus

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 3:42 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

There's no reason why you even need to tell anyone that you are having the first ceramony. I would sit down and talk to the pastor about some different vows you could use at the ceramony in October, or just use the same ones. As far as the dress...wear a pretty sundress or something now and save the big dress for when everyone is there.

KasimovuchA

Joined: 29 Jan 2008
Posts: 4
Location: Oustralia

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 4:27 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

Its only 6 months you should have bit more stamina, just hope you don't get pregnant, but if you feel you must, have the private ceremony with the pastor. In October it will be a formal ceremony, vows renewed and reception followed by the planned honeymoon. It's been done before and it worked out fine.

Lainie

Joined: 12 Mar 2008
Posts: 2

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 5:13 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

I did this same thing, sort of. At our first wedding, I actually wore pants, lol...they were white silk, and I wore a real pretty white top. I just wanted to be different. My husband just wore a regular black suit. We had our parents there as witnesses. We did this for religious reasons as well, we are born again Christians...we already had 2 children but didn't feel right living together with our new faith, so we did a rush thing, like you and I stayed at my parents house for a few weeks until we got things together. Then 6 months later, we had a big beautiful wedding. I didn't really consider it a renewal of our vowels, usually at those types of ceremonies, the pastor will say that is what it is. Ours was a regular wedding. That is what we considered it - our wedding. It will be the same as any other wedding you go to, minus all the paperwork! As for the honeymoon I would do something like you said, just a weekend getaway. You need to celebrate, right?!?! Then in October, you will just have another one, only longer! Good luck!!! Smile

itsabouttime

Joined: 22 Nov 2007
Posts: 8

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 5:59 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

A marriage isn't for the community or the people in the family, a marriage is for the two people involved, and if you want to get married before the big ceremony then do it. A Wedding (the big ceremony) is mostly for the two getting married but it's also a way for the family to go... see now it's official. Unless by that day your feelings have changed, then it will still be as real as the private ceremony. You'll have the big day and the family will ohh and ahh. Plus, You'll probably have the ceremony photoed and/or recorded on video and you'll have all the great memories. As a guy I don't personally care if we have a big ceremony or not. But as the partner to my fiance I know she wants to wait because she wants her dream wedding and I'm more then willing to give her that, because I love her.Short answer: You two are the ones who need to be happy, do whatever it is you two need to do to be happy about it.

Jon

Joined: 03 Dec 2007
Posts: 8

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 6:45 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

Most of these things are certainly up to you!If you intend to let everyone know that you are married before October, then the ceremony in October should be regarded as a vow-renewal. If you are not letting everyone know about your marriage now, then I would suggest just having the big ceremony then and act like it's the first time -- the reason to have the big ceremony is to proclaim your love in front of your family and friends, right? =) The church would most likely consider your second ceremony a renewal of vows, but hopefully the pastor would be willing to perform the traditional wedding ceremony despite the fact that you'll already be married.You can wear whatever you want for the private ceremony, although I would recommend waiting to wear the fancy dress until the big ceremony in October - better to save that surprise for the Groom!If you want to take a weekend honeymoon, you certainly can; there are really no set rules for this type of situation. I guess I'm not really sure why you need to get married now for religious reasons, but that's your business...Generally when people have two ceremonies it is a situation where they need to be legally married first, and then in the eyes of the church and friends later. In these situations, they often act as if they are not married until after the second ceremony - so depending on how you want to go about it, that should dictate the way you conduct yourselves!I would personally recommend no fanfare for the first ceremony (if you want to take a weekend getaway with your sweetie, go for it), but do the real honeymoon after you've had a chance to celebrate with everyone in October!

JuirtyNisiort

Joined: 25 Nov 2007
Posts: 10
Location: Qatar

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 7:30 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

We were in a similar predicament. We were gonna get married on 10/18 which is my fiance's b-day. But we decided we needed to get married sooner for other reasons. What we decided was to have the wedding ceremony at the same day but will get married prior. It will be us and the minister and his wife at their house. I'll wear my dress that I bought and the second ceremony will be just a regular ceremony as was planned. We are taking our honeymoon afterwards as planned. It's your day, and about you and him. Do it your way. We figured with this way, it'd be less stressful, which is has been.

jonnymnemonich

Joined: 29 Apr 2008
Posts: 74
Location: USA

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 8:16 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

If you are so religious that you feel as though you have to get married now rather than on your original wedding date...why are you living together? Surely, the day that you stand before God and make your vows to each other is your wedding day? that just makes the October event a party to celebrate your wedding, it has no other significance.

imagine02181159

Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 3

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 9:02 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

Yes, if you get married now, your October wedding will be a vow renewal.What does your pastor say about all this? Why isn't he giving you advice?Why don't you plan on having a small, intimate wedding with your closes family & friends now and throw the big party in October? Won't hurt a thing & most of the guests will be grateful to you that they were spared the actual 'dressing up' part of the wedding.As far as a honeymoon stay overnight someplace fairly local so that it is special.

Incundamn

Joined: 20 Jan 2008
Posts: 22
Location: Dominican Republic

Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 9:47 pm Post subject: We want to get married now.?

Girl, I am going through the same thing right now. I was searching for this topic online when I ran across your question. I mentioned the idea to family and my parents prefer we did to honor God. We are going to have the ceremony next year like we never got married. Its just something that we will keep to ourselves. Wear your dress and save the honey moon just look as this as a dedication for God and the wedding a celebration. God Bless!

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