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faith41jesus
Joined: 29 Apr 2008
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 Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 2:58 am Post subject: Growing up starts at 30? |
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| I've always thought of myself as a kid at heart. I got married at 18 to my husband who was 26. We've been married a wonderful 14yrs & 3 kids. My first child was at 20! Just a few years ago I told my husband "I think I've finally grown up." He joked "Finally!"I was watching Dr. Phil I guess a month or so ago. He was talking about how teenagers brains are different. He said that the brain doesn't fully mature till the late 20's. Well, that's it! lol Is what I thought, I finally have proof from Dr. Phil. Have you found this true for yourself? Those of you who are in your late 20's or early 30's do you feel like you are finally really growing up? I have new ever been a crier. Not even at my own wedding or birth of my kids. This is normal for survivors of child abuse and rape (Sexual abuse as a child & date raped for months as a teen). But, over the past months I've been more likely to cry and more emotional. What do you think?I agree with you, Babymama. I hope I never fully grow up either. That is why I said FINALLY starting to grow up. ; )yes, I'm aware Dr. Phil isn't a Dr. I've heard him mention that on his show a few times. |
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BaByMaMa
Joined: 29 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 6:34 am Post subject: Growing up starts at 30? |
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| Im 21, have had two kids and lost a baby in early pregnancy.I own my own home, dont drink, party or do drugs or smoke. I am completely committed to my kids and my family. I am very responsible, and have taken the role of mother very seriously. But i think im a kid at heart too and hope i always stay that way!!! I dont ever want to FULLY grow up... |
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NAN
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| Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 10:10 am Post subject: Growing up starts at 30? |
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| I felt like I was grown up at 30. It seems like that is when you finally realize you are an adult. My first child was at age 32 and I was definitely ready to settle down. I always been a crier ..... helps clean out the eyes and that is nothing to be ashamed of...showing your emotions. What's really embarassing is when you just tear up a little and your kids (teens) say "are you crying"? Though not in a caring way, but a teasing way. |
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Breatheyouin
Joined: 29 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 1:46 pm Post subject: Growing up starts at 30? |
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| I don't think anyone has to fully grow up like that in order to be considered grown up. However old you are, you can always be a kid at heart. My grandfather is in his late 80s, and has always acted like a kid, but he's still incredibly hard working and responsible.(and by the way, Dr. Phil isn't even a doctor anymore, his license was revoked) |
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cdahl22
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| Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 5:22 pm Post subject: Growing up starts at 30? |
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| personally i think it all depends on what you consider to be grown up. is it responsibility? some people are grown up by the time they are 16 if thats the case. Or does it mean to feel like a completely automated functioning adult as in 100% independent and accountable for? or is it the pressure of feeling like at some point we must feel this in order to feel like we have acheived success which can be seen as acheived through a certain level of maturity (i.e. determination, hard work, drive, impetus, stamina, balance, etc) or attaining a certain amount of wisdom through life lived experiences which translate into a feeling of being grown up enough to have what we expect all grown people to have. security, money, wealth, piece of mind, retirement, etc. |
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Lydia1289
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| Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 8:58 pm Post subject: Growing up starts at 30? |
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| It is really true about the brain - but try get that information into the head of a stubborn teenager!Glad to know you've come around to know yourself better - that's what stages of development are all about. We just tend to hit them at different times in our lives - but for the sake of your continuing wonderful marriage and raising your children sanely, I'm happy to know you are happy.(Also the being more emotional - that comes a little bit more with age, and also getting to that age 35 threshold, where you will be hitting your sexual peak!! - and on to peri-menopause, another wonderful stage in a woman's life.)As you already know, NEVER lose that little kid in you! |
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trixxxy_23
Joined: 30 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 12:34 am Post subject: Growing up starts at 30? |
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| yes i feel the exact same way! i have been with my husband now for 11 years and we had our first child when i was only 19, now we have 2 beautiful boys. I of course am always going to be a kid at heart but this year especially i've felt different towards so many things. It's hard to explain but certain issues that wouldn't of made me blink even a few months ago are actually making an impact on me and my views of certain things seem to be so much more intense than they've ever been. |
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